Aibu to want to go home

You don't deserve this!

How old are they?

I'd get a flight home without telling them and leave a note on the table explaining why!

Nothing you have done apart from turn up and be slightly different to the others
My guess is that a few of them will look back and be ashamed of their behaviour in a few years time when they have children. The rest will be utter arseholes their whole life and will treat those in the group the same when they announce their pregnancies

My guess is these groups like to pick on one person it gives them something to live for and it is holiday entertainment

Either ignore and avoid them and do your own thing for the rest of the holiday. Stay in when they go out and go out when they stay in. Don’t know where you are but sometimes there are other groups and solo travellers who you meet that are more on your wavelength than the people you come on holiday with.

Or think “Fuck this”and quietly book a flight and leave for the airport when no one is around and permanently block your friend

How old are these women because they sound like they are still at school and too young to be going on any holiday without their parents to have them play nice.

Sorry to hear this.

I would pack my bag, not tell anyone and go home. If you stay, you'll be on the same flight and have that nasty taste in your mouth.

Go home to your kids and ignore any messages from your 'friend'.

I agree. It’s really depressing that grown women can still act like bitchy school girls.

if you can afford it I would go home. Send a text from the airport telling them what immature nasty cows they are.

'Room meat'

What's the location like? I'd plan a lovely couple of days for myself and act as if it were a solo holiday. Don't blame yourself, you've just had the bad luck to go on holiday with a bunch of weirdos. And your friend is not as nice as you thought

I would treat it as a solo trip from now on and just please yourself, trying to avoid the lot of them. I think I would say/message your friend to point out that she invited you and is now acting like you're an inconvenience. Give her the chance to sort herself out, but it feels like the friendship is dead.

I wouldn’t go home but I would plan full day activities that don’t involve anyone else.

If anyone says anything then say exactly what you’ve said on here.

I know sometimes people can unintentionally be left out but this isn’t unintentional.
Any of them would be able to see that you are on your own and that they haven’t asked you questions and things.

All of them sound awful.
If I was there I would be making extra effort with you.

and if your friend does message you to see where you are

Leave it on unread and make her worry.

BobbyBiscuits, OP meant she was a big girl as in she could accept some of the treatment, not her size.

Are you in a nice place? If you are happy enough to do your own thing - sightseeing, spa, reading, nice meals, then I'd do that. Ditch the groups and make the most of some "me" time before going back to "mum" time.

And obviously downgrade the "friend" to an acquaintance.

Unflattering angles? Unedited pictures? Tage her in all of them 😂

If it was me, I think I’d do everything I wanted to do over the next few days. I’d take myself off with a book, sit outside cafes and people watch, have a wander around the old town (I love an old town), I’d have dinner at a different place or a different time and I’d feel no obligation to even pretend to want to join in with them. Think of it as a mini break before seeing your DC again.

But if you’d feel uncomfortable with that, then definitely see if you can get an earlier flight home. Don’t bother telling any of them you’re leaving early and if your friend does message you to see where you are, reply ‘currently somewhere over the Alps. Enjoy the rest of your holiday’. And then switch your phone off.

This is bloody sad to read. I am fuming for you lovely op. I echo pp who said you sound wonderful and I would use this as an opportunity to please only yourself and bloody well ignore the 2 gangs of witches.

We all need a break sometimes and you’re already there so your holiday starts now and they can all piss off because you don’t need them.

shame on every single one of them 😡

The mean part of me thinks the OP should tag her influencer friend in real unfiltered shots or send behind the scenes shots to the account Influencers in the Wild

@FoundObject you are just making excuses. If they were nice people they wouldn't have made the OP feel isolated like they are doing. They sound horrible.

@geekygirldoesnotfitin

There are some people who when in groups have to have a 'goat'. The 'goat' is the person they 'isolate' within the group to prove to themselves how superior they are. They can't feel 'good' about themselves unless they're making someone else feel 'bad' and excluded. Unfortunately it sounds as if both groups have nominated you as the 'goat'.

I'd do one of two things if it were feasible; either invent an emergency and leave now, or move to another hotel and enjoy the time on my own, doing my own thing and having a room to myself. As a mum we get little enough 'me time' so you may as well take advantage of it. What I wouldn't do is hang around trying to ingratiate myself. You tried and it didn't work, so fuck them all.

If neither were possible I'd physically separate myself from the group as much as possible, doing my own thing, rather than hanging around them in the background.

Your 'friend' is a nasty person and no friend. I think you're right that she wanted a big 'entourage' for her Insta. I know we use the phrase for romantic partners but speaking of her as a friend, frankly she's giving me the Ick.

I can't think of anything worse than holidaying with people I don't know and leaving my children behind for that in the first place. It might not be anything personal. Sometimes people just don't really gel and that's fine. I'd go home to your kids and not waste anymore time. I'd also rethink the friendship.

That doesn't make much sense, though, if there were already two separate groups of her friends going? Or are you saying she asked you in case both groups of friends dropped out?

It sounds to me as if you've just unfortunately fallen between the groups, both of whom know one another. I'm sure you've done nothing to upset anyone, you're just not in either group, no one's met you before, and your 'friend', for whatever reason, seems to have decided that, although she begged you to come on this trip, it's not her responsibility to help you integrate, or make sure you're not left out.

Who knows what the dynamics between the two groups are like, anyway, especially if, as you say, your friend, who is the sole person who knows everyone on the holiday, is spending all her time with one group? Anyway, not your problem.

I would find a way to enjoy yourself solo for the rest of the trip -- go and take a day trip, or to something that's better experienced alone, like an art gallery? And your takeaway from the holiday should be never to holiday again with strangers. This scenario was never likely to go well for you, even if there had been only one group of your 'friend's friends.

Absolutely!

What a bunch of nasty bitches to treat you like that 😠 if you can get a flight relatively cheaply and you want to go home early, I'd do that. If it's going to cost you a fortune, I'd just ignore them and do your own thing as much as possible. If you do leave, I'd just go and not say anything. Send your friend a text when you've left and tell her how rude and nasty they all are!

Hi OP, I had my first solo holiday abroad last year just a few days away in Italy, and after the first day of feeling a bit self-conscious, I loved it! It was super relaxing. If you can spend a few days chilling out in the sun, it will do you the world of good. I wouldn't consider the inviter my friend anymore, though.

You sound lovely, it’s definitely them.

Fuck them all. They are nothing but a bunch of immature bitches. I can just imagine them all with their fake nails, fake hair, fake eyelashes, fake tits, fake faces and fucking fake personalities. Fuck. Them. All. OP

Enjoy the next few days. Lie by the pool or go sightseeing or just pamper yourself. And when you get home, tell your 'friend' to fuck off.

I'm so angry for you. Tell us what airport you're flying back into and they'll be met by an angry Mumsnet mob with flaming torches and placards 🤬

I'd just do my own thing, be polite if spoken to but not bother attempting to interact with them again otherwise.

Then when you get home, tell your 'friend' what a cow she is and block her.

I wonder if you were asked to fill a place someone else dropped out of and one or both groups are childishly taking out disappointment at someone they know not attending, on you... Might explain why your friend was insistent that you come?

Whatever the 'reason' though, it isn't OK to behave this way and your supposed friend is an absolute shit.