Aibu to want to go home

Maybe look around and see how it works.

But one tip (if you haven't already done it) is to change the colour of your posts and the OP's which make things clearer

You can also click on 'See next' or See all' on the OP's posts and then you catch up really quickly

Also read a few posts above yours before you post. That sometimes gives you a clue.

Lastly, you don't get a 'welcome' as such on here as MN is so big it isn't a 'group' it's a collection of individuals so there's nothing to welcome you 'to' iyswim

Been done a million times before

And it will go the same way...

I’m thinking of starting a thread on the subject of snarky posters complaining about untimely replies to posts - anyone care to comment?

just make sure you check for updates before you do or the comment monitor will slap your wrists 🤣🤣🤣

There’s something really ironic about the snarky comments addressed at those who are just “catching up” with this thread.

what a warm, welcoming place MumsNet is! Don’t put a foot wrong or you’ll get pounced on and told off!!

Well it’s a constant thing here. I’ve seen comments and advice given re someone’s situation with their toddler. The comments and advice were so out of date the ‘toddler’ would have been taking GCSEs.

And that still doesn’t mean you were okay to respond in the way you did.

I actually commented because I saw another poster had been on the receiving end of a pile of snark for making the same awful mistake I made- ie having the temerity to respond to the original post without checking for updates. 😱

All posts have dates on unless it’s ‘today’.

I think you are the one who is overreacting. The comment to you wasn’t rude but your response was.

There’s something really ironic about the snarky comments addressed at those who are just “catching up” with this thread.

what a warm, welcoming place MumsNet is! Don’t put a foot wrong or you’ll get pounced on and told off!!

We have 3 days left of the holiday.

Thanks everyone you have made me feel a bit better.

I feel it must be something I have done because why would people act like this otherwise. It's not normal is it. Starting to think I'm annoying without realising it.

I'm happy in my own company so for today at least il do my own thing. I'm sat alone but next to them now anyway.

Dump them and so your own thing for the rest of the holiday.

Then dump the friend when you're home.

Hi they are not your friends.
l wiuld get a flight home if you can.
if not enjoy your holiday by the beach eith a few drinks and book and enjoy the sights.
dont ever look back ~

If you had read the thread or at least only OP's replies on this thread, you'd have known OP has been home for DAYS now, @AgileGreenSeal .

listen to your gut
go home xx

Hi

A friend of mine asked me to go on holiday with her and a few of her friends. I don't know these friends but she begged me saying she really wanted me there. I agreed and paid for my trip.

When I turned up to the airport there were two different groups of her friends. Neither group really know each other but both groups are close friends.

That's fine. I only know my friend who asked me to come but was happy to get to know others.

Since we arrived I have chatted and asked about each person and got on with the holiday. Some of the friends have chatted here and there.

My friend has tended to stick with one group in particular and I haven't had much chance to spend time with her. Again fine with me normal as I don't expect to me joined at the hip.

It's become very obvious that I'm the odd one out. For whatever reason people don't seem to want to engage with me. I have reflected to make sure I haven't said or done anything to hurt or upset anyone and I honestly don't think I have.

Initially it was just them chatting amongst themselves but now they are actively avoiding me.

For eg they were all in the pool chatting so I got in and they got out. When I got out a few minutes later they all got back in.
During conversations I chip in and get ignored. I try to repeat myself but give up joining in as it's obvious I'm an annoyance.
Both groups decided to go to the bar and asked each individual but missed me out.
I'm a bit quieter than most but I do chat and show an interest.

Yesterday I became very unwell unexpectedly and had to lay down in my room for the afternoon. This morning the groups had made plans and I tagged along with one. I ended up walking behind alone as they were walking next to each other and there was no room unless I stepped in the road. When I came down this morning after being in my room poorly no one said hello but when someone else came just after they made a big fuss and had already messaged the person to check they were ok.

I'm a big girl and can accept that people don't like me or don't want me around but it seems the more I go do my own thing the more they are annoyed when I return.

I feel quite alone and confused.

I'm the only one here who is a mum with young dc. I miss my dc and feel like I should try get a flight home early on my own. If I was able to be involved and felt welcome that would be fine but I just can't seem to do the right thing and I'm starting to feel self conscious and a bit upset.

I have a few days left and I'm not sure what to do for the best.