To ask for the positives of only having one child?

Your full comment to jog your memory:
*Exactly this. There are a minority of only children, who say as adults, they had a great childhood and continue to have a great adulthood.

The majority of only children, as adults, say otherwise. There's a lot of parents announcing on their only child's behalf how wonderful their child finds it, and not even a thought about the future. It's very much a parents choice for the parent, and parents will insist it's what their categorically child prefers. They kind of have too, for themselves.*

Child bereavement is an awful, and separate issue. It's been mentioned on this thread, yes. It's awful, unimaginable and also, glaringly clearly not the subject I, or the other poster are referring too.

To deliberately suggest otherwise, just to try and beat down her very valid opinion on the actual topic in hand, is frankly disgusting. And yes, bullying.

If you said the ‘majority of my only child friends’, I would not ask for evidence. Of course not. We all have anecdata, which can be powerful in its own way. But you didn’t. You presented your views as established stats. This is what you said. No mention of it being about your friends.

There are a minority of only children, who say as adults, they had a great childhood and continue to have a great adulthood.
The majority of only children, as adults, say otherwise

There is no bullying of anyone I see. What I find galling is the likes of @Strawberriesandpears to still come on and play the victim card when others have posted stories of unimaginable hardship and loss. There's no been acknowledgement of this from her, no compassion, no nothing. Just post after post about awful her life is and then post to links other threads that quite frankly no one is interested in.

I sincerely hope she doesn't think being that the grief or sadness she may have of being an only child is in anyway comparable to people who have lost children or can't have the number they would like. Absolutely shameful.

@StopInhalingRevels i think you’ll find it’s her being the bully. Talking about loneliness and standing alone at funerals on a thread where people have said they lost children with no thought for how these people feel. The two of you really do sound like narcissists.

Happiness declines the more siblings there are in a household.

See, I can post links as well!

@StopInhalingRevels the insensitivity that you and @Strawberriesandpears have shown to the original OP, by hijacking her thread , as well as people who are have one child through loss or secondary infertility, is vile.

And the bullying of @Strawberriesandpears on this thread is vile.

Do you not have a life or any lived experience, only reports?

If I were to say "I know most of my friends like rugby" would you ask for stats to support it? How utterly strange.

@Strawberriesandpears i doubt anyone is going to click on your silly posts

I'm an only child as I've stated multiple times.

@Strawberriesandpears its so silly posting these threads . They are about different peoples individual experiences. There are numerous threads on here about peoples problems they are having with siblings . Can’t be arsed posting them. It’s meaningless . Why don’t you just start your own self pity thread as someone suggested ?

And you sound too deeply absorbed to understand anyone else’s point of view.

I think people will always try and convince themselves they have done the right thing. But it’s a shame when that spills over into criticising those who have done otherwise.

I could not imagine giving more than two kids the attention and support I want to. So I stopped at two (and was privileged to have the choice). What I wouldn’t then do is tell people with three plus kids that they had too many and are neglecting their children. Because that is dickish behaviour, and also not true as people cope differently as parents and there are so many variables.

The other things some people do is if they are deeply unhappy, is that it is easy to blame some external factor rather than look at themselves. Eg a job, where they live, not having a sibling etc, When the ‘cause’ may be within themselves. That is where therapy can be helpful. And of course the external factor may be the trigger for unhappiness but it’s always worth exploring. Emotions are rarely that simple.

It's not bizarre. It's not difficult either...

My experience, is broad. It's my personal experience, of the many people around me, plus myself.

So I can speak directly for me. I can also speak for the adults who have no reason to lie, who have told me their experiences. I can also witness a huge amount of my peers having excellent relationships with their siblings, nieces, nephews. I also have my best friend who can not stand their sibling.

So yes, my personal experience is that being an only child is not what I would ever want my child(ren) to go through and being an only child as an adult has so many downsides. Which some can only interpret as "what a terrible, wretched existence, an awful life." Which is not only deliberate misinterpretation, but also not my problem if that's the faux hyperbole they want to project.

I guess the long and short of it, is you can have lots in your life, and still have a huge part you feel is missing.

You just don't get it, never will. It's too deep for you to understand.

There are a minority of only children, who say as adults, they had a great childhood and continue to have a great adulthood.
The majority of only children, as adults, say otherwise

Can I ask how you know these stats?

You said earlier you have no close friends