Aibu to want to go home

Good morning OP.

Hopefully you had a good flight home and a decent night's sleep.

By the sound of it you kept your dignity from the off to the finish throughout this...get away break.

I don't know if the lady that was ill was one included in being unkind to you but your kindness shone through by helping them their room and not just walking on by.

I'd be interested to know if once back, and I use this term loosely, your friend contacts you and if so in what context.

As said you stayed kind all the way, hopefully the others will realise that they have lost a good person from their friendship group.

I would go home too, I would leave a note to say I had, in case they reported you missing to the authorities. You owe them nothing they are being horrible. You are worth much more. Go home and see your lovely children. X

That's influencers for you....SELF obsessed and thinking its ALL about them!

Never could understand the appeal. Who the hell gives a damn, only the nosy and insecure.
Get a bloody job and contribute something worthwhile to society.

I do hope she didn't, I would have left them wondering what was happening.

It's not about you personally; two cliques have gone on holiday and you're not part of either. Perhaps your friend invited you as a fall-back in case of the cold shoulder from these shallow people? It's a strange set-up to be sure.

Here's what to do: forget the others. You can salvage this holiday and have fun.

There should be plenty of day excursions available where you'll meet new people. A good way to break the ice is offering to take photos!
Excursion groups are gregarious and will include you if your demeanour is pleasant.

You can do this for the next few days: out all day, back to base, shower, meal, early night, up bright-eyed and busy-tailed for the next morning's adventure.

No need to explain yourself or even acknowledge the cliques, and when you're home you can block this false friend and enjoy your lovely holiday snaps.

I did similar when abroad as a student when nobody else was up before noon on days off.
Had a cracking time visiting galleries and castles in organised groups and never once felt lonely. There were always people to chat and have coffee with.
Go for it!

@zingally Pass her around the group ? What is she, a bowl of crisps? FFS - your post is mental.

Stick your drink up your arse Tania, I would rather swallow razorblades than drink with you.

The only person really in the wrong here is your "friend". She asked you along, knowing full well you didn't know anyone else going. Is there a possibility that someone else dropped out, and they asked you purely to fill the space?
Either way, she's been really foolish and unkind. She should have taken you under her wing, and accepted that you are her were likely to be a twosome for the week.

Personally, I don't really find a great deal of fault with the other people there... Remember, you are a stranger to them. On holiday, it's natural to want to stick around with, and socialise with, your actual friends/family. Not some random stranger who always seems to be tagging along. They don't know you from Adam. And although it's a bit unkind to seem to be purposely leaving you out, they are under no obligation to adopt you into the fold. Presumably they paid the same money you did for the holiday, and want to spend it with the people they already know and like. Not a Random.

That being said, the polite and mature thing for them to do would be to gently "pass you around" the group. "Sarah" makes small talk with you on a sun lounger for 20 minutes, and when she gets up to "fetch a drink", then "Sally" encourages you into the pool to bob around for a bit. THAT would be the kind thing to do, but then people don't always behave their absolute best. Especially on a holiday they've paid their own hard-earned cash for.

Personally, I'd be sacking them off and having your own holiday for the last few days. Keep to your own timetable, take yourself off for meals when YOU fancy it, find a new spot by the pool away from them. And if they think it's weird, so fucking what? They ignored you for all these days, and now you're repaying the favour.

I think the poster who suggested you were there to make the numbers up to a free place was correct. They all sound awful.

This whole trip sounds very reminiscent of Muriel Heslop's ill-fated holiday to Hibiscus Island, not to mention the horrors of Porpoise Spit.

Who wouldn't run away to Sydney to be rid of friends like these?

What a lovely kind person you are, no wonder you are "different " because you are the opposite to them.

The story isn't ended: in your last update you said you went home (best decision), so did you slip quietly away, tell your do-called friend first...what happened?

Sorry you had to go through this and waste so much money, but be glad you are you and not them

Some people need to form cliques to pretend they are the 'in' crowd or special in some way, and to form a clique they need to exclude someone, sounds like they picked you initially and were also happy to turn on one of their own, which I have found is another feature of cliques: there is no loyalty.
You behaved with great dignity and compassion.
Glad you got away, it's an expensive lesson but if it shows you what your 'friend' was truly like, it's money well spent.
Enjoy your real friends and your family, and the emotional security they bring.

What an awful disgrace to be called women. Sorry you had to deal with that, but go home and block them. Horrible bullies

What a horrible experience. Well done OP for leaving early and going home to your DC. I can’t believe that you were treated in such a thoughtless, callous way and it certainly wasn’t your fault. Particularly your so called ‘friend’ who you are better off without.

I would also drop the friend

They sound like a bunch of arseholes, laughing at someone because they are unwell and excluding you

I’d cut off all contact with this “friend”

Glad you are back home xx

Awful awful human beings. Like being back in the playground. Please never speak to that friend again. You are worth so much more.

This sounds like a sinister, disturbing film. I wonder why your so-called friend (fiend), invited you. Perhaps it’s some sort of psych experiment! (I don’t really think it’s an experiment, but it is certainly ‘out there’, as weird behaviour). Maybe it’s that inviting the crowds of people make ‘the fiend’ feel popular. Whatever it is, the people in the groups are behaving badly and you are not. I would separate from the crowd but stick it out because of the cost of paying for an extra journey etc. Put it down to experience, & dump the fiend.

That’s the kind of thing that happens to me too. We are introverts and some people don’t appreciate that.

ignore them and do what pleases you. Read a book by the pool. Have a lie in. Take yourself shopping. Have naps. Enjoy the ‘me’ time and don’t give a second thought to what they might or might not be thinking.

Apologies, hadn't yet seen your last post in which you said you've already gone. Hopefully you're now happily at home with this nonsense behind you.

Also hope you've dropped them from your social media and blocked the lot of them!

It's not 'something you've done', OP - try to rid yourself of this mindset where women constantly question our own behaviour before that of others. Unfortunately we've been conditioned that way. But don't internalise other people's ill manners and poor behaviour as somehow your issue to deal with. Aside from anything else, if problems arose most people would address them directly like adults and reach a solution or a compromise, rather than behaving like a gaggle of immature schoolkids.

This baggage belongs to them. Dump it at their feet in its rightful place. And if you find going home isn't a viable option at this late stage then find some activities that benefit you: spa treatment, local museum visit, reading a book by the pool or on a beach. Take this as three days of self-care and a rare opportunity to find some space for you.

And when you get back block the lot of them. It seems to me they're in no need of an explanation; after all, they never gave you one.

Take care.

Because of the internet and things like facebook, people think they have 100s of "friends". In the real world you only ever have a handful of true friends, those who you can rely on and you know will always be there in times of trouble. The rest are just acquaintances. In future just go on holiday with your family and enjoy the time with them when they are young and make good memories. I remember lovely hols with parents and grandparents.

No-one needs a bunch of pseudo friends and whatever "influencers" are supposed to be. Clearly they are not nice people and only exist to be seen on the internet in a very false environment. They look all glammed up and popular but in reality are sad and worthless individuals who are not worth your time and effort.

Always be yourself, be kind and genuine and you will be loved for who you are.

Really glad to hear you managed to get an earlier flight home, @geekygirldoesnotfitin. It's pretty jaw-dropping that your now ex "friend" saw you out for dinner on your own and had the gall to ask you if you were okay! Their treatment of that other woman sounds so nasty too, you are well out of there.

Do update us if your friend has messaged asking where you are. I hope you didn't tell her you were leaving, she didn't deserve to be informed.

Good call on leaving early and I would not bother with this so called "friend" again. They sound like a bunch of schoolgirls and are bullies and just generally horrible people. The fact they were nasty about even one of their own group shows how bitchy they are. You sound lovely and yes as you say never doing a group holiday again unless it is people you know really well is a good decision. When you said "influencers" I know the type and believe me you are best avoiding them. Fakes through and through.

How awful it must have been for you. I read your last post and I'm glad you made the decision to go home away from those awful women. You sound like a lovely genuine person and the so called friend doesn't deserve you.