Aibu to want to go home

You didn't sleep with one of their husbands when you both 16, did you ?

Seriously though, I would spend the next three days doing whatever you feel like doing, might you have time to set up a little account yourself ? entitled 'what do to in X, when your Influencer friend turns out to be a complete bitch '

Ah just read your updates. Good idea. Stick to yourself. Try to let their weird and childish attitudes wash off you. You’re a lovely person remember that! Have a couple quiet days rest. Great you have your own room

Op, you sounds lovely and very self-aware and reflective. I'm sure the problem is not with you.

But your 'friend' is a twat, and her friends sound vile. What are they, auditioning for extras in Mean Girls? They can all get to fuck.

I'd do your own thing for the next few days and enjoy the break as much as you can.

I'd also be tempted to tell them they're all rude fuckwits too.

@geekygirldoesnotfitin you sound like a lovely person. I'm sorry these people you're stuck with aren't nice people. Please don't doubt yourself. I'm glad you're taking the rest of the time to rest and recharge.

Pretend they don't exist for the rest of your stay and get a different bus/taxi to the airport so you don't have to put up with them. Are you sat next to each other on the flight? Might be worth changing seats if you can.

If I were you, your "friend" would be blocked the moment the plane set down in the UK.

I’m sorry OP. They sound like a bunch of 13 year olds!!

You sound lovely and I was wondering if you could ask your friend what’s up?

I wouldn't waste any more time or energy on them and enjoy a solo holiday doing whatever I want to do!
I'd also ditch my "friend" once I'm home.

God I can’t believe adult women actually behave like this. It’s bewildering.

Are you sharing a room? This must be absolutely horrendous 😢

This is one of life’s lessons

I’m not sure how old you are, but I’m in my 20s and learned this lesson through a friend’s wedding last year when it was awkward after her different friendship groups started to mingle and her friendship priorities became obvious. Some people were definitely “numbers” invites and felt uncomfortable. Looking back, it would have been easier if the bride introduced the different groups of people before her hen night and before her wedding to give them the opportunity to pull out.

In your case, never go on holiday with people you don’t socialise with in real life. You can’t be sure if you’d even invite them to your house, why on earth would you jump to the extreme of spending a holiday with them? If you had a night out with these people before you went on holiday, you’d have probably declined the holiday invite.

I don’t think you’ve done anything wrong to these people but for whatever reason you’re not their cup of tea, there might be some peer pressure/group bullying at play and they don’t want to include you. Personally I’ve never done that to someone, so I’m not sure what the issue is. However I do think your friend should have made more of an effort to introduce and include you

I'd ask my friend WTF is going on and then just act if I were on holiday on my own, do my own thing, and as if the others were just random guests in the hotel.

Nah, I wouldn't bother. Anyone who would be as unkind as OP's 'friend' has been doesn't deserve to know they've upset me and wouldn't be bothered they had anyway.

I'd get home and simply drop the friendship with no explanation.

Poor you op, it sounds awful. I think they are just not very nice, cliquey people. I’d be leaving and not bothering with the friend after this.

It sounds like someone dropped out and didn’t pay their share and you were begged to come to save them from forking out the extra.
Ask Your friend why she invited you when she’s not spent any time with you and tell her how you feel. If she fibs you off, the friendship is over I’m afraid xx

Get a flight home asap and because I’m bitter I wouldn’t tell them. See how long it takes anyone to notice you have left!

I'm sorry, but you are still justifying their behaviour. If they were decent human beings they would make an effort to include the OP.

DD (23) introduces her friends from different friendships groups to each other, as do her friends. They make friends with each other's friends.

These two groups sound quite possessive about their own friendship groups. I might expect this from a schoolkid, but not from adults.

Your friend sounds like a nasty piece of work to ask you on holidays and then completely ignore you, I'd be cutting her off no explanations given once I got home

@geekygirldoesnotfitin I think you're doing the right thing.

They sounds horrible but if you left I think it would give them ammunition to call you rude or dramatic or whatever.

By just quietly getting on and enjoying your holiday by yourself shows them that they are inconsequential to them.

And yes, don't waste your money on an earlier flight.

Relax, chill out, enjoy the peace and quiet.

By the way OP. Sitting relaxing in a local bar or in the hotel bar with a glass of wine can be very restorative. Often hotels have a stash of books left by guests so you can grab something to read and then I usually sit at the bar so I can chat to the bar staff as well.
Enjoy!

So called friend would be jettisoned as soon as possible when back home .

So how are any of these people including your 'friend' going to know how miserable the way they have all treated you has made you feel on this holiday? Without a doubt I would have gone home and told her exactly why after reminding her she practically begged you to go. I would also be re-evaluating this friendship and never going away with her again.

I’d start enjoying my own company. Get up early have my breakfast, relax by the pool, get myself some snacks and wine for my room, sit on the balcony if there’s one. I’d even chat to other people, go to the spa etc. Tbh sounds like bliss. However, what your friend has done is unacceptable and she’d be no friend of mine when I returned home.

No OP. I can guarantee you wouldn’t have done anything wrong.

Some women can be bitchy. And carry on their mean girl cliques after finishing school.

It doesn’t matter if you look, dress and act different to them. It doesn’t give them the right to exclude you and ignore you.

I bet they all slag each other off behind their backs anyway. Life is so much better with a few good trusted friend then big groups of judgemental idiots.

It will feel really lonely, but do your own thing. YANBU to want to go home but I’d just stick out the next couple of days and enjoy some peace at the beach or exploring the local area.

OP you sound really nice and I'd much rather talk to you than the nasty, bullying women. At least that frenemy has shown her true colours. I bet she'll fawn round you when you get back. Resist at all costs.

Honestly op this is awful to read. How grown women can be so rude and exclude you is just shocking.

So what if you're different to them if you're the only one with kids surely they could just be polite amd include you in the chat. The whole getting out of the pool then back in is schoolkid behaviour.

I hope you can mentally survive the journey home then please block the 'friend' who invited you in the first place. What a bunch of nasty people .