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WhatToDo123abc · 2024-07-12T19:03:35+00:00

My husband just threw a toy at my face while I was holding our toddler. Should I call the police?

kat457 · 12/07/2024 20:57

WhatToDo123abc · 12/07/2024 20:53

Has anything like this happened before no, so im still quite shocked

my family live 60 miles away

Statistically this is not a one off, it won't be the last time. It always escalates.

Would your DH throw something at his boss in a temper? At the cashier in Sainsbury's? At a neighbour? Of course not. He has abused you.

Original poster

WhatToDo123abc · 12/07/2024 20:56

No apology, acting like nothing happened

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imgonnalooseit · 12/07/2024 20:55

Has he tried to
Talk to you de escalate and apologise or is he hiding upstairs? X

SerenityNowInsanityLater · 12/07/2024 20:54

Yes.
Call the police.
This isn’t minor.
You’ve got all the ingredients for escalation. You don’t have to have a history of physical abuse for this to turn incredibly dangerous.

Original poster

WhatToDo123abc · 12/07/2024 20:53

Has anything like this happened before no, so im still quite shocked

my family live 60 miles away

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Flittingaboutagain · 12/07/2024 20:52

The first time my husband did this it was a towel (as I was holding our baby) then it was a coat with a zip (as I was feeding the toddler) and then the third time slapped me. It always escalates.

MrsSkylerWhite · 12/07/2024 20:52

Of course you must call the police.

then call a member of your family or a friend to wait with you.

imgonnalooseit · 12/07/2024 20:52

Definitely take pictures OP and call family see if you can stay there he's obviously not safe to be around. Has anything like this happened before xxx

Original poster

WhatToDo123abc · 12/07/2024 20:52

It is swallon small bmp on lip - like bust or anything. Hard to tell on the phone when i take a picture.

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endofthelinefinally · 12/07/2024 20:51

Back up the photos in case he takes your phone.

PalmelaHanderson · 12/07/2024 20:51

StSwithinsDay · 12/07/2024 20:05

Why did he throw it? There was a poster here the other day who threw a bin at her husband's face and quite a few posters felt he deserved it

So you're saying context is everything?

kat457 · 12/07/2024 20:49

Notmydaughteryoubitch · 12/07/2024 20:47

You can call 999 for an assault when the man is still in the home and there is a continued threat, don't call 101 if you feel at any continued risk, it can take a very long time both to speak to anyone on 101 and for a response. For an active threat you call 999. In my view he has assaulted you, smashed a glass in your home, this is a domestic abuse incident that requires a response tonight.

This is correct advice, what you have described is worthy of a 999 call. He has assaulted you and he is in the house, you are still at risk.

endofthelinefinally · 12/07/2024 20:49

You are married. You have rights to half of everything. What matters now is your safety and that of your child. You must speak to the police now and take photos of the toy and your injuries. You must be prepared to make a statement to the police. Expect contact from social services. They are there to protect you and your child.

kat457 · 12/07/2024 20:48

OP from someone who has been through this. Please call the police, they will help you.
Phoning will be quickest. Some have web live chat. If you don't feel safe even the form js better than nothing.

Your son will be affected growing up in an abusive home (I was- hence getting into an abusive relationship myself. I thought it was normal).

Don't worry about the practicalities now. You are married so you will be entitled to 50% of assets at a minimum, if not more if you haven't worked and have taken care of the children. I got 70% in my case, despite exH telling me I'd get nothing.

Please keep yourself safe and your children, the police will help you I promise.

Notmydaughteryoubitch · 12/07/2024 20:47

You can call 999 for an assault when the man is still in the home and there is a continued threat, don't call 101 if you feel at any continued risk, it can take a very long time both to speak to anyone on 101 and for a response. For an active threat you call 999. In my view he has assaulted you, smashed a glass in your home, this is a domestic abuse incident that requires a response tonight.

TakeOnFlea · 12/07/2024 20:47

"What about were me and children will live, and the effect on our sen son?"

You'll live somewhere much safer than where you are now and the affect on your son will be positive because he'll have a calm and safe home with his mum

murasaki · 12/07/2024 20:46

Can you go to family or friends with your kid and call 101 from there?

Willmafrockfit · 12/07/2024 20:45

just leave

TeaGinandFags · 12/07/2024 20:45

A wife has a legal interest in the marital home. His money is family money.

The fact you're hesitant suggests that he's started before now.

Bad moods?
Sulks?
Temper tantrums or shouty behaviour?

Don't dither. Dial ANY number. NOW.

murasaki · 12/07/2024 20:44

And agree with taking a picture of your lip.

murasaki · 12/07/2024 20:44

Police. Given the glass, and the doctors you were holding your child, definitely.

Despair1 · 12/07/2024 20:44

WhatToDo123abc · 12/07/2024 20:40

He will likely be arrested and so he should be what would happen after that?

What about were me and children will live, and the effect on our sen son? I have been a sahm looking after our son for the past 6 years and dh has the house in his name and most of the money. We are married if that makes a difference

Why is the house in his name only?
What is your relationship normally like?
Is he normally abusive?

wefly · 12/07/2024 20:43

Then get out of the house with your toddler if you can safely

StSwithinsDay · 12/07/2024 20:43

What would have happened if he split your toddler's lip?

Didimum · 12/07/2024 20:43

Leave now, sweetheart. What will happen to your son? It doesn’t even bear thinking about if you allow him to live with a violent abuser.