Aibu to want to go home

I’d ask your so called friend why she asked you to come. No more than that; Why did you ask me to come? Then listen to what she says and just stay quiet.

It’s pretty clear you are not the annoying one.

She sounds pretty selfish.

I'd still go home since you miss your family. I'd want to be around people who care about me.

It’s them, it’s not you. You’d have to be behaving in quite an extreme way to justify what they are doing, not just a bit annoying. You would know if you done something serious enough to cross the line and be treated like this. so rest assured it’s not going to be that (you sound so self aware, I simply can’t imagine it being that anyway).

it sounds as if your friend has tried to book you essentially to play an extra in the background of the shit movie that is her life. There’s so many people who this, and then ostracise people when it suits them to. It’s such a cruel and psychologically damaging thing to do to a friend. As for the others, clearly none of them have got the backbone to include you for fear of also being ostracised by everyone else. Again, a common story. shame on them.

Do whatever the fuck you feel like and ditch her, she’s not your friend. Personally I’d leave, if you can salvage any enjoyment then for sure stay, but for your own self esteem, protect yourself from this nonsense, you don’t owe them anything

I’d try to book an earlier flight home and make a quiet exit.

If/When your influencer friend realises that you’re gone, send a single text message saying that while everyone else appeared to be thick as thieves with their respective groups, you felt that no one wanted you around so you’ve left. Hope they enjoy the rest of their holiday.

Then I’d phase them all out!

Such a pity that someone could influence your influencer friend into having better manners!

They sound hideous.

Ignore them and try to enjoy your own company.

Influencer my arse.

How horrible and cruel of them! They know they're excluding you and they're doing it deliberately.

I know there's only three days left but I'd just try to rearrange my flight and go home. I wouldn't tell them I was leaving either.

Oh, she's an influencerrrrr. Yuck.

They are nasty bitches and your friend is the biggest bitch of them all.

I dont know why people are making generalisations/excuses such as its because they're "not mums/mums/slim/young"- I have been all of those things at one point or another and managed not to bully anyone or treat anyone else like garbage. I have single friends, coupled friends, mum friends, non mum friends, slim friends and friends who arent slim- we all manage to get along fabulously and we care about each other.

This is to do with their core personalities, which clearly suck.

I would go home if I was you OP and forget all about them. They are being very cruel, don’t put up with it. You don’t really need to explain, just book your flight and give a quick “cheerio, I’m off” with suitcase in hand.

How embarrassing for her.

3 days can be a long time if you haven't planned for it. If you were comfortable to share where you are, people could suggest something to do?

And make absolutely sure that they don't know where you are or what you're doing. Treat the hotel, villa apartment or whatever as somewhere to sleep, ignore them totally.

I tend to agree with PPs. If the place you’re staying is nice then do what YOU want to do for a few days and let them get on with it.

Relax and refresh. To hell with them.

I'm so sorry that this is happening to you. It's not you - it's them. As other PP's have said, it sounds like being back at school.
They obviously have a herd mentality and are immature and typical "mean girls" - they wouldn't even DESERVE you as a friend.

As for your so-called "friend" - sorry but I'd be dumping her from my life. If I ever saw anyone regardless of whether they were my friend or not, being treated the way you're being treated, I'd be stepping in to include them, even if it was just me being friendly.

If I were you, I'd treat myself to an amazing day tomorrow solo and then book an early flight home and go home without even saying anything to them - I'd just walk past them, with my luggage, head held high, happy expression on my face (even if I didn't really feel it) and looking gorgeous!
It would do their pea-brained heads in, especially if you don't even cast a glance at any of them - it would be the ultimate way to get your power back.

Def reconsider this 'friendship'. This is appalling behaviour. Mean bastards.

You poor thing! You sound so insightful and sweet, this is on them and not you. No one should be left out like this. It’s so hard but try to enjoy your last days in the sun. You’ll be back with your DC soon

If you can afford it and you feel confident to do so, I'd come home early.

Also, reconsider your friendship. I'd never leave a friend out especially if I was bringing groups who knew each other already! It's common sense and decency, and just general care.

Suggest something you want to do

Today i feel like cocktails around the pool. Does anyone want to join?

I fancy booking a massage anyone else?

If they dont want to join do it by yourself

they sound shit, and should be ashamed of acting like stupid schoolchildren. I wouldn't blame you if you just hopped on a plane home, but it seems a bit of a waste of your money - have you got another (nicer) holiday planned for this year? Can you just ditch them and treat the next three days as if you are a solo traveller?
You sound lovely, your kids will be delighted to see you when you do get home xxx

@geekygirldoesnotfitin

i totally relate to how you feel & how much it hurts, won't bore everyone with my experience but it was awful & I just wanted to go home, when I got home my partner at the time was incredible.

BUT I wouldn't go home now. I'd just enjoy the break (the sun, the pool, sleep, food whatever is your thing). If you see the others blank them & TRY not to dwell on it.

As a 'bigger girl' myself, I know how shit it feels, sadly it's quite common amongst group of younger/slimmer women.

TRY to enjoy your break. All the 'at home' stresses will be there soon enough!!

I'd fly home asap if you can afford it. If not, just treat it as a solo holiday and avoid the mean girls as much as possible.

What have I just read? Honestly, why are people like this. They must have egos the size of bloody planets!

It's so hard to understand this behaviour isn't it?

I think I'd stay if possible just to not give them the satisfaction of you leaving early.

Are you sharing a room?

I really hope someone is depending on you for a lift from the airport!

That was such a hard read. Poor you. You sound lovely. Holiday dynamics are a strange beast. It's clearly them and not you. If you could go home I would. And if you have the guts I'd say to the group that you are leaving and if anyone asks why be honest and say they've all made you feel like the odd one out and they've made you feel uncomfortable.

I haven’t read all of the replies so apologies if this has already been asked, but are you ND op? Because this has been my experience with some NT people, it’s like they can sense we’re not on the same wavelength and then the exclusionary behaviour starts. Not everyone will be like that but it becomes like pack mentality where others don’t want to be singled out so they just go along with it.