Aibu to want to go home

Hi op, just read your update. Please do not think you are annoying. Your friend and her group seem like a bunch of shallow, self centred people. Influencers are interested in followers and fake engagements, not friends. Perhaps this trip was planned to provide her material for content. Good to know you are back in comfort of your home and with kids. This friend is no friend.

I'm glad to see you are on your way home! Can you imagine if you fit in with these people? It's like a test for being a decent person you passed.

I'm so sorry that you are having such a horrible time. I am really sensitive and I think I would be in tears if I was in this situation.

As a mum too If I was you I would get back home to your little one who loves and appreciates you. or if you can do that try and make your own plans and enjoy the rest of your holiday doing your own thing without them.

You sound great and just think in a few days you don't have to see any of them ever again. I would also say the fact that your 'friend' hasn't stuck with you, considering she begged you to come, would make me reconsider whether she's really a friend at all.

P.s you sound lovely don't let them get you down ❤️.

You sound like a lovely person and a lot of others would have valued your friendship and included you. Unfortunately you went away with the wrong people and the person who invited you is not your friend! She should have been actively including you eg inviting you to spend time with the group that she was close to, inviting you out to eat etc. I would have! You need to cut contact with this person. It sounds like she used you to fill a space but didn’t actually want you there. Focus on your true friends and your family. No one needs toxic friends.

I just wanted to send you lots of love and a big, big hug. If I ever arrabge a group event I make sure everyone is happy and included, and am apalled by your friend's treatment of you. So sorry you have had this. It isn't you - she isn't a real friend. People can be so unpleasant. Take care of yourself x x x

It happened to me once when I was back in India after a long time living away, after losing my job, a friend organised a group activity trip, almost begged me to come, I explained to her I was without a job and didnt know anyone in the group, she promised that she will get me a discount and keep with me her, but as soon as I arrive, the group was decided in mini groups for activity and she went ahead with her other friends. There was no discount and she barely spent any time with me. I realised I was asked because they wanted certain number. I wish I had told her I was disappointed for.all the over promises.

I would suggest you ask friend, why she insisted on you joining when she she had no interest in your company. Was she getting a deal for certain number or had to fill a room? I would also go back home. What's the point of spending time with this weird bunch of people, away from home and kids being sick.

So sorry you had to go through this🤗.If I were you, I would take the best option that gives me peace, which is going back home to dc.

They sound like a bunch of btches and I would feel like going home too. I’m sorry but if your friend invited you along to go with her close friends then in a way she should be checking on you and making sure you’re ok. I once went on holiday with one of my close friends and her entire group of close friends who I didn’t know(in hindsight I can’t believe I agreed to this as it’s such a risk to go with complete strangers !). The main difference was that my close friend stuck to me on the trip and all the other girls made the effort to get to know me and welcome me into their group because I was the new girl. One of my best trips ever but only because the girls made me feel welcome. It wasn’t my burden then to try and break into a close friendship group with strangers on Holiday! Which is what the groups you’ve gone on holiday with seem to be doing! It’s not fair on you tbh: they’re more concerned with maximising their fun time than including you

There will be so many women reading this who wish they had had the guts to go home in the same situation. Well done you.

This. The woman who was your friend is not your friend. Bitches the lot of them.

All of them witches... I mean bitches!

Congratulate yourself that you are not like them: Influencer types are generally vain, shallow and self absorbed. To hell with them!

I kind of think it turned out to be quite a positive thread. OP did great. I’d want to go on holiday with her.

OP, you've been treated terribly - I'm so sorry to hear of your experience. Women in packs can be awful, some can be bloody lovely though and it seems you've been terribly unlucky. How anybody can be so unkind to someone is beyond me. Glad you've got home ok x

This was a sad thread to read. Sorry this has happened to you. You sound lovely. You really do.

Glad you're on your way home.

Your friend is no friend. The rest of them sound like a coven of witches.

I'm so glad you're on your way home OP. Did you tell your friend, or just go?

This is why I hate mixing friendship groups! I'm not making any excuses for their terrible behaviour, but female group dynamics are tricky and when one person isn't part of the group it can be a recipe for disaster. I hope you are able to put this behind you quickly, and move on from this person.

@geekygirldoesnotfitin the fact some of them were being awful about the poorly lady tells me they’re all incredibly insecure and worried about ‘fitting in’. Thankfully although you had a bit of a wobble, you know it’s not you and you were kind and made sure the other lady was ok. What a bunch of b*tches who can’t put doing right by someone over loss of face. You’re well out and I hope you still had some peaceful you-time and can go home refreshed.

might be equally as childish as they are, but I so hope you didn't bother to tell them you were leaving.

Please tell me you told them what a thoroughly unpleasant bunch they all are and how rubbish their behaviour made you feel?

What a nest of vipers you fell into! Your 'friend' should be hanging her head in shame at her behaviour towards you.

I hope she doesn't think she can contact you to ask why you had to leave early...if she does, I really hope you give her both barrels! But you sound too lovely to say anything horrible. Such a shame when you've spent so much money on a holiday when you've got kids etc.

Please don't let this 'friend's get away with it.

Awful behaviour from your "friend".

Did she not feel embarrassed at seeing you out on your own???

I’m really proud of you for leaving. You know you’re worth more than that.

Glad you're going home. They sound like a nasty bunch. Your friend should have supported you more. Just try to put it behind you now.

Hope you’re okay OP. Seriously well done for getting a flight home. That shows your a confident woman who knows what’s right and wrong. You should be proud of yourself for leaving. I do think you should message the person who invited you and tell them how you feel, then never think about them again X

Bet you friend gets home and tries the "I was so worried about you!" routine. She sounds just the sort. As soon as she hasn't got her group of cronies she will be back trying to be your mate again. Make sure you block or tell her to fuck off. I'm glad you are on the way home. Safe journey.

I wouldn’t speak to any of those cows ever again.