Aibu to want to go home

I am quite different to both groups as I'm the only mum and I do look and dress differently to them.

For right or wrong, its this. I’ve been in the same position but as the only one in a large group who is not a Mum.

I’d bin it off and go home if I were you. Be prepared that the friendhip might not survive. I think it might not anyway.

It will probably be too expensive to go home early. I’d just not try and engage anymore, swim in the pool, read etc and at any opportunity tell your friend you can’t wait to go home, counting down the days, it’s been such a disappointment,you are not sure why she invited you, and that you don’t feel you are very welcome .

I’m so sorry, it’s not you. It’s the bitchy teenagers and your bitchy so called ex friend. Like another poster says - whichever makes you happiest. Be it going home, be it ignoring them and doing your own thing, pretend you vaguely know them in the restaurant so you can nod and half smile and walk past. Or if you can switch to another hotel.

Agree with @andthat . If it’s cheap and easy to get home then go. But, if you choose to stay for the next three days then make yourself a plan. First off, don’t sit with them or tag along. It will continue to make you feel like shit and unwanted. If you enjoy your own company then sort out a couple of good books, kick back in a sunlounger far away from them and decompress. Spend money you had earmarked for activities with them on perhaps a spa treatment, some shopping or an excursion you fancy. Enjoy some nice food. It’s quite liberating to do leisure things unaccompanied (as soon as you are over the initial trepidation) - people don’t look at you as a sad sack, they’ll look and wish they had the self confidence to do what they wanted on their own without pandering to others. Far better than hanging out on the edges of group where you feel slightly mocked and unwanted.

When you get home explain clearly to your “friend” exactly why she’s proved herself to be an utter cow. Then bin her. Good luck x

If it was me, I'd be doing my own thing for the last three days and wouldn't even sit witb them. When I get home, I wouldn't be in a rush to answer any calls or texts either.

Are you ok getting to the airport by yourself? I often see pages on Facebook for holiday destinations where people have travelled solo and are looking for people to do something with, might be worth checking out if your bored?

Sorry OP this is horrible, what terrible people! If it was me, I would also try and make the most of your time off and go and do my own thing. Take my self down to beach, go for some leisurely strolls, read a book. I'd eat out separately but appreciate this isn't everyone's cup of tea. No need to explain to them either, perhaps they will just think you are still unwell. I'd be giving some serious thought to the convo to have with your mate once you are home as it really doesn't sound like things will improve in the last few days and even if they did a chunk of your holiday has been awful.

I cant believe your friend begged you to come and then shunned you the whole time, what a horrible thing to do to someone. Book the flight home, just tell them you miss your children, then go home and never speak to any of them again.

You sound like you're taking the blame on yourself by calling yourself annoying etc.

It's not you, it's them. It's bitchy and bullying to leave someone alone like they're doing to you. I'd go home early. Life is too short to hang around people who treat you like that. Go home to the people who love you. Sorry it's happening to you. Hope you have a good book or series downloaded that you can get into and ignore them. ❤️

Separate yourself from them, don't hang around for more poor treatment. Then either go home or do your own thing away from them, whichever you'd prefer. Fuming on your behalf 🤗

This is so horrible for you. I would defo get the friend to sit down and id tell her exactly what you've just told us. I would want to come home for sure.

This person is NOT your friend. She would/should be going out of her way to make you feel comfortable in.that kind of.dynamic.
I wouldn't want to spend another night never mind 3 somewhere I'm clearly not wanted.
They are a pack of ignorant fcukers, fcuk them and fcuk your so called friend.
I would leave without saying a word. (Provided you can afford it).

I'm sorry op you're being treated like this, its not you it's them you sound lovely they sound like their still in school. If you can afford it get an early flight if you can't get a magazine and a cocktail and go and lay round the pool and enjoy the peace. ❤️

I think the fault here lies firmly with your friend who invited you, in the knowledge you knew nobody else. She should've made the extra effort to include you at all times. This whole thing with two separate groups seems a bit weird as well. Surely everyone makes a bit of an effort to get on with others on holiday, while still each being able to do your own thing.
I don't think you should leave. For starters the expense. Unless you can get a sooner flight for free I'd just stick it out. Enjoy the surroundings.
I think if I were you I'd be giving your friend a wide berth after this as you'd have never ever paid to go on holiday if you knew you'd simply feel excluded.
Lastly, it sounds like you might benefit from some counselling maybe. The way you speak of yourself, 'annoying, big' etc. I think you need to try and give yourself time to work on self esteem.
Maybe read some mindfulness or self help literature while you're still there? Try and make the most of this experience even though your friend has treated you badly.
You deserve to be happy.

I went away recently and had never met 3 of the women on the trip but we all made an effort and got to know each other. Even if one hadn't been someone I connected with I still wouldn't have left them out and neither would they.

Yep. Because that is how adults and decent human beings behave. Sorry OP has got stuck with people who aren’t.

They sound like mean girls. I wouldn't waste any more of your holiday on them- get a flight home.

For eg they were all in the pool chatting so I got in and they got out. When I got out a few minutes later they all got back in.
During conversations I chip in and get ignored. I try to repeat myself but give up joining in as it's obvious I'm an annoyance.
Both groups decided to go to the bar and asked each individual but missed me out.

How incredibly childish! How old are these people? 13? This is the kind of pathetic shenanigans you'd expect from highschoolers. I'd book the soonest flight home and never talk to that "friend" again. It sounds almost like she brought you along to bully you.

I can see slipping out and not telling them is tempting but I don't think it would give the message they need. Is there a WhatsApp group for the trip?

Sod the lot of them.

Enjoy some time to yourself, reading and relaxing in the sun, having a swim. Do a bit of shopping, check out a museum, whatever most appeals to you.

They are rude and unpleasant.

They sound awful. It sounds a bit odd that 2 groups of friends who don’t really know each other have gone away and don’t seem to be mixing much. Your ‘friend’ sounds awful with no empathy, she begged you to come and now can’t even be bothered to make sure you’re included and comfortable.

You’ve done what you can to integrate and you would hope some of them would have been nice enough to include you just for this holiday even if you were unlikely to become part of the group. What I would do next would depend on where the holiday was and your own circumstances, with no thought to these awful women. Go home early if you want and don’t think twice about how that will look to them. But if there’s somewhere local you’d like to explore, a spa nearby, sightseeing then stay and do that. I think I would probably go home as it must be a very unpleasant atmosphere with them actively leaving you out.

What a bunch of cunts. Honestly why are people like this?

I went away recently and had never met 3 of the women on the trip but we all made an effort and got to know each other. Even if one hadn't been someone I connected with I still wouldn't have left them out and neither would they.

I think I'd be tempted to ask the group what the hell is going on. If they're going to be dicks you might as well call them out and tell them how awful they're being.

If you can find stuff to do, go off on your own and do your own thing. Or go home if you really feel you need to.

I certainly wouldn't be trailing behind those arseholes.

This is exactly what I'd do- go home silently whilst they were out and when she asks why I'd tell her exactly why. Then I'd cut her off.

I dont believe for one second she isnt aware- she has eyes.

Don't go home.

It will cost more money that can be better spent elsewhere.

Drop the group and have some time to yourself. Is there a trip that would interest you, or a museum. Or just read or do nothing and cherish the time where you can do nothing. You will be home soon in the lovely chaos of parenting so use this time now to spend time on you.

Gosh sounds horrible!

I don't understand why your friend insisted you come. It must be very confusing and upsetting for you. I hope you can make a good holiday out of the last few days for yourself, doing things you like and avoiding that pack of bitches.

What utterly rude, immature bitches. I’m so sorry this has happened to you OP. It is not you, it’s them. Your “friend” included.