to ask if you've achieved the nirvana of not wanting to buy stuff you REALLY don't want

£72 for a Large Avocado?!! No thanks 🤣

Between moving around a lot in my 20's, and working for the big banks during the housing crash seeing people being evicted and all of their random stuff, to having to clean houses of deceased relatives - the thought of collecting a bunch of crap is massively unappealing.

Thanks, I have had counselling before, but not for the hoarding.

My GP has also kicked off the process for ADHD / ND diagnosis.

I’ve always been an avid shopper and I still buy almost all the books and clothes I want - and no regrets, but I cured myself of buying craft supplies, collectable dolls and shoes (I pretty much only wear one pair of walking boots and have for years) when I overdid the shopping during the pandemic and ended up just selling most of it still new on ebay for a massive loss. I realised I’d been buying stuff I didn’t want or need for years and can stop myself now.

I saw a few videos about playing the recorder on youtube and my first instinct was to order a recorder and some instruction books, but I stopped myself as I have no interest in playing music, never have.

Something I couldn’t have done three years ago.

Let me help you: that basket of cuddly fruit and veg is absolutely horrific and doesn’t belong in any home. Likewise the burger table which attains the heights (or depths?) of vulgarity. Honestly, how could you even entertain the thought of purchasing these items for all to see?

Always been pretty frugal but then I began to see the cost of whatever it was compared to a weeks groceries or a tank of petrol, something I have to buy which seems like too much money every time. It puts the cost into perspective. Spending is a habit to break.

I have a friend who removes an item from her house every time she buys a new one to bring in. I wish I could do this

I have to buy all the things, it’s only when I have to move them for building works or decorating that I really regret it

My "cure" was my friends no fault eviction. I looked around at my own rented house and realised if we had to move it would take weeks to pack up our stuff because it was full of stuff that I had really liked when I bought it but was, in reality, totally pointless. Now I'm ruthless.

@JudgeJ Exactly. Who has the spare cash to even consider this??

They are ornaments really, I don't think they are supposed to do much other that elicit sighs of "oh how cute'

I just think:
-Why do I want to BUY this?
-What does this bring to my life?
-Is it just clutter that will take up space & offer nothing past the rush of purchasing?'

It's always pretty clear then if it's something that I will use or just become landfill. I hate clutter anyway. DH has stopped picking on my clutter free obsession after cleaning our his DF's house earlier this year when he moved. The crap his DF & (now passed) DM had was mind boggling.

What exactly does the Jellycat stuff do? I don't get the love.

Jellycat have a new cuddly disco ball

I really really want.it

I don’t think this is something you grow out of, exactly. I’ve never wanted a basket of JellyCat fruit and veg. But I grew up with hoarders.

I want space on my shelves to show possibility. I want to see my floors and my walls and the tops of my tables. I want to be able to open a drawer or a cupboard and be able to put something away without shoving stuff I haven’t touched in 8 years to the side.

I've never wanted much 'stuff' really. I buy clothes when I have to. I buy books on my kindle. Occasionally a nice bubble bath or facecream. That's about it! Don't like jewellery, ornaments, clutter or candles/diffusers/incense burners ... my sister loves all that stuff!😂 people tell me I'm very difficult to buy presents for 😏

Beautiful notebooks and mugs are my weakness so I don’t go into shops that sell them anymore

All the stuff you have posted is baffling to me. I hate trinkets and tchotchkes. Don't even have many clothes. All my money goes on days out.

Same. I have minimal "stuff" in my house. Never tempted to buy anything like this. My money goes on food, and holidays. 🤣

A whole basket of Jellycat fruit would be lovely. I've been coveting their bog roll for a while. I'm not a fan of clutter but I think people should have things purely because they like them, just not too much stuff. We moved after 25 years and then moved again 2 years later so I'm quite capable of binning or donating but I like to have a few things simply because they give me pleasure

Could you buy some felt and have a go at making some?

A burglary cured me.
Not because off the stuff that was stolen, but the reality (and the enduring image) of someone sifting through the piles of tat hiding away at the back of the cupboards.
If I only possessed items that were actually useful/important to me, that scum of a person wouldn't even be able to make a mess by shaking out the drawers.

All the shite strewn around everywhere as it was, made me clear out and keep it out.

I am the total polar opposite to you all of that stuff just looks like shite and I cannot fathom anything more pointless.
The only thing I ever want as a gift if it's practical, edible or something fun to do. I have nothing in my house that isn't any one of those things apart from pictures and books.
I find it very hard to buy presents for people that like shit because I don't understand the rules!

when you know it’ll only make you feel happy for the short term then the happiness is not real, it’s just a dopamine hit This is the key bit of understanding, which is the first step to changing it.

The Aisle of Shite we call it 😂