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To be annoyed they didn't bring a bday present

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zebrasarecool · 13/07/2024 23:32

For dd10's bday she had a sleepover, i took her and 2 friends to a very pricey event and then we had dinner & the sleepover.

One of the friends parents are close with dh, they turned up with no present. Or even card, or even acknowledgement of the lack of one.

Bearing in mind it was only 3 girls all in all it was glaringly obvious.

This tbh is very typical of these parents. They never pay for their child on playdates or ever return the playdate favour.

Dd isnt at all bratty and didnt even say anything about the lack of present, it was just more me feeling sorry for her as she could only invite 2 friends.

Bottom line (imo) is they're only kids, you expect a birthday present, and it's just really bad manners!!

These parents could absolutely afford a present so it feels very much like a choice.

Aibu to be annoyed by this?

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HcbSS · 13/07/2024 23:39

Have to agree OP. It’s not about the money - kids enjoy choosing a present for their friends/teachers and giving them. Even if it’s something worth £5 or some sweets, they love handing it over. Or making a card (covering it in glitter/ paints etc). I do get kids attend a lot of parties but yours sounds special.

Your daughter sounds lovely and mature btw not ‘expecting’ a present.

Ohthatsjustalotofeffort · 13/07/2024 23:39

Yeah that’s not good- if they didn’t have money fair enough, but if they do it feels mean to your daughter and user behaviour. Like your just childcare . I understand that you invited her and she didn’t ask to come but it’s bad form.

I get 10 cards for £1 from card factory and the works so really cheap gifts- like notepad and pen £2. Which I have had to get when I haven’t had any money. Some parties I’ve pulled out or made excuses if I couldn’t afford the present (especially if there’s 3 kids who have a joint party type thing). But if this isn’t the case then it’s not great.