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To think that dogs shouldn't be in toilets?

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LittlePearDrop · 13/07/2024 08:28

I'm currently camping.

There's signs on the toilet / shower block door clearly indicating "No Dogs". Not small signs. Very obvious.

Went for a shower first thing this morning and a woman brought a dog into the toilet next to me. It poked its head under the gap and had a sniff. I just ignored it.

Took my daughter an hour later and whilst I'm waiting for her, another woman brings another dog in. This time, thinking maybe she has missed the sign, I said, very politely and calmly "Oh it's no dogs in here".

She immediately became defensive, saying there's no one else to look after him (there's a fence outside she could have tied him to) and that he would "cry" if left outside. Errm, so what? Dogs whine. It's not the end of the world.

AIBU to think that if the signs say "no dogs" then it means "no dogs" and not, "Well ok your dog can come in because it might whine if left alone for a minute"?

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Newsenmum · 13/07/2024 18:05

Calliopespa · 13/07/2024 16:59

But do you get so vitriolic?

I actually don’t love cats. I struggle with the dander ( makes me sneeze); but I’d never think of say someone was “ inadequate” for loving them .

I hope I dont! And no I dont think anyone is inadequate for loving a cat. I just hate the double standard.

WiddlinDiddlin · 13/07/2024 17:57

I wonder what sort of campsites and loos people are using where there are SO many dogs visiting it is such a huge issue?

I think in 20 years of owning dogs together, DP and I have only had to take a dog into a toilet a couple of times.

But out there in MN land, entitled dog owners are crowding into loos up and down the country, terrifying the phobic and triggering anaphylactic shock in the allergic...

As for the 'dogs aren't special'... agree to disagree there, my dog is significantly more special to me, than you are.

But that is by the by. I have a legal responsibility to my dog - to prevent suffering, to prevent him causing harm or reasonably causing someone fear of injury.

I will absolutely put that legal responsibility over and above the hypothetical needs of a stranger in a toilet. Every time.

chocolatemademefat · 13/07/2024 17:46

I don’t care where people take their dogs as long as they’re well behaved. So many dogs are stolen now that I wouldn’t want to tie one up outside for the length of time it would take me to shower.

As for dogs in eating places - a lot of them smell better than some of the customers.

FinalCeleryScheme · 13/07/2024 17:44

I just can’t imagine owning an animal that you think you are entitled to take into the shower or loo.

I get that animals in your own home might wander into the bathroom or the dunny, but to actually choose to take one in? To a public WC or shower block? Bit weird TBH. I guess that’s just what dog lovers are like though.

fuzzybritches · 13/07/2024 17:36

Misthios · 13/07/2024 11:51

Didn't take long for the dog-obsessed to start drawing ridiculous comparison with children and people on planes. Humans and animals are not the same, you would have thought that was obvious but clearly not.

What it boils down to is that you have no right to inflict your animal on anyone else. Keep it to yourself. Keep it out of shared, public spaces like bathrooms. It is your JOB and responsibility as an owner to make sure that your animal has no impact on anyone else.

What a ridiculous, intolerant and depressing attitude. Imagine thinking that something you dislike should be kept out of all public spaces - and it's the dog owners who are entitled?!?

I don't especially enjoy sharing the road with cyclists or my workplace with Tory voters but I accept that they have a right to be there.

Tutorpuzzle · 13/07/2024 17:31

@BlueGrackle @Greenlittecat
I stand corrected! I genuinely hadn’t seen any (I’m a bit of a weekends only person on MN) but I will be looking out for them now as I have a lot to say on the subject 😊

BlueGrackle · 13/07/2024 17:29

Calliopespa · 13/07/2024 17:24

My first post in respect of which you responded to me directly I don’t believe was made with you in mind.

As for your later posts… well I can’t really remember and it’s hard to go back now that MN has deleted several of them for breaching guidelines for appropriate comment. 🤷🏻‍♀️

They deleted one post.
You keep repeatedly referring to dog haters as a collective on here. Apart from one poster, no one else has objected to dogs they have objected to bad owners ignoring signs, why does that make people dog haters ?

Calliopespa · 13/07/2024 17:24

BlueGrackle · 13/07/2024 17:15

Aside from one early poster, pretty much every so called ‘dog hater’ on this thread has expressed no objection to dogs, they have responded to posters that feel entitled to ignore signs telling them not let their dogs onto camp site toilets and given various fanciful reasons to justify their entitlement.

Can you explain how my objection to people ignoring a sign makes me a dog hater, baring in mind that I have a dog and have owned dogs since childhood ?

My first post in respect of which you responded to me directly I don’t believe was made with you in mind.

As for your later posts… well I can’t really remember and it’s hard to go back now that MN has deleted several of them for breaching guidelines for appropriate comment. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Greenlittecat · 13/07/2024 17:22

Tutorpuzzle · 13/07/2024 17:13

Ah, now, this is interesting. If it was a cat peeping under the loo door would the OP have been so bothered? Because, in my experience, cats go wherever the fuck they like. I don’t let my dog poo in other people’s gardens…but nobody’s having a go at cat owners, are they?!😉

There are plenty of threads about people complaining about cats in their gardens.

If a sign said "no cats allowed" and an owner knowing brought their cat in on a lead, people would be annoyed about that too.

ThePure · 13/07/2024 17:22

I wouldn't leave mine tied up outside though. Not because anyone would steal him (I'd like to see them try) but in case anyone tried to pet him and he didn't like it. He is not entirely trustworthy .

Mukirinessly · 13/07/2024 17:21

I took my dog into a public toilet with me once. Nothing bad happened.

ThePure · 13/07/2024 17:19

It is a real issue when you are out on your own with the dog and need a wee. Happened to me today. I decided to just hold on. My other go to solution is to lock him in the car which I think is OK as long as it's only a few minutes. I would never take him in the toilets with me. It's never occurred to me to do that. He's a big dog and would alarm people, he's probably be scared of the driers plus there would not be room in the cubicle.

BlueGrackle · 13/07/2024 17:19

Tutorpuzzle · 13/07/2024 17:13

Ah, now, this is interesting. If it was a cat peeping under the loo door would the OP have been so bothered? Because, in my experience, cats go wherever the fuck they like. I don’t let my dog poo in other people’s gardens…but nobody’s having a go at cat owners, are they?!😉

No. There’s only about 50 million threads a week about cat shit, sure you could fine at least one if you tried.

Tutorpuzzle · 13/07/2024 17:16

@CyprusCypress

I do seem to have touched a nerve though, don’t I? Take care.

BlueGrackle · 13/07/2024 17:15

Calliopespa · 13/07/2024 17:03

No I don’t. But not every dog owner ignores signs.

Aside from one early poster, pretty much every so called ‘dog hater’ on this thread has expressed no objection to dogs, they have responded to posters that feel entitled to ignore signs telling them not let their dogs onto camp site toilets and given various fanciful reasons to justify their entitlement.

Can you explain how my objection to people ignoring a sign makes me a dog hater, baring in mind that I have a dog and have owned dogs since childhood ?

Tutorpuzzle · 13/07/2024 17:13

Newsenmum · 13/07/2024 16:52

Really though? I adore my cats but no way would I expect everyone else to have to put up with them and treat them better than children!

Ah, now, this is interesting. If it was a cat peeping under the loo door would the OP have been so bothered? Because, in my experience, cats go wherever the fuck they like. I don’t let my dog poo in other people’s gardens…but nobody’s having a go at cat owners, are they?!😉

CyprusCypress · 13/07/2024 17:09

Mukirinessly · 13/07/2024 17:04

Or alternatively don’t start yet another thread about dogs.

If people were less ridiculous and entitled about dogs, there would not be so many threads.

Even five years ago, people didn’t behave so selfishly and entitled like this with their dogs. And there were far fewer threads. See the link?

Pre-pandemic, people with and without dogs got on ok. Now many people with dogs have started to be selfish and entitled. I guess it’s gone this way with many people on various issues who think their right to do what they want, trumps others’ needs.

Mukirinessly · 13/07/2024 17:04

Tophelleborine · 13/07/2024 08:37

People have become utterly ridiculous about dogs. Just tie the fucker up outside and let it whine for a few minutes.

Or alternatively don’t start yet another thread about dogs.

CyprusCypress · 13/07/2024 17:03

Tutorpuzzle · 13/07/2024 16:47

I couldn’t agree more. I’m sincerely hoping that the actual hatred shown to dog owners by a few posters on this thread does not reflect their lives in general and that they are ok.

It’s a little worrying tbh.

This kind of fake concern is one of the most cringeworthy things I read on forums online.

The strong views of dog-lovers and ‘dog-haters’ on this one specific issue, do not reflect the entirety of their lives or their mental health. You are not ‘sincerely hoping they are ok’ so enough of the disingenuous prattle!

Calliopespa · 13/07/2024 17:03

BlueGrackle · 13/07/2024 17:01

You have family members that ignore signs and do what they want?

No I don’t. But not every dog owner ignores signs.

Opentooffers · 13/07/2024 17:02

I go solo camping, walking, voting with my dog and he sleeps with me when he wants to. I have never taken him in toilet/shower blocks. I have never failed to find an appropriate spot to park and chain him to. He can let out the odd whine when he's being a bit soft, but mostly he's a good boy and sits and waits nicely, or laps up others attention. Can't say I've ever seen anyone do it either, you must of just got unlucky at the time.

Calliopespa · 13/07/2024 17:02

Newsenmum · 13/07/2024 16:50

This whole thing pisses me off. Little boys aren’t allowed in the toilet with their mums, but dogs can go into the toilet with an owner even when it says no dogs allowed 🙄

I’d take a little boy in . It’s not safe if you are on your own with them . You have to be sensible about these things. Ensuring their safety is not entitled.

BlueGrackle · 13/07/2024 17:01

Calliopespa · 13/07/2024 17:00

Because family members do and I think the haters have an overly aggressive stance.

You have family members that ignore signs and do what they want?

Calliopespa · 13/07/2024 17:00

BlueGrackle · 13/07/2024 16:56

Why exactly are you on a thread defending the right for people to be shit inconsiderate dog owners, when you’re saying you don’t have one ?

Because family members do and I think the haters have an overly aggressive stance.

BlueGrackle · 13/07/2024 16:59

Tutorpuzzle · 13/07/2024 16:47

I couldn’t agree more. I’m sincerely hoping that the actual hatred shown to dog owners by a few posters on this thread does not reflect their lives in general and that they are ok.

It’s a little worrying tbh.

Perhaps because they give decent dog owners that can follow basic instructions a bad name ?