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To leave baby crying if…

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Apppron · 13/07/2024 06:52

It’s before 7am and you’ve gone in to settle a few times but they won’t stop? Not needing anything, just wanting to get up. They’re 21 months. I’ve left to cry for ten mins and they did eventually stop but now I’m wondering if that was wrong?

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Apppron · 13/07/2024 06:55

Overthebow · 13/07/2024 06:53

No, if they’re wanting to get up why wouldn’t you get them up?

@Overthebow because it was 5am and they usually sleep until 7

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timetobegin · 13/07/2024 06:55

I wouldn’t leave anyone to cry unless they were adult and asked me to.

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Apppron · 13/07/2024 06:54

@Sirzy at what point do you stop going in though? I did try and re settle a few times. I feel awful now…it’s hard to know what’s best sometimes. Maybe should have just got them up

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5475878237NC · 13/07/2024 06:54

Well I would not do this because babies can't tell the time. I think it's cruel. I just get up. Something is wrong - they're sad and confused about why you are ignoring their needs but presumably wouldn't later in the day. It must be so confusing and therefore distressing to be responded to sometimes and ignored others.

rwalker · 13/07/2024 06:54

7 isn’t that early and also is it light in the room

what about your neighbours?

Allegra82 · 13/07/2024 06:54

It’s pretty normal for a toddler to want to start their day before 7am.

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Apppron · 13/07/2024 06:53

@BrutusMcDogface its not hunger. I thought that too

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Sirzy · 13/07/2024 06:53

Well personally I wouldn’t want to teach my child if they are upset they will be ignored.

Overthebow · 13/07/2024 06:53

No, if they’re wanting to get up why wouldn’t you get them up?

BrutusMcDogface · 13/07/2024 06:53

Maybe they’re hungry?