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To think that dogs shouldn't be in toilets?

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LittlePearDrop · 13/07/2024 08:28

I'm currently camping.

There's signs on the toilet / shower block door clearly indicating "No Dogs". Not small signs. Very obvious.

Went for a shower first thing this morning and a woman brought a dog into the toilet next to me. It poked its head under the gap and had a sniff. I just ignored it.

Took my daughter an hour later and whilst I'm waiting for her, another woman brings another dog in. This time, thinking maybe she has missed the sign, I said, very politely and calmly "Oh it's no dogs in here".

She immediately became defensive, saying there's no one else to look after him (there's a fence outside she could have tied him to) and that he would "cry" if left outside. Errm, so what? Dogs whine. It's not the end of the world.

AIBU to think that if the signs say "no dogs" then it means "no dogs" and not, "Well ok your dog can come in because it might whine if left alone for a minute"?

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Werweisswohin · 14/07/2024 21:13

PC7102 · 14/07/2024 21:02

Tbh I always take my dogs in public toilets. I don’t see an issue with it, they’re literally in there for minutes and make no mess. I would never leave my dog tied up outside, there’s way too many dog thefts nowadays

You not seeing an issue with it doesn't mean there isn't an issue with it. 🫣

KnittingSister · 14/07/2024 21:11

I solo hike and camp, campsites say that they are dog friendly, but there's no way of knowing until arrival how friendly. Is my dog allowed in the cafe/facilities block? If my dog is not welcome, neither am I. I do take my dog in the facilities, neither he nor I want him tied up outside. He makes less mess and causes less trouble than many adults or children.

Munter · 14/07/2024 21:04

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CommeUneVacheEspagnole · 14/07/2024 21:03

Dogs have to be under control at all times in public spaces. They can't be under control if you're not with them. I would think anyone who left a dog unattended and unwatched was a bell end of ultimate proportions.

Also, if someone came up to my dog without me there, he would 100% bite them. People can't be trusted not to touch and not to steal.

PC7102 · 14/07/2024 21:02

Tbh I always take my dogs in public toilets. I don’t see an issue with it, they’re literally in there for minutes and make no mess. I would never leave my dog tied up outside, there’s way too many dog thefts nowadays

Calliopespa · 14/07/2024 20:27

Ukhotelsareshit · 14/07/2024 19:19

@Calliopespa you would think so but the last dog I met there was a massive golden doodle, with his friend the Giant Schnauzer 🥰 Very well behaved and bothered no one, even in the loo 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Flora arriving at Claridges

Dog GIF
Justforthisthread24 · 14/07/2024 20:27

A commons paper? Written by the government, collected from the police and their utterly useless statistics? Right. Which part of “dog theft is not recorded as dog theft” is not clear? You have spent 2 minutes and googled. I have spent YEARS dealing with this shit, speaking to police forces across the country, every day. Dog theft IS NOT recorded as dog theft in a lot of cases, it is recorded as theft of a possession. My own dog was recorded as theft of a possession, the majority still are. Therefore, there are no meaningful statistics on dog theft because a lot of police forces have never recorded it as a separate crime. I’m not quite sure on what basis you say “I don’t believe that” but you are, quite simply, wrong.

Werweisswohin · 14/07/2024 20:16

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No idea, that's not my problem. It's not an excuse to blatantly ignore 'no dogs' signs though.

FinalCeleryScheme · 14/07/2024 20:14

Justforthisthread24 · 14/07/2024 20:02

@FinalCeleryScheme if you can be arsed, ask your local police force how dog theft is recorded. I deal with this every day. You have no idea.

There’s a commons library paper that covers the stats and their collection. It accepts limitations in them but there’s broad agreement about the scale. It just doesn’t seem to be true that the stats are “meaningless”.

Munter · 14/07/2024 20:11

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Eadfrith · 14/07/2024 20:10

I’ve been camping a few times but I’m not really a fan. I find some of the types of people that go camping are weird. I left shower gel by accident in a shower (that was full to the brim with spiders and midges it was a fucking horror show) and someone stole it even after I had gone back to retrieve it after five minutes. Thieving cunt. I don’t know how I’m answering your question here but yeah I’d be annoyed if there was a blatant sign saying no dogs and yet people still bring dogs, into a space that’s meant for humans to get clean and go to the loo in peace.

Werweisswohin · 14/07/2024 20:09

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Dogs have never been routinely taken into toilets.

Justforthisthread24 · 14/07/2024 20:07

@sarahd29 i have a lot more than 4. And I will never, ever leave one in the car unaccompanied for a single minute, ever again. Because, like you say, it can happen anywhere.

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Justforthisthread24 · 14/07/2024 20:02

@FinalCeleryScheme if you can be arsed, ask your local police force how dog theft is recorded. I deal with this every day. You have no idea.

sarahd29 · 14/07/2024 20:02

Justforthisthread24 · 14/07/2024 19:15

@sarahd29 I “popped my dog” into the car for 10 minutes and she was stolen (they cloned my key) It was, no exaggeration, utterly horrific. Please, do not risk it. I never thought I would happen either. But it did.

Horrible, but could happen anywhere. I'm going to have to leave them in the car at some point even if it's the vets especially as we have 4.

Hopefully if that happens they will take the very barker/whiney one as I'm know he'll be bought back quickly. That's a joke before mumsnet goes mad.

Still wouldn't take my dog in the loo. I like him but it's not fair on others. It feels a bit grim.

FinalCeleryScheme · 14/07/2024 19:59

Tutorpuzzle · 14/07/2024 19:59

@Justforthisthread24 But wanted to add I’m really happy you got her back.

I wouldn’t bother responding to @FinalCeleryScheme There’s clearly some issues there, but I’ve reported the post anyway.

What have you reported and why?

FinalCeleryScheme · 14/07/2024 19:59

Justforthisthread24 · 14/07/2024 19:48

@FinalCeleryScheme Unfortunately, your statistics are entirely wrong. Until recently, the police didn’t have the ability to record dog theft. It went down as theft of a possession, similar to a car radio or a handbag. It was not a category in its own right and for a lot of forces, still isn’t. Shit, but true. So the statistics are meaningless. And yes, I believe the utter arsehole that stole my dog for money, who put me and my family through 6 months of utter, utter hell, should pay a heavy price. But, you will be pleased to hear, I’m sure, that they don’t. A slap on the wrist at best. It’s appalling.

I’m sorry, I don’t believe that. There are stats. They may be imperfect but they give us a good idea of the scale of dog theft. And it’s tiny.

Tutorpuzzle · 14/07/2024 19:59

@Justforthisthread24 But wanted to add I’m really happy you got her back.

I wouldn’t bother responding to @FinalCeleryScheme There’s clearly some issues there, but I’ve reported the post anyway.

Tutorpuzzle · 14/07/2024 19:49

@Justforthisthread24
So awful. And, yes, not something you will ever completely recover from.

Justforthisthread24 · 14/07/2024 19:48

@FinalCeleryScheme Unfortunately, your statistics are entirely wrong. Until recently, the police didn’t have the ability to record dog theft. It went down as theft of a possession, similar to a car radio or a handbag. It was not a category in its own right and for a lot of forces, still isn’t. Shit, but true. So the statistics are meaningless. And yes, I believe the utter arsehole that stole my dog for money, who put me and my family through 6 months of utter, utter hell, should pay a heavy price. But, you will be pleased to hear, I’m sure, that they don’t. A slap on the wrist at best. It’s appalling.

LilBowWow · 14/07/2024 19:42

@Justforthisthread24 im so sorry this happened to you. Very glad you got her back. I can’t begin to imagine how horrible that 6 months was.

Greenlittecat · 14/07/2024 19:41

Justforthisthread24 · 14/07/2024 19:39

@Tutorpuzzle thank you. And yes, I did, after almost 6 horrific months and paying a very substantial “reward”. It’s a while ago now and she is still with me, happy and healthy, the light of my life 🥰 But, until it happens to you, you don’t understand what it’s like. I received multiple death threats (for leaving her in the car) and more than 400 hoax calls from people who said they were hurting her, that they had killed her, that she was crying and screaming for me…I almost lost my mind. She has recovered and forgotten all of it. But I NEVER will. I’ve name changed for this because I now do a lot to help recover stolen dogs. It’s an industry that most people have NO idea about 😩😩😩

Jesus what is wrong with people?!

I'm so glad your dog is back and happy ❤️

Werweisswohin · 14/07/2024 19:40

Justforthisthread24 · 14/07/2024 19:28

@Werweisswohin exactly what I would have said. Until it happened to me. Believe me when I say you do NOT want to experience it.

I don't have a dog so won't experience dog theft.