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No hen do because I actually have no friends 😔

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Toujoursenfrance · 13/07/2024 18:25

Not sure what the point of this post is other than to show myself as a massive loser….

I am engaged and me and OH have been chatting about potential stag/hen parties. His best man has thrown up some ideas for his which all sound so brilliant and I am honestly so jealous that I can’t be involved - but am adamant I won’t be, even when they both tell me it would be such a laugh to have me there.

Trouble is, I don’t think I’ll be having one myself. Because I don’t have any friends. Never have really. I’ve had acquaintances, usually people I work with but they never really want to be full friends with me. I don’t know why. I don’t think I’m a horrible person. Most people who know me tell me I’m a lovely person with a great sense of humour and a laugh to be around.

I do have one friend that I’ve known for about 17 years but we’ve grown apart over the years since having our respective families and very different life choices/goals etc.
So I’ve been telling everyone I don’t want a hen party whereas I do really.
Thinking I might just book a weekend abroad somewhere hot for just myself while OH is having his, so I can wallow in my loneliness and obvious un-likability!

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cupcaske123 · 13/07/2024 18:34

I think taking yourself away somewhere sounds like a great idea. Congratulations OP.

EveryKneeShallBow · 13/07/2024 18:31

I got married 40 years ago, and had no one to come to a hen do. I had no baby showers, and no friends visited after my chidren’s births. I haven’t had a birthday party since I was 16. I have only ever been invited to two weddings my whole life.

pikkumyy77 · 13/07/2024 18:30

I feel for you. I certainly didn’t know anyone to have a “hen do” with. None of my female friends knew each other, had enough money to travel to a single location, or could organize themselves to pour puss out of a boot. So nothing! However we did have a joint pre-wedding brunch of our mutual friends that was lovely!

TERFCat · 13/07/2024 18:28

Where do you live and how old are you Op?

Some of us may be able to suggest good local women's groups and so on? BrewSmile

NalafromtheLionKing · 13/07/2024 18:28

“Most people who know me tell me I’m a lovely person with a great sense of humour and a laugh to be around.”

Surely the people saying this would be your friends and would be happy to come along to your hen do?

FWIW, when people have big parties, they are often scraping the bottom of the barrel and asking along colleagues, people who are more acquaintances then friends etc.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 13/07/2024 18:26

Do you have female relatives you could have a hen do with? Not everyone has a large social circle and that's OK.