Aibu to want to go home

Well done op. Did you speak to your so-called friend before you left?

I'm glad you are home & away from the toxic environment, it must have been draining!
They sound vile & very immature, at least you know who your "friend" is now, she sounds truly awful. I don't understand how anyone could actively spoil someone's time like that but it definitely does say more about them, and nothing to do with you.
Reconnect with your true friends & hopefully you will be laughing about this experience one day, and they will reflect on their shittiness!

Something similar happened to me a long time ago and I should have left straight away. I hope you do!

You don't owe them any explanation, you don't even need to tell them you're leaving.

Whether it's to go home to your family, or to change hotels and treat yourself, just leave! What they are doing is inexcusable.

Oh, and as pp said, block your "friend".

Absolutely agree, she'll find a way to martyr and be the victim 'but every time I looked for you, you were away with the other group!! 😪😪😪😪' Any texts you send will be shared with them and she'll say you're 'bullying her'. Like pp has said, I'd just ghost her.

This! ⬆️ They sound vile & immature. I'd ignore them from now on & try to enjoy what's left of your time, albeit by yourself. Definitely drop this 'not friend' when you get home.

Urgh this is so grim - what a bunch of idiots. If it were me I’d be totally selfish in the last days. Do exactly what you want - pretend you’re on holiday alone and use the time to relax!! These people are horrible!!

They sound vile, glad you're homeward bound

What a horrible bunch of women - they clearly never grew up from school!
Sorry they made your break away crap.

There is a difference between not including someone and actively excluding them, and taking time to show to someone they are not welcome. You may not be fond of someone, but most normal people would be civil enough to at least do a polite chit chat even if you didnt gel. They were bullying you and Im glad you got out and left them to their own devices, seems they already picked the next victim.

How horrible for you. Hats off to you sticking it out this long but I think you should go home and surround yourself with people who love and care for you. Oh! And dump that so called friend asap

I would get out of that situation - fast.

You say you are a 'big girl'. Is she hoping that you will make her look ''better'' for want of a better word. If so, then she is no friend, and the torment has to stop. If you can leave them, then do. Perhaps you could find another hotel and enjoy yourself seeing sights and shopping on your own?

You can take photos of yourself in different places and send them to your child, and not bother with the group. It is what I would do.

OP, your friend is a user and I wouldn't have anything further to do with her.
Glad you are going home if that's what you feel is best.
They were an ugly group but it is 100% your friends fault.
She is a user and no loss to you.
Take care.

I'm really sorry you went through this op.

I had a similar experience once, was invited away by a friend, to visit friends of theirs in a holiday location. I had been a bit concerned, as I didn't know anyone and was unsure whether I was wanted by the friends who we were staying with. I was assured they were looking forward to meeting me.

It was awful. When we were outside and near the car, my friend lifted the bonnet of car so I couldn't see them, they all then started whispering behind the bonnet , before running giggling into house, shutting the door behind them, making it was clear I wasn't welcome. When they eventually came out, my friend's close friend started making bitchy remarks to me. It took me back to mean girls of high school. I was pretty devastated. I wasn't in a good place at the time and I thought there was something wrong with me. I stuck it out, but only because it would have been too difficult to get home by myself.

I tried to the keep friendship going on return, but needless to say I couldn't forgive or forget.

Just remember it's their issue, not yours. Big hug. I hope you have a lovely few days with your children. :) 💐xxx

I know a young Yorkshire woman who's had similar treatment from so called friends she's known from primary school.

Her crime? She worked hard at school, got into university, got a good degree. Her friends didn't. They hung around their home town, got boyfriends, got pregnant, got dumped so all single young mums. Yes their lives are hard but that's not the young woman's fault.

Sometimes we just outgrow friends because our lives take different paths. Our priorities change.

Sod them go home!

I don’t think it’s you at all, you sound lovely and you’ve tried. As the one not in a group they should be making an effort to include you (whether they like you or not) so it just shows what type of people they are. And your friend needs to know and realise how you feel. Ask her directly. In the meantime, pretend you are on your own on holiday, go where you want, when you want and enjoy the rest.

Reading this took me right back to my teen years at school and being ignored by my “friends” for days when they felt like it, so hurtful then but for a bunch of grown women to do it is totally vile, I really feel for you. I hope you get to tell your “friend” exactly how vile she has behaved before you block her

I think you did the right thing. I'd have done the same!

I'd have left and not said anything, either to cause a panic at checkout, or to see just how long ut was until they noticed, the self-centred bunch!

You sound perfectly lovely and very brave , this is exactly why I would not put myself forward for these mixed bag experiences. I would expect to be left out. I admire you for all the efforts you have made to participate. Try and make the best of this odd break. Explore a bit, buy presents for loved ones. Go for a massage, buy a new outfit. Sod them all. They don’t seem to have any reason to be friendly, it must be fun seeing someone discomfited. Let us know if their lack of social skills had a reason. I doubt it.

Glad to see their behaviour about their unwell "friend" just confirms the sort of nasty bitches they are and you can take comfort knowing it's not you it's them.

Did you tell them you were leaving early?

And did you tell them why?

Glad to hear all sorted now. I think I would have gone home early too and probably not even bothered to tell them.

So so sorry OP. This is awful. Glad you are going home.

I've read all your comments, OP, but not everyone else's so please forgive any repetitions.

I'm also glad you are going home early and away from those awful women. I wonder what their reaction will be: 'oh but why did you leave early? We were having such a great time' and other gaslighting attempts, no doubt. Fuck 'em.

If anyone wants an example of toxic femininity, these women are it.

Wow that’s awful inviting you on a holiday and then not including you for meals etc.

Glad you know what your “friend” is now like and can focus on those that make you happy.