Husband threw something at my head

If leaving with your kids isn't an option, get him removed. Honestly this will not be a one off - it will only get worse. Is this something you want your kids to see? Especially your SEN son. Sending you so much love and strength honey, you got this ❤️

OP please follow the wise people on here

I have been through this

The good people I confided in on here helped me get out

This is so so bad

Sending you lots of good wishes

Why don't you ring 999 and tell them what he's done. You don't know that any of you are safe, but you can be. And your kids are so little they'll remember very little.

Unlike if you stay until they are old enough to know what's happening. Don't do that.

In that case I’d always ask what would happen next time ☹️

Can you reach out to your family and ask them to come over for a while and/or collect you and the children so you're safe for a few nights while you work through your next steps? Whatever you do please do not keep quiet about this.

I would drive 600 miles if my DD needed my help, 60 miles is nothing.

This isn't how it works. Just so we aren't giving OP misinformation.

If a crime has been committed (which it has), it will be dealt with the same way no matter which method of contact OP uses. 999 doesn't automatically mean arrest. It will just get her someone to speak to sooner.

101 is non emergency, so meant for crimes not in progress. This is in progress tbh, as he's still in the house. That's why 101 is a bit slower.

Online contact forms are the same as 101, meant for non-emergency so a bit slower.

However logs come into the police, whether 999, 101 or online, they will be graded. People can call 999 for non urgent stuff just like others will be too scared to call 999 and use 101 instead. They are all looked at and assess the same and graded in priority for response.

But OP whatever contact you can make with the police will be helpful, do whatever you are comfortable with.

OP I know this feels really overwhelming, just one step at a time for now.

If he is in the house with you do you feel safe calling 999? Can you text a friend or relative to call on your behalf?

Call 999 now and show him you are serious. Call a family member and tell them what happened. If you call 999 are you worried he might get more aggressive? Don't tell him. Try and be calm (not easy I know) but get protected now. Please.

Absolutely this. Sorry OP, you are probably reeling. In my experience, this behaviour escalates rather than disappears. You do not want escalation.

MrsSkylerWhite · Today 21:08
WhatToDo123abc · Today 20:53
Has anything like this happened before no, so im still quite shocked
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my family live 60 miles away”

Then yes you must call the police. I was your baby and it got worse and worse over the years

WhatToDo123abc · Today 20:53
Has anything like this happened before no, so im still quite shocked

my family live 60 miles away”

Then yes you must call the police. I was your baby and it got worse and worse over the years.

If you ring 101 they'll probably ask what you want to happen. They will be busy with it being a Friday night.
If you ring 999 they should come out and arrest him.
No idea on the police form but would imagine it gets read by someone at the call centre (101) in slow time.

Log it.
Do not wait or let it go in case of any other assaults in the future.

Especially with your child so closeby.
( A record is helpful should he become volatile in the future)
Make sure you tell someone in your family as you need emotional support.
Seek out someone you can talk to in real life as asap.
Your husband needs to sort himself out and vent in a no violent way, whatever the outcome.
Safeguard yourself and your children.
I would be calling someone to be arriving to be with you

Do you feel safe at the minute. Is he upstairs and you are down stairs with the little one?

I'd have to take the kids with me and leave the house. And him. All the best OP.

I can only echo the other respondents - phone the police as long as you are safe to do so. There will also be domestic abuse helplines for where you live, look online. He has physically abused you , but I also wonder about other abuse - the house is in his name and he holds the money - why ? As you are married you will have some protection financially but are you excluded by your husband from finances? Also you are at home and a cared and a long way from family - do you have friends ? If not why not - has your husband isolated you at all ? He was clearly angry and could not control it even in the presence of his small child - this is alarming and you must take steps to protect yourself and your child .I hope you are ok

You’re married so his money is also your money. The house is half hours even if only in his name.
Any savings, investments and pensions which he thinks are his, are yours also.

Take a pic of your lip.Log it with 101.
Don't worry if Social services get involved. They will want to make sure your dc are ok and they might get him removed from your home.

Go with family tonight.

Your son will be better off away from abuse, in a calm environment. If this is not a one-off from your dh and he’s a bully / controlling , you and your dc’s will be better off away from him.

It won't do nothing, keep going. We are all here to support you.

The lack of apology, the acting like nothing happened is- without him even consciously realising this- subconscious, tacit permission to utilise this new behaviour pattern again. He’s already normalised it.

Agree. Please. You can stay on here and we will support you as best we can.

The first time is always the first time. There will be more.

If he gets away with it this time, then he'll feel more confident about doing it again. Children pick up on this too.
I know that you're worried about the future, but show him your boundary and call the police x

Call the Police. Get him removed form the house. Does he have family nearby he can go to. If not don't worry not your problem. 999 now.