Aibu to want to go home

The OP said she was asking about them and trying to make general conversation.

Anyway even if you do think someone is boring you don't exclude them on a holiday. The worst person for this is the friend who invited her. She's a real selfish mean-girl. She shouldn't have invited someone on holiday and then isolated them. It's beyond rude as is the leaving the pool when the OP gets in and getting in when she leaves.

I often find certain people's conversation to be less than diverting. I don't seek those people's company out but I would never exclude them or ignore them on a night out. It's so unkind.

As others have said, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you OP and a hell of a lot wrong with the people you are with. They are behaving disgracefully, and it's your bad luck you have ended up on holiday with such a horrible bunch.
Ignore them for the rest of the trip and try to make the best of the few days you have left. At some point you should tackle your 'friend' and demand an explanation. Then dump her.

☹️ some girls are just full of their own self importance 🩷

@geekygirldoesnotfitin

Glad you're feeling better and especially that you have your own room. Enjoy your 'me time'.

I think I'd see if there was alternative transport to the airport, even if it was a bit more. How nice it would be to arrive via taxi (or Uber) knowing they're on a crowded bus lol. And I'd check with the airline about any empty seats to see if you can swap your seat assignment.

So glad to read your update and that you've your own room.

I would not liaise with them from now on, go down for breakfast on your own and do your own thing.

If you pass one of them at the pool and there's eye contact a nod in passing if you dont want to feel bad on the bus and plane home.

If your so called friend challenges you just say calmly I don't feel welcome in either group so am doing my own thing.

But after you get off the plane block the harpies and never speak to 'friend" again.

Feel so sorry for you but rise above the snidey fuckers.

What the actual?! 😆 that's batshit!!

I think just leaving is a little drastic, just style it out if you have just a few days left explore on your own, just put it down to experience, maybe find some cool little presents for DC? Treat yourself etc. These girls all sounds like dicks OP x

Fuck that for a game of soldiers, I would fly home and not even tell your friend you are leaving.

@Minimili I find this mindset odd- you don’t know that those big groups of friends weren’t ‘proper’ friendships, or that they’re shallow and superficial.

This is your problem. Influencer = fake friends and even more fake lifestyles! And they sound like 8 or 9 year olds in the playground!

If you can you should escape .
They really don't sound like nice people at all.
You sound lovely.

This is very true and it’s sad for them really.

I used to be quite envious when I saw big groups of friends on nights out or going on holiday together. I always felt quite inadequate for only having a few close friends.

I realise now that these groups aren’t even proper friends, the pp who commented about “room meat” really summed it up. These are shallow, superficial friendships and none of them probably know each other deeper then surface level.

I might only have a few friends but I know I can call them in the middle of the night if I need to and my best friend is closer to me than my own sister. We speak every day and have been together through thick and thin.

A few years ago my partner couldn’t get time off from work and I was desperate for a holiday so I went alone. It was so liberating and I loved every minute pleasing myself and doing what I wanted.

I read books, swam, used the spa, went on trips, met other people and joined them sometimes but mostly enjoyed my own company.

I saw the big groups and felt relieved I wasn’t part of one and having to follow with whatever the group wanted to do or being involved with complicated friendship dynamics.

I’ve been away several times on my own now and a lot of people find it strange but I find it stranger that some people go away with groups of people they don’t even like just because it makes them look popular.

God they sound awful! So rude. So unfriendly. Do whatever you want to do at this point. I'd be tempted to make the most of the rest of the holiday rather than faffing about changing flights and potentially losing money. Enjoy the pool, the beach (if there is one), sunbathe, read, eat out somewhere nice if you don't feel too self conscious alone, do some sightseeing, shopping, beauty treatments, whatever you like doing. Enjoy indulging yourself without considering the others. Completely sack them off. Ignore. Ignore. Enjoy. Enjoy. x

What absolute twats. So sorry OP.

If you can afford to change your arrangements, I think it would be best if you go home asap. You are clearly having a rotten time and you’d be much happier at home. Leave the rest of them to their holiday. They sound very odd / childish.

I'd do the same as you OP, especially as you have your own room.

Enjoy doing 'you' things, take a book and eat when you like, chat with whomever you bump into, there might be far more interesting people there who aren't stuck up bitches who'd be happy to chat and go out for a meal or drinks.

And absolutely, stay out of any pictures. If she's using everyone to up her numbers in the insta game, don't help her out! Even at the airport, go do your own thing. Be the mysterious solo traveller that other travellers are marvelling at because you look so chill and sorted. Not with a squawking group of mean girl wannabes.

You'll take home so much resilience from this, you won't have room for souvenirs!

Enjoy every minute of your holiday without worrying or engaging with them anymore.
Out of interest, does it look like they're all getting on and having a good time? I suspect they aren't, the whole holiday is shit and they're using you as the scapegoat to justify why they're having a terrible time.

Well done OP. It's not you, it's them!

I wouldn't recommend this. Let her go

Hi OP, I can understand why you feel confused and upset, especially as you are overseas. Definitely a 'pack' mentality and you describe yourself as being different as you are the only parent. The group's behaviour sounds incredibly immature. I would stick it out and enjoy the change of scenery and foreign land.
And a break from your child/ren, as much as you miss them.
A return short notice flight is likely to be very expensive.
As for your friend, let this be a life lesson for you, take care

I'd go and do my own thing.

I'd even look at cost of another hotel alone against cost of flight home if you're willing to spend the cash and have it to spend.

If not I'd stay alone and read and enjoy your down time. I'd then get up and travel to airport alone and book yourself in alone so you don't have to fly with them.

You sound lovely ! They have NO manners !

Please don’t assume you must have done something wrong. These women are being selfish and unkind. It sounds like they have their own clique(s) and just want to keep with that. I can’t help but wonder if you were invited because someone dropped out and rather than that person having to pay for a holiday they couldn’t go on, or the cost being shared by the rest, they wanted someone else to come to save them money. A horrible thought, but that would speak volumes about them, if they can’t then make the effort to embrace the ‘outsider’. My advice, just do your own thing and enjoy the peace and quiet of walking, reading, swimming etc alone. 💐

She is no friend, please see the other side of your ‘friend’ now and don’t have anything to do with her when you’re back. I’m annoyed on your behalf on how these supposedly grown women have treated you. You sound lovely, so enjoy the lovely place on your own, it will be a lot more pleasant without these nasty groups

Hi OP,

Just wanted to say, it’s definitely not you - different or not, any normal decent, kind human beings would welcome everyone to the group even if you’re a bit different in where you’re at in your life - single, married with kids or not etc.
what a bunch of bitches - you are doing right to try to enjoy your last couple of days and do what makes you happy.

And I’d be dropping your ‘friend’ as soon as you get home xx