Aibu to want to go home

As a man I still can't fully comprehend that tribal side of some women and why they do that. I can think of all the situations as a teenager or grown man where I wouldnt know the other guys in a social setting but no one would make me feel uncomfortable as an outsider.

If you’re in a hotel ask if they have a sister hotel nearby. Sometimes you can use the facilities at another hotel.

Try to stick it out for the few days you have left, if you can, in case it costs you financially to get an earlier flight home. Are there places nearby you could take yourself off to that would interest you? It sounds to me as if these people are being quite rude and ignorant, and your friend isn’t being supportive of you either. Bare it out for the few days left, if you possibly can, then evaluate your relationship with this friend once you are home - do you really want her in your life after this, or not? Chalk it up to experience, then prioritise what is more important to you. I’m so sorry that you are finding yourself in this situation. Shame on them all, really, for treating you in this way.

Personally, I think you've paid for one of their holidays.

Often if you're booking for a bigger group, tour operators offer "15th person free", or something like that. I think she begged you to go to make up the numbers, and someone is getting a freebie and laughing at your expense.

I'm so sorry this has happened OP.

Enjoy some free time and sod them. Have fun by yourself. Nothing wrong with that. Who needs cows like them.

Been following...I agree with others saying to find some nice things to do and make the most of the last few days. I'd be googling Best restaurants/bakeries/ cafes/music venues/spas etc. look for a drop in yoga/workout in the park (i did this in Japan!), check out a museum or a few landmarks, theatre, hop on/off tourist bus, anything, but I'd jam-pack my days and take loads of pics to share with my family once home. Might be your only chance for a while til you can travel again! Don't let these bitches bring you down!!! 💥

I suppose that's what you get when you go away with an "influencer" and her acolytes? OP, I hope you have some seriously unflattering photos of them with their eyebrow paint running, or not holding in their stomachs, or whatever, for your own social media purposes! 😂

Seriously, it's not you, it's them. Enjoy your time without them, just roll your eyes at any comments on the way home, and never think of them again (except when you need a laugh).

I'm of the same ilk as yourself.
Really feel for op truly awful to be somewhere when it's patently obvious you're not welcome.

This is horrible to read! I'm so sorry. I remember being ignored in middle school and how awful it made me feel.

Those women sound awful. Totally awful.

Your friend is a shitty person too. She should beaking you feel welcome and involving you in conversations.

How old is everyone?

I wonder if it’s possible your ‘friend’ has told each group if they’ve enquired, that you invited yourself or she felt sorry for you somehow, to big herself up a bit to them, and she’s having to go along with what she’s said. Either way I’d tell her exactly what happened on the holiday once home and then cut her loose.

I honestly don't think you've done anything wrong - if you had done something bad enough to upset 2 groups of people plus your friend, you would know. They just sound nasty and bitchy. If you were a child and this was happening, we would recognise it as bullying. For whatever reason, they have decided to isolate you. As others have said, do your own thing. There's nothing worst than trying to be in a space where you are not welcomed. Get a guide book, find things that you want to do/places to go and do that - try to enjoy the rest of the holiday so that it doesn't feel like a complete waste of time and money. I would be civil but that's all, definitely wouldn't go out of my way to be involved with them. I suspect there is some tension between the two groups and they have picked on you as the lone person, instead of fighting each other. And your 'friend' is a dick.

Id go home...life too short for this.. I'd also rethink the friend. Yanbu

Something similar happened to me once. The person who invited me and at whose house I was staying was vile to me. I got a flight home early but if I’d been staying in a hotel I probably would have done my own thing until the end of the holiday. It’s a really shitty thing to do to someone and I never spoke to her again.

I’m too old to really know what an influencer is, but I know what a bitch is and she is one.

Enjoy your time on your own and don’t bother with this ‘friend’ again.

I've not read it all but I'm so sorry people behave like this!
I'd probably want to have gone home but I'm a knee jerk person. Just leave them to it, and then perhaps give this so called "friend" a wide berth when you return home.

Sorry OP that’s rotten. I hope you have some nice time to yourself. Some people can be so cliquey and insecure. It might be nothing to do with you and they would act that way with anyone.

I'd look online and see if you can change your flight without much expense; otherwise I'd stick it out but stay well clear of them all. It's an odd dynamic to have two groups of friends there, and presumably there are well established dynamics within each group so you're just falling through the cracks like every other person in your situation would do. It certainly isn't you or your fault. If you can't get home early, then book an excursion or tour - that'll pass the days much quicker.

Also if you go off and do your own thing, they will inevitably turn on someone else in the group !

Well, the OP may have said something wrong to alienate everyone, it could be a big Tales of the Unexpected drama if she were to reveal 12 pages in 'but there was one time when I said I agreed with that Reform bloke about machine-gunning migrants who come over in boats'...

But I don't know.

I've been in a similar situation on a press trip - you get palled up with a bunch of five or six journalists and it's easy to get off on the wrong foot for some reason, they then kind of use your outsider status as a bonding thing for them and because the context stays the same, so does the situation. It's hard to turn it around. In this situation, you're at cross purposes because they all know each other so the whole point is to be in their comfort zone, while you present a 'reaching out of your comfort zone' task, presumably.

It's a double or triple bind here because a) You've paid for this in money b) A friendship looks like biting the dust - at any rate it doesn't work in this context and that hurts c) You're stuck in this for the duration, it's like a bad party but you can't easily extricate yourself.

Agree with the other suggestions, put yourself first, see if you can salvage anything from the trip but don't provoke anything like just clearing off unannounced because that could be turned around against you, you know, alerting the local police, 'she's gone missing' etc then you're the bad guy.

Keep it curt, cool, self-sufficient and cut your losses.

Where are you? Maybe we can come up with some suggestions for you to have a nice time in your own company and enjoy the rest of your holiday. They say the best revenge is a life well lived, let's see if we can get you a better time than them. This has just triggered a memory for me. I was asked to go on holiday with my best friend from school it was with a group of people she did a w/e job with and I didn't know any of them, she then dropped out a few weeks before and I went anyway. I spent a lot of time by myself, they were not horrible to me, rather they didn't need me there. I did have a good time, wandered around the town and harbour had lunch by myself I really only saw them at breakfast and dinner (1/2 board).

Could you change your accommodation to a local b&b and do some sight seeing , read a book, have a nice meal. Enjoy the time to yourself.

if not I would get an early flight home and never speak to the ‘friend’ again. No one deserves to be treated like that.

That sounds hideously uncomfortable for you. And what a bunch of not nice people you are with.
Can you just find someway to go off and do your own thing for the rest of the trip (might as well get your moneys worth!) - and bin your friend when you get back. Shes no friend of yours.

They sound awful, and quite embarrassing behaviour out of grown women. You on the other hand sound amazing, strong, kind and resilient, they don't deserve a friend like you, dump your 'friend' when your back......but for now I hope you enjoy your break from mom life, and go home well rested to your family that loves you, and does deserve your time.

I don’t think it’s you
its them! Really nasty immature behaviour
id not speak to any of them again and try enjoy what you can or get out of there asap and without even saying bye just leave and see if they even notice!

Sorry, op. They sounds horrible. I'd go home