My brother moved away abroad a few years ago. Earlier this year he had to move. He's been renting a new apartment since February.
He phones our mother maybe approximately once a month to say hello and for a chat. My mother doesn't know how to use a smartphone or technology and she says that he will send you a message with his address to me.
The thing is he's been saying this to her since March.
Every time I see our mother she's nearly requests for his address and I have nothing to give her. Not only that, she's becoming bitter and anxious and nearly wary as if I am withholding information and his address. I work too hard and have far too much crap going on aside from this bullshit.
My brother was a dockhead in the years before he went abroad when he was living at home. This is just more of it. He's been saying this since March to our mother over the phone and she's never giving up on it. At this stage it's clear he doesn't want to give it but he won't say it to her but why does he keep saying he will send it. March, April, May, June, July - many phone calls and he still hasn't sent it.
It's my head that my mother is fucking wrecking about this.
AIBU to be pissed off with my brother. He shouldnt be promising her anything if he can't follow through with it.
As a way to get myself out of this what do you think of this plan - the next time my mother asks me did I hear from him - I will tell her no and then I can tell her that my phone isn't working and I can't get new messages. (She won't know. She doesnt know how to use phones). Then tell her that the next time he's talking to him to ask him to send his address by mail to her.
And keep me out from whatever the fuck he's at.
He was taking Dr*GS in the years before he left and this is just more of him being deliberately cruel bumy promising her his address but through me and then not sending it.
If he was telling me and promising me his address and not following through - I would have fucked him out of it by now.