Aibu to want to go home

Id go home, it sounds miserable and they sound like absolute dicks.

Don't put up with this treatment OP. You can either go home, or distance yourself from this group and do your own thing. Whichever you prefer.

It is not you, it is them. Perhaps they are not on an exact wavelength with you (you say that you are the only one with DC); there is obviously some dynamic going on with them but chances are it is something really petty and stupid. It is not normal to behave like this, ostracising members of a group is playground bullying and should be regarded with the contempt it deserves.

I had a similar experience on a holiday I went on with a friend & her DH several years ago, among the group were her 2 other single female friends so we were thrown together a lot, had to share a room etc. None of us knew each other before but the 2 friends really hit it off. Nothing wrong with that but they would chat to each other only & I was excluded. If I tried to join in they ignored me, sometimes they would whisper to each other when I was the only other one there.

It was just excruciating, sitting in a hotel room in the mornings/evenings/nights being ignored. On a holiday I had paid for and wanted to be enjoying.

At the time I had very little confidence, so I kept second guessing myself - were they really deliberately shutting me out the way it felt? What had I done/what was the matter with me? Looking back though it is obvious they were just blatantly rude and spiteful, it was no more complicated than that.

I would want to fly home early and not tell them. I would want them to worry about me and wonder where I am (although they sound far too self absorbed to do that). I would block and delete the "friend"

It sounds horrible. Your "friend" is horrible and has horrible friends.

I might text the first sentence of that message but not the second. Because I wouldn’t be happy to have a coffee with someone who’s behaved the way she has, and I also wouldn’t be putting myself in a situation where I’m reaching out to her and she’s free to reject the invitation if she wants.

Reading your comments again, OP, I wonder if your "friend" asked you because someone pulled out and they didn't want to spread the cost between the rest of them, so she needed your money. Then she told her friends that you weren't going to be hanging around with them, spoiling their influencer vibe, and would be doing your own thing. But she didn't tell you that, hence why she's avoiding you too. This is 100% on her.

Frankly I'd be going home AND asking her for a refund.

I'd actually book another hotel somewhere for the next few days have a lovely break, a bubble bath, some G&Ts, sight see, read a book, get a massage all without being watched or feeling judged and go home to my kids having had a refreshing break and prevented this whole episode from being a bad memory

This is miserable for you! I would honestly go home. I really would. Your 'friend' has made it clear she is superficial and shallow and doesn't care about you, her treatment of you is horrible. Every day that you're there, every hour will remind you she is with her friends and you are not one of them.

Go home and be with your children! Do yourself a favour! Leave straight away or tonight if you can.

What a bunch of cunts. I'm actually embarrassed for them, it's incredibly childish and pathetic.
I'd be off on the earliest flight. If there isn't anything or it's a fortune, I'd buy a few decent books and sit by the pool reading for the last few days or plan some sightseeing on my own. Don't make anymore effort. Once you are back in the UK drop "friend" like a hot rock.

Can you enjoy your last few days on your own ? If you can ... sip cocktails by the pool, read books etc and enjoy the little break and nice weather.

If that's not for you then get in a plane. Life is too short

You sound like a lovely, considerate person. They sound like a bunch of vicious bitches and do not deserve your company. Please stop trying to find reasons as to why they may not like you, they haven't even given you a chance, which suggest they are a nasty lot and simply not worth a thought.
I would leave early or do your own thing for the remainder of the trip, then dump your friend and spend time with people who love you.
I feel really bad for you but hoping that the support from Mumsnetters helps a little.
Sending hugs x

I think it depends on what will make you most comfortable. Either go home without telling anyone as don’t see the point to make any effort with them. Or relax away from the clique and just ignore them. Say hi if they greet you but just be polite. I know some hotels organise day trips or excursions if you ask the reception. Or look for a tourist information point for these type of things. You can interact with different people from different countries during these trips as well.

How about staying but pleasing yourself, OP? Stop trying to be actively pleasant. Make your own arrangements for the day — choose something you'd like to do, somewhere you'd like to go and just go and do it. Come down to breakfast and don't try to be smiley and chatty, just take your breakfast outside and listen to a podcast in the sun. Go on a little adventure on a local bus, take a day trip — anything that will enable you to feel independent and not reliant on them. Do it for you.

I once booked a place on a small-group walking holiday which turned out to be full of people who knew each other and had come away together. They had no interest in me and it felt very isolating. After trying to bond and failing, I just did my own thing — and then eventually people came and talked to me and wanted to get to know me, by which time I didn't care.

God just go off and do your own thing

Fuck them

If you have a separate room and can do your own thing, try to enjoy your remaining days on your own. Perhaps do an excursion if the hotel arranges anything, or do some treatments or classes. Have room service if you can. Spend as little time as possible with these awful women. I’d your selfish friend ever asks, tell her she and her group are the rudest, most immature bunch you have ever met and you don’t want to spend a second more with them, especially her.

Whatever you think you’ve done to upset/annoy them would pale into insignificance compared to their treatment of you. You’ve done nothing wrong.

They sound like arsehole and you wouldn't gel with them because you aren't one.

This.

All of this up here, OP!
Don’t seek them out. Forget them. Don’t feel embarrassed or low.
Join a group tour one day. Go to a museum. Get your book and your drink, and relax by the pool.

Use the time to be lovely to yourself. That’s very powerful - you’ll feel better about it.

You poor thing - that sounds awful. If there’s only a few days left, I’d just go and do your own thing and enjoy the time on your own.Have a massage, read a book make the most of it.
Maybe you can text friend and say something like - ,’I’m not sure what’s going on here but I just want to enjoy the rest of my time away so will be flying solo from now on. Happy to do a coffee and debrief when we return to Uk if you’d like x’

What you have at home is priceless OP. These are just shallow airheads, not friends and not nice people.

Can you facetime the DC and then get on a plane early? These people aren't worth a second of your time. Let that part of your life go.

I agree with others, you sound very sweet and emotionally intelligent - I guarantee it's not something you've done, they sound like a bunch of adult high school bitches!!!

What a bunch of immature bitches
I'm sure you haven't done anything
You've made every effort to engage with them and show interest so please don't be down on yourself
If you can enjoy yourself exploring the area do that, but if you'd feel uncomfortable( I would) then see if you can change your flight. Pack up and leave and message them from the airport
Find new friends when you're home
I'm really sorry

Sending you much love and warmth. Feeling very sad for you reading this. I think you should plan some lovely things for yourself, and then never see or speak to this “friend” again.

If it's only a few days, I would stay and make it the best solo holiday you can possibly have. If you bump into them, fine, but otherwise just go and do all the things you want to do when you want to do them. I really feel for you though, it is a horrible thing to experience, especially the nagging doubt of what you might have done or what might be wrong. There is nothing wrong with you or your company OP. They sound like arsehole and you wouldn't gel with them because you aren't one. It sounds as though your own company is better than theirs anyway, so try and enjoy it.

She's an influencer? I'd have such fun with Instagram.

I wouldn't want to make the trip home with them, OP. I'd see if I could get a flight tomorrow.

They all (inc your ‘friend) sound absolutely fucking awful.
I wouldn't stay for the next 3 days.
I’d do as other posters have said, and leave and not tell them. Then if your ‘friend’ does ever enquire as to your whereabouts explain about her and her packs’ rude and obnoxious behaviour. Then fuck her right off for good.

Treat the next 3 days like a solo holiday, read your book, swim, go out, have lovely meals at different places. Screw your "friend" and the rest of the mean girls.