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To be annoyed that DH added sweet chilli to the pasta I cooked

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Sleepdeprived2 · 12/07/2024 21:08

DH wanted chicken pasta, so I spent my time today making it for him, adding lots of spices to it as I know he likes flavour. It was exhausting for me to cook as well as look after our baby and toddler. He came home from work tried the pasta and went and put sweet chilli all over it and started to eat it.

I am abit annoyed as what was the point in me spending time cooking if he drenched it in sweet chilli. He doesn't seem to think there's anything wrong with it.

Aibu

OP posts:
financialcareerstuff · 12/07/2024 21:14

You are lucky he tried it. My DH pours chilli on top of everything before tasting. I just spice and flavour for me. And don't take it personally! Grin

Fizzyjuice · 12/07/2024 21:14

Why did you go to all that effort for pasta? Pasta in my house is a lazy meal slapped up with a jar of sauce.

I love sweet chilli sauce on everything too.

RobinHood19 · 12/07/2024 21:13

Don’t go above and beyond next time if it’ll annoy you when he adds stuff to his own food. I add chilli flakes to almost everything I eat, regardless of how much spice there is already in it or who has cooked it (wouldn’t do it as a guest in someone else’s house though). I also really can’t be bothered if people choose to do the same with what I cook.

HelpMebeok · 12/07/2024 21:13

wow this is extreme. I'm sure he was still pleased you made the pasta.

Aquamarine1029 · 12/07/2024 21:12

Unless he made you eat it, you're wasting way too much emotional energy on something that really doesn't matter. It's his food, he can eat it the way he likes it.

Smartiepants79 · 12/07/2024 21:12

My DH does this with things. It used to really hurt my feelings. 18 years later I’ve stopped caring. It’s his food. I cook for my palate ( and him obvs) and then he can do what he wants with it. I change things he cooks so 🤷🏼‍♀️

IgoogledYOLO · 12/07/2024 21:12

My DH does this with cheese. I'd be less annoyed if he at least tasted what I'd made first.

justabigdisco · 12/07/2024 21:12

I can relate OP. My husband pours condiments over every single thing I cook for him, often without tasting it first. Drives me mad

Original poster
Sleepdeprived2 · 12/07/2024 21:11

I've told him next time he can cook for himself. Don't see why I should go above and beyond if he is going to fill it with sauce anyway.

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Linearforeignbody · 12/07/2024 21:11

Life is waaaay to short to get upset about things like this.

ApolloandDaphne · 12/07/2024 21:10

I put sweet chilli sauce over my own cooking sometimes. I just fancy it. Your DH fancied it over his pasta. It's his food to eat as he wants to.

missmollygreen · 12/07/2024 21:09

On his own pasta? Yabu

PollyPeep · 12/07/2024 21:09

You've just described every day in my house 😂 Annoying isn't it!