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To be annoyed that DH added sweet chilli to the pasta I cooked

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Sleepdeprived2 · 12/07/2024 21:08

DH wanted chicken pasta, so I spent my time today making it for him, adding lots of spices to it as I know he likes flavour. It was exhausting for me to cook as well as look after our baby and toddler. He came home from work tried the pasta and went and put sweet chilli all over it and started to eat it.

I am abit annoyed as what was the point in me spending time cooking if he drenched it in sweet chilli. He doesn't seem to think there's anything wrong with it.

Aibu

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Sleepdeprived2 · 12/07/2024 21:27

I don't feel appreciated, for me even cooking is difficult. I am recovering from a c section so things are tough at the moment for me.

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Tohaveandtohold · 12/07/2024 21:25

It’s just chicken pasta. If that needed that much effort, what do you normally cook.
Besides that, I don’t get why you’ll get worked up because someone wanted to enjoy the food you made them so they’re adding condiments to match their preference. I know I’m a very good cook but even I add spices to my food after it’s cooked because I can’t add much when cooking as DD2 and DH only eat minimal spice. It’s not a big deal to me

CoastalCalm · 12/07/2024 21:25

Mine is a masher , spend time making everything look nice and depending on the dish it all gets mixed up but it’s his food so doesn’t bother me at all and similarly he’s not arsed if I add condiments to things he makes

TinySaltLick · 12/07/2024 21:23

Sweet chilli sauce is a truly disgusting syrup, you have ever right to be irritated

Mayonnaise on the other hand

Dreaddy · 12/07/2024 21:23

Anyone else paranoid everything is a wind up atm?

StormingNorman · 12/07/2024 21:22

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 12/07/2024 21:16

You have to have tried it to know the taste you're adjusting

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He did…

“He came home from work tried the pasta and went and put sweet chilli all over it and started to eat it.”

Shoxfordian · 12/07/2024 21:21

It's a bit of a non issue but maybe you don't feel appreciated generally?

Ivehearditbothways · 12/07/2024 21:21

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 12/07/2024 21:16

You have to have tried it to know the taste you're adjusting

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He did try it first.

Haveanaiceday · 12/07/2024 21:20

It doesn't mean he didn't appreciate that you cooked but he clearly has weird preferences if he adds sweet chilli sauce to chicken pasta so I wouldn't try to please him by making a beautiful ragu or anything. Just throw a few things from the bottom of the fridge in a pan and let him put his weird sauces on to his hearts content.

cloudy477654 · 12/07/2024 21:20

With kindness you're getting way too worked up, this is not a problem some people have actual problems. My DH adds chilli flakes to everything I cook, who cares it's his food!

Trainntrack · 12/07/2024 21:19

How is chicken pasta going above and beyond and exhausting to make!? I think there must be something else going on here to make you that upset about a bit of sweet chilli sauce!

RenoDakota · 12/07/2024 21:19

I hear you, OP. My ex husband did that too. Even worse though, he had a knob of a work colleague who used to carry a bottle of chilli sauce around everywhere with him, and used it in restaurants too.
It was embarrassing. And kind of an insult to the person who cooked the meal.

Cinocino · 12/07/2024 21:19

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 12/07/2024 21:16

You have to have tried it to know the taste you're adjusting

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He did try it.
“He came home from work tried the pasta and went and put sweet chilli all over it”

RubySloth · 12/07/2024 21:18

Seriously it's chicken pasta, it's a quick meal even with looking after little ones... its a non issue.

Floatlikeafeather2 · 12/07/2024 21:18

Chicken and pasta is hardly difficult or time consuming to make. What do you normally cook? As long as you enjoyed it, don't let it bother you how he chose to enjoy his.

Cinocino · 12/07/2024 21:18

Really controlling, he can eat it how he wants.

MartyFunkhouser · 12/07/2024 21:17

I couldn’t be bothered to be bothered.

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 12/07/2024 21:16

StormingNorman · 12/07/2024 21:15

This is what condiments were made for. They allow people to adjust the taste to personal preference. It is a normal thing for people to do.

You have to have tried it to know the taste you're adjusting

AppleStrudel23 · 12/07/2024 21:16

Sleepdeprived2 · 12/07/2024 21:11

I've told him next time he can cook for himself. Don't see why I should go above and beyond if he is going to fill it with sauce anyway.

I think you're a bit too upset by this.. My husband is a Chef and I add the oddest stuff to what he cooks me. I have it with ketchup, Worcestershire sauce, redcurrant jelly etc or
I add cottage cheese or something. He thinks it's funny and before we eat he brings out the ketchup for me. It's nothing personal and I love the food I just the extra tang from comfort condiments! Sometimes I just crave them and I should be allowed that. When I cook and my husband adds his own sauces I don't get upset either, it's nice he's enjoying the food

Lavenderflower · 12/07/2024 21:16

Some people like sauce on their food.

Leafygreen84 · 12/07/2024 21:16

Exhausting? Come off it.
YABU and taking this personally when it really isn’t. If it upsets you so much let him make his own pasta next time. Takes 20 mins.

Ivehearditbothways · 12/07/2024 21:15

Above and beyond? It’s pasta. Give over. He can have his food the way he wants it. The only thing that matters is does he pull his weight? Does he cook for you, do chores without having to be told? Does his half of parenting and running around? Is he a good partner?

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 12/07/2024 21:15

My rule is that they have to try one mouthfuls then they can adulterate it how they like

StormingNorman · 12/07/2024 21:15

This is what condiments were made for. They allow people to adjust the taste to personal preference. It is a normal thing for people to do.

Catnipcupcakes · 12/07/2024 21:14

Mine never puts anything on the food I put in front of him unless its salt and vinegar on chips. If he cooks himself something he’s all about the black pepper, tabasco and mustard, which I can’t stand.

I think his mum trained him well. I would be insulted if I’d a cooked a proper pasta dish and he put chilli sauce on it after tasting it. Yanbu, OP.