Aibu to want to go home

I wonder if they needed one more person to get a group rate or something? It sounds horrible. If it was me I'd go home and cut the friendship

They are disgusting bullies, and your 'friend' should be absolutely ashamed of herself. What an appalling thing to do to someone, leaving you second guessing all holiday and filled with self doubt. It's utterly inexcusable. Once I got home, I'd block your so-called friend and leave her to it.

They sound like horribly, bullying mean girls out of the teen years. I'm so sorry. I will honestly never understand how people can choose to be so nasty to other people.

That's really sad, glad you're making the best of it.

What struck me is that you're the only Mum.
Are you a lot older than them ?
Have you been talking about your kids ?
You might have been boring them.

You sound lovely and I’m sorry they’re being so awful. Don’t take it personally, they just sound immature and bitchy.

I’d completely ignore them the rest of the trip and do your own thing. Poolside with a book and a cocktail type thing. Spa trip. And I’d definitely be going NC with this so called ‘friend’.

So sorry OP.
I feel sorry for these women. They are pathetic bitches with no life skills or social decorum and they obviously aren't going to get very far in life if this is how they treat people.
You sound lovely.
Nothing else to say that hasn't already been said, but I hope you try to enjoy the remainder of your holiday doing what you fancy, or if it's not too expensive, go home.
Don't ever speak to your friend again.
It'd be justified if you can make her feel uncomfortable of front of the group before you go. But I'm petty 😅
Solidarity from a fellow geek who doesn't fit in 👊
Take care x

I wondered the same about ND (I'm ND) but honestly when people are this shallow just being the only mum can be enough to be left out. Or having brown hair. Or anything really. Groups like this only bond over excluding people.

The main thing to take away from this is: it's not you. Let me repeat that in capitals. IT'S NOT YOU.

A subset of women behave like this. They literally never grow out of it. They are the friend equivalent of Pick Me girl. They don't even feel like they exist except in relation to the group. I have watched well-groomed, outwardly-confident, professional women behave like this in a work setting, never mind a social setting. I view them as six to twelve year olds emotionally because their emotional growth gets stunted early on.

They're not your problem. Leave them to their shallow lives. You'll be fine OP

Glad to see your update
It's great you have your own room as you can literally do whatever you like
You've made a good plan and it sounds like there is enough to do where you are
I hope the weather is kind to you. Enjoy

Their loss, just enjoy your time your way, don't indulge them by seeming upset. Some of them may genuinely not know you are out of both groups, but that doesn't excuse being rude.

You sound lovely, and resilient (even if you don't feel it).
They sound like silly little girls.
I hope you can enjoy the rest of your time there.
When you get home - seriously reconsider this 'friendship'.

I second this.

I bet they are getting a kick at leaving you out, mean girls build themselves up by putting others down. Like all bullies if you stand up to them and take their power from them it’ll just make them seem pathetic.

A similar thing happened to me 14 years ago and it still hurts. I went to my best friend’s hen party and I was the only person who was single without children in this situation.
I tried to take an interest and asked about their kids and husbands but was just ignored, the only time I was spoken to was to put me down because I had a different lifestyle.
I worked long hours in a job I loved at the time, had a busy social life and I remember being made to feel completely worthless and immature. I was only 27 but there were lots of comments about how awful my life was because I wasn’t settled down with a family and acting like my life was empty without children.

In the end I got fed up of tagging along behind them and went off and did my own thing. They seemed most put out by this. I went out one evening on my own and met another group of people and came back to the hotel after a great night and just ignored my friend and the group for the rest of the trip. I showed them that I wasn’t up for being bullied but it did hurt.

I also looked and dressed differently to these women and felt like I was ruining the aesthetic of the group which was especially hurtful.
I had bought some silly hen might accessories and a sash and tiara for my friend was treated like I’d brought crack cocaine! The bag was hurriedly taken off me by one of the other women who shook her head in disapproval and said “We will NOT be be needing this! We are grown adults not silly teenagers”
When I tried to order a 3rd bottle of wine to be shared between 12 women when we went out for a meal someone commented on my issues with alcohol.
Looking back on it now it was all quite strange and the funny thing is most of these women are divorced and I’ve been with my partner for over 10 years.

Are you neurodivergent like a pp asked? Sometimes people do pick up on it, mean girls like the group you are with tend to pick on anyone who is different.
Your comments about being annoying stood out to me, I feel like I annoy people or don’t fit in and struggle around groups and I’m neurodivergent.
I think sometimes it’s in my head but sometimes I stand out among neurotypical people. I’ve learned to accept it and most of my friends and partner are also neurodivergent, they also struggle in big groups of strangers.

If you go off and do your own thing it’ll be better for your self esteem and show these bitches that they aren’t getting to you. Try and enjoy yourself so it’s not a complete waste of money and time. If you really don’t want to stick it out and prefer to go home and it’s not too big an inconvenience then just leave without saying goodbye.

Let them find someone else to pick on - because they will. I bet most of them are just going along with leaving you out because they are relieved it’s not them on the receiving end.

You sound lovely OP and deserve to be treated with more respect then this.

This. Freedom to do as you want without people you don't like or kids restricting you.

I think you're doing the right thing, no point losing out on even more money. They sound horrible and I wouldn't be bothering with your so called friend again either.
Hope you can have a nice final few days by yourself chilling. Worth having a look if there's any excursions you could go on too, ask at the hotel reception or on Tripadvisor.

Thanks for the update OP! Very glad to hear you’ve got your own room and it’s a lovely place.

Well I hope you enjoy your remaining 3 days.

If you don't want to travel with them to the airport, could you go by taxi?

Good for you! Enjoy the place, have a doze on the bus. Get a book or magazine for the plane. Don’t waste your breath on them xxxx

I would not be spending extra money to go home early.

Im with the 'do your own thing' brigade for these last few days, and forget the others.

Just text your friend ‘I’m sorry but had to head home early. Have a great holiday’ I would then be ditching her arse.

Honestly IMO grown women really need to communicate more directly than this. Please don’t apologise to her, don’t imply there’s an external reason other than her and her friends’ behaviour for why you needed to leave, and don’t wish her a great holiday unless you actually mean it.

Make the most of these last few days, go and have adventures. It might be a long while until you can get away alone again. Get home and let contact with your ‘friend’ fade.

This. Enjoy.

I think the previous poster was so right - your friend only invited you to be her back up if the other groups left her out. Now you’re there she is all caught up in the ‘popular girl’ dynamics and being a shit friend. If you’re genuinely missing your little one, just book the next flight and don’t even tell anyone. Just text your friend ‘I’m sorry but had to head home early. Have a great holiday’ I would then be ditching her arse.

You should ask your friend outright why she invited you and why she (and the others) are now ignoring you. Tell your friend how rude she and they all are and be honest and tell her it is upsetting you. I suspect she is putting on an act in front of these other friends unfortunately at your expense.
There’s only a few days left, do your own thing and ignore them all.

Some people are saying to go home (I would want to too) but I don’t think OP should because that’s almost like giving in to them.

OP has paid and she shouldn’t have to fork out for more money for an early flight.

She should just try and enjoy herself as best as she can without them all.
(I would try and do really fun things so they are jealous).

And then block them all (especially the so called friend who should be making the most effort).

OP if you don’t mind saying where you are, there may be some MNers who will give you advice on where to go or perhaps even meet for a coffee with you.