No hen do because I actually have no friends 😔

@Toujoursenfrance I have very few ''Friends'' but someone said ''in a lifetime, you are lucky to be able to count in one hand true friends''.

That is very true.

Quality over quantity.

Good people whom you can trust.

People who even if you have a disagreement or misunderstanding, you can talk it out, apologise to each other, and move on.

Those are quality friends.

I didn't have a hen do either.

At 41 I wouldn't have been bothered at all about not having a hen weekend - I kind of feel like it's the preserve of people in their 20s and early 30s - by age 41 most peoples friendship dynamics have changed hugely and it's not unusual not to feel like you don't have close friends

Hag....😀is the term I believe!

Go for it - and enjoy!

Can you book yourself on a snowboarding group holiday? A good mate of mine goes on one or two of these every year. She's made loads of friends over the years who she gets together with at other times. So you could both do something that you enjoy and also have the opportunity to meet people who share the same interests.

Going alone is a nice idea

Mum and sister to a city break with spa? It doesn't need to be a huge crowd, smaller the better if you ask me.

Sometimes I worry about being hit by a bus and being “outed” as virtually friendless when my work colleagues realise that there’s so many work colleagues at my funeral!

I was thinking this the other day. I could count on 9 or 10 friends, but they live all around the country. I don't know anyone except work colleagues locally. So glad I'm not the only one

This is bloody lovely, by the way. I'm outside the UK so can't join in, but heck – if Mumsnet is for anything (apart from AIBU griping), it's for this 😍

No siblings? Majority of Hen do's are made up of family.

Mines was sisters, cousins, young aunt & few close school friends.

OP, you mention never getting invited anywhere, but have you invited anyone anywhere?

I'm not talking about the hen do but if you want to build your friend group start inviting people for drinks or meals or cinema after work. These things are often reciprocal - people will invite you back and you'll build connections from there.

Ha ha yes it gives me the ick...

If you're a 'chuck yourself down a mountain bike trail' kind of woman, could you find a mountain biking (or similar) kind of holiday you could go on, and invite everyone who's there to be your honorary hens?

Let them know it's your 'personal hen do' that you've gone on for you, and make some friends there and then?

If I went to something like that and a fellow attendee said she'd taken herself on it for her own hen do, I'd be 100% up for turning it into a celebration for her 😃

Feel for you OP . My hen was a bit flat compared to my DHs stag do. Ended up with a makeover evening with a few friends. It was ok but what I really wanted was the full tiara and club night out but no one wanted to do it 🙄. Or thought to organise it for me. Whatever you decide, you do you and have a fabulous wedding .

When do you want to have this hen do? I have heard nice things about Norwich so would be up for a little trip there. We could do an intro to bouldering and climbing here followed by a night out. There are a few other posters interested in doing a hen night for you too.

highballnorwich.co.uk/get-started/intro-courses/

I didnt either. My dmum and dsis sitting in watching a film Id already seen....

Find something that suits you and do that, either with others or on your own. Society makes us feel we're abnormal if we dont have hoardes of friends but actually a lot of people dont have that!

It's a long time ago but my 'hen do' was basically going out to dinner with my mum, aunty and a couple of 'friends' who were actually the wife and girlfriend of my boyfriend. They came as it was the same time as the stag do. OH did say I could go with them, wish I had, they did lots of things I'd enjoy.

If you want to go with him then go, don't worry about what his mates think.

No advice, just wanted you to know you’re not alone out there! I could have written you post myself.

I’m not an unlikeable or mean person either, and I think one of the reasons I’ve avoided getting married is because I’d be so embarrassed to have so few friends to invite to my wedding. I blush to think how I’d even begin to pack the numbers out for a hen do! I would have no one except family.

Sometimes I worry about being hit by a bus and being “outed” as virtually friendless when my work colleagues realise that there’s so many work colleagues at my funeral!

So you’re not alone in the way you feel. I bet you’re a great person, just crap at making friends, like me.

I am similar-ish in the types of activities I enjoy and lack of female friends. I do have friends, but most of them are guys and many of them are also DH's friends. DH didn't want a stag do, so neither of us had a hen/stag in the end.

However, I can completely understand that if your future DH does have a stag do, that it feels like you are missing out. Would you consider a women's adventure holiday instead of a hen do? It won't be the same obviously, but would potentially be something you'd enjoy? There are a few companies (Sisters in the Wild, Adventuress in the Wild) that I have heard good things about.

Get in touch with your work acquaintances and your friend since age 17 and invite them all. I'm sure they'd all be glad to come.

I went canyoning with a bunch of kayak and bike mates. I refused to have a girly weekend with the three or four girl mates I have, so I invited my bloke mates too 🤷🏻‍♀️

I didn't have a hen do either. I have a few friends but they're scattered and organising something would've been too much brain ache for me.

In hindsight I wish I'd booked myself a solo holiday or trip somewhere (to "enjoy being alone for the last time"). If you want to treat yourself to something, be it an experience or a trip or something else extravagant, now's your chance to do it and with the perfect excuse 😁

I'll give you a hand!! Any excuse for a night out 🤣

Hen parties are over rated OP! Honestly. They look fun from the outside and on social media. But the reality is: they’re expensive, people drop out last minute, bride ends up stressed and upset, they can be cliquey if women of different “friend groups” come together.

I wouldn't say I have lots of friends I invited-

My two friends
My mil
My sil
My dh to be's friends wives/girlfriends
My sister

I had 8 people, all of them came. We did a uk weekend away.

I also did a meal out which my two friends came to plus my mum, my sister, my two dds and my friends dds.

Why don't you arrange a get-together and invite colleagues? Start the ball rolling. Make an effort to arrange something, a meal out, a cinema trip. I understand your disappointment at not being invited to events, but you have to make an effort with people.