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For thinking baby names are getting silly

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bulbarsaurus · 13/07/2024 23:31

Hi everyone,

Recently read through a thread with OP who wanted to name her child something completely ridiculous.

I have noticed a lot of threads with the same comments of very odd baby names, think things Like Spartacus or Amicablalette. For some reason this now seems to be the norm.

It seems like people are now either trying to make their normal child sound like a WW2 veteran by naming them Albert or Rodney or the lord or lady of the manner with names like Tarquin or Agatha.

Is it just me or do some of these names not look ridiculous. I know a child at a local nursery with working class parents called Horatio.

I can't imagine naming my children anything other than something normal so that when they finally go for a job interview their names appear professional and easy to read/pronounce.

Are there a list of normal Girls/Boys names you can give me! And does anyone else agree with me?!

AIBU?

OP posts:
butterpuffed · 14/07/2024 08:32

Horatio Nelson [Battle of Trafalgar] didn't mind being saddled with that name as one of his daughters was called Horatia !

LadyGrinningSoul8517 · 14/07/2024 08:30

I have a lot of children.
Most have very traditional names, but with my two youngest I decided to be a little more unusual and adventurous.
I love their names, and I couldn't care less if someone wanted to judge me for it.

It says more about you, making a post about it on Mumsnet to have a little bitch about it.

Stick to your 'normal' names if it bothers you so much, and keep your nose out of other people's choices.

Are you an adult or a teenager having a bitch?, because I honestly can't tell.

Edited to add: My more unusual choices aren't anything utterly ridiculous, just more unusual than my very traditional ones.
Nothing double barrelled, or anything like Spartacus, but if I'd wanted to use those I would have.
You can carry on with your nose in the air now, I'm sure your kids are lucky to have such a superior mother.

GoldenDoorHandles · 14/07/2024 08:29

So you don't like old fashioned names, Latin names, unique names or ones that appear to assume a certain status. I'm glad not everyone is like you or it would be pretty limited. As long as I can remember some people have taken the being unique thing a bit too far.

KimberleyClark · 14/07/2024 08:28

ElsaLion · 13/07/2024 23:41

I agree OP, the worst one being that woman who appeared in the tabloids years ago for wanting to name her daughter 'Clamidia' 🤢

Always wanted to write a comic novel about upper class twin sisters Chlamydia and Candida Thrush. Alas I have not the talent.

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 14/07/2024 08:28

berksandbeyond · 14/07/2024 07:56

I agree with you, I met a Peregrine at a baby group in a rough area once, I did raise my eyebrows quite a lot. People need to remember they’re naming a human who will be an adult not just a cutesy baby, and not a pet! I am admittedly quite fussy about baby names.

And what has it being in a "rough" area got to do with it.

FateReset · 14/07/2024 08:28

What's wrong with Horatio? It was the name of a famous sea Captain. In and out of fashion ever since.

Big difference between made up names or names from TV fantasy series and historical or Biblical names. Lots of Christians go for unusual names for religious reasons (Jonah, Noah, Gabrielle etc).

I feel sorry for kids with 'nature' names like Storm, Wolf, Bear, Bracken. I think of these as names for dogs/cats.

Game of Thrones has a lot to answer for with hilarious baby names (Daenerys, Tyrion etc). And the Witcher series/games resulted in some interesting ones (like Yennefer!) 🤣

namesnamez · 14/07/2024 08:28

5128gap · 14/07/2024 08:19

'Traditional names' are often only traditional if you are white British. Many POC choose names that white people from non diverse areas are unfamiliar with. A couple of the names that have been scoffed at as WC people trying to be unique are the same or very close to the names of WOC I work with. Its a good job our HR screening process doesn't involve making judgement based on names. And while people seem to think its acceptable to be classist they might also want to remember that by sneering at names they've never heard of, they may also be being racist.

Could you give some examples?

ThatshallotBaby · 14/07/2024 08:26

Not monarchs and consorts, but still part of the royal family

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 14/07/2024 08:26

5128gap · 14/07/2024 08:19

'Traditional names' are often only traditional if you are white British. Many POC choose names that white people from non diverse areas are unfamiliar with. A couple of the names that have been scoffed at as WC people trying to be unique are the same or very close to the names of WOC I work with. Its a good job our HR screening process doesn't involve making judgement based on names. And while people seem to think its acceptable to be classist they might also want to remember that by sneering at names they've never heard of, they may also be being racist.

100% thanks

"Normal" urgh

ThatshallotBaby · 14/07/2024 08:25

SanMarzano · 13/07/2024 23:44

Are people seriously pretending no one would raise an eyebrow at Horatio? Classic AIBU 🙄 I’m very middle class and I’d find it pretentious as fuck if a friend named their child Horatio!

You’re right though OP people are definitely becoming less conservative with name choices over time, especially for girls. I guess an easy list of very timeless names is past monarchs + consorts?

So Autumn, Savannah, Isla and Lena?

namesnamez · 14/07/2024 08:25

Werweisswohin · 14/07/2024 00:00

Loads of kids with the names on your first list in my area.
@bulbarsaurus if you want 'normal' in the traditional UK sense then maybe stick to biblical names or names which have local origin. I prefer more traditional names myself.

What makes a name traditional? India and Willow have been in use since the late 19th century in England; gaining greater popularity again in the late 20th century.

5128gap · 14/07/2024 08:19

'Traditional names' are often only traditional if you are white British. Many POC choose names that white people from non diverse areas are unfamiliar with. A couple of the names that have been scoffed at as WC people trying to be unique are the same or very close to the names of WOC I work with. Its a good job our HR screening process doesn't involve making judgement based on names. And while people seem to think its acceptable to be classist they might also want to remember that by sneering at names they've never heard of, they may also be being racist.

LGBirmingham · 14/07/2024 08:15

PerkyMintDeer · 14/07/2024 08:02

Otis will most likely have got into peoples heads from the Netflix show, Sex Education. Otis and Maeve (lead characters) shot up the baby name charts shortly after the TV show became popular.

Similar with names like Arya and Khaleesi about ten years ago. And Harper after Harper Seven Beckham was born.

Yes good point about 'Sex Education' I hadn't considered that reference. I was thinking maybe they were naming them after the 90s CBBC presenter 'Otis the Aardvark'.

hattie43 · 14/07/2024 08:14

phoenixrosehere · 14/07/2024 08:06

I can't imagine naming my children anything other than something normal so that when they finally go for a job interview their names appear professional and easy to read/pronounce.

Normal is relative. I wouldn’t want to work with someone with this thought process because they likely will dismiss names they haven’t heard before that are of different cultures, heritages, and ethnic backgrounds.

They also sound like the people who will make excuses for bullying, teaching their children to bully through their own actions because someone dared name their child something they don’t agree with.

Yes, people have their opinions about names and can judge them but what they do with that judgement speaks volumes about them as a person.

I know plenty of successful people with names that aren’t considered normal. No one should have to choose a “normal” name to appease people who can’t get past their own bias and judgements.

Probably the same people who get annoyed when baby girls are given “masculine” names yet one of the reasons for that is because some parents are doing the same thing as them when it comes to jobs, hoping that a “male” name will have recruiters hire them because they will assume it is a man, not a woman.

But you would defend it if your name really is Phoenix Rose ? Other people will see things differently and think conventional names will help a child in life .

Thriving30 · 14/07/2024 08:14

I agree, I have just given birth and when I was looking on the Baby Names section of this site most of the names sounded ridiculous to me, I have given my girl a traditional name and I'm glad I have. But it made me feel like she'd be the odd one out at school

ruffler45 · 14/07/2024 08:11

Some parents dont seem to grasp that the child gets stuck with the name for life, rather than the few moments after they thought it was a good/clever idea.

Sparatcus - cant imagine the bullying/ridicule the child might get subjected to in later life.

pictoosh · 14/07/2024 08:08

@phoenixrosehere
spot on

phoenixrosehere · 14/07/2024 08:06

I can't imagine naming my children anything other than something normal so that when they finally go for a job interview their names appear professional and easy to read/pronounce.

Normal is relative. I wouldn’t want to work with someone with this thought process because they likely will dismiss names they haven’t heard before that are of different cultures, heritages, and ethnic backgrounds.

They also sound like the people who will make excuses for bullying, teaching their children to bully through their own actions because someone dared name their child something they don’t agree with.

Yes, people have their opinions about names and can judge them but what they do with that judgement speaks volumes about them as a person.

I know plenty of successful people with names that aren’t considered normal. No one should have to choose a “normal” name to appease people who can’t get past their own bias and judgements.

Probably the same people who get annoyed when baby girls are given “masculine” names yet one of the reasons for that is because some parents are doing the same thing as them when it comes to jobs, hoping that a “male” name will have recruiters hire them because they will assume it is a man, not a woman.

CaptainMyCaptain · 14/07/2024 08:06

orangalang · 14/07/2024 03:49

Child called Blue. Adults are laughing when they're a baby, other kids don't care at all. But child gets older, adults are always judging that name. We shouldn't but as adults we always get an impression so we can't push that onto the kids. It will be years before Blue will be taken seriously in a job interview. At best it's a nick name

I knew a child called Blue in the 70s. She had a sister called Chelsea.

PerkyMintDeer · 14/07/2024 08:02

LGBirmingham · 14/07/2024 07:51

I think popularity of names is very area dependent. Our son has a name which was very popular amongst people of my age, and is supposedly one of the continually most popular boys names of the last 100 years. I think it's still top 20 or so now apparently. We didn't pick it because it was normal or popular, it was literally the only boy's name we both liked! We had many more girl's names on the list.

I'm yet to meet another child his age with the same name. However there are two boys called 'Otis' in his room at nursery. We live in a fairly trendy area so maybe that is why?

Otis will most likely have got into peoples heads from the Netflix show, Sex Education. Otis and Maeve (lead characters) shot up the baby name charts shortly after the TV show became popular.

Similar with names like Arya and Khaleesi about ten years ago. And Harper after Harper Seven Beckham was born.

pictoosh · 14/07/2024 08:00

Yes, people should stop thinking about themselves or their children as individuals and consider how they best fit into the machine.
Working class parents certainly aren't going to encourage their children to be sufficiently humble and lacking in scope with names like Horatio are they? How ridiculous.
Blend in and stay within your parameters I say. There's no need to go beyond the top ten names when your son's clearly only going to be a bottom feeder.
Eh OP?

Greentapemeasure · 14/07/2024 07:58

My DD is in a 2 form entry school and I mentioned to another mum that it was funny that most of the kids in one class had what I would consider ‘normal’ classic type names and most of the kids in the other had more ‘modern’ names and apparently I wasn’t the first to notice this and it happened every year, the thought was that one of the reception teachers had worked there for years and picked the kids she wanted in her class by the names.

berksandbeyond · 14/07/2024 07:56

I agree with you, I met a Peregrine at a baby group in a rough area once, I did raise my eyebrows quite a lot. People need to remember they’re naming a human who will be an adult not just a cutesy baby, and not a pet! I am admittedly quite fussy about baby names.

LGBirmingham · 14/07/2024 07:55

Also I think the old fashioned names coming back makes perfect sense because people like to use family names of their grand parents? If ours was a girl she would of had my husband's grandmother's name. Unfortunately my husband wouldn't accept my grandfather's name 'Cecil' as even a middle name for our son. Said it was too silly.

LGBirmingham · 14/07/2024 07:51

I think popularity of names is very area dependent. Our son has a name which was very popular amongst people of my age, and is supposedly one of the continually most popular boys names of the last 100 years. I think it's still top 20 or so now apparently. We didn't pick it because it was normal or popular, it was literally the only boy's name we both liked! We had many more girl's names on the list.

I'm yet to meet another child his age with the same name. However there are two boys called 'Otis' in his room at nursery. We live in a fairly trendy area so maybe that is why?