Two daughters
Dd1 lives opposite end of the country
Dd2 lives a twenty min drive from dp
Dd1 rings dp weekly and visits 2-3 times a year
Dd2 visits a couple times a week, picks stuff up from the shop, arranges and takes to medical appointments , deals with any household issues, does meter readings, gives lifts if need.
Last time dd1 visited, they gave her £100 as she walked the dog while visiting (3 walks I think) She doesn't stay with dp, she either stays with dd2 , hotel or friends.
They have never offered dd2 any money for petrol/time.
Obviously I'm dd2, am I right to be miffed?