To ask for the positives of only having one child?

It's not bizarre. It's not difficult either...

My experience, is broad. It's my personal experience, of the many people around me, plus myself.

So I can speak directly for me. I can also speak for the adults who have no reason to lie, who have told me their experiences. I can also witness a huge amount of my peers having excellent relationships with their siblings, nieces, nephews. I also have my best friend who can not stand their sibling.

So yes, my personal experience is that being an only child is not what I would ever want my child(ren) to go through and being an only child as an adult has so many downsides. Which some can only interpret as "what a terrible, wretched existence, an awful life." Which is not only deliberate misinterpretation, but also not my problem if that's the faux hyperbole they want to project.

I guess the long and short of it, is you can have lots in your life, and still have a huge part you feel is missing.

I don’t mind people sharing their experiences. I do mind people making broad generalisations without backing them up in any way. Which you have done several times on this thread.

Oh dear, you did, didn't you? Oh bless!

Oh, you're the one who only listens to "scientific research".

Except from anyone who agrees with you. Then it's whatever they say.

That's embarrassing for you.

Re read it a few times until you understand it.

the only one embarrassing themselves here is you @StopInhalingRevels . I’m glad you think your life is what other people aspire to be least though.

That's embarrassing for you.

Re read it a few times until you understand it.

Did you have a name change fail?! Nobody says "This" to their own posts!

MN has deleted posts by that other poster. Maybe you can give a thought as to why they did that.

Ah, so now I'm not only miserable, but have anxiety too. You were the one bullying and name calling at that poor other woman too. Remember, she was a "pathetic narcissist with a victim mentality."

I think I'll take any more of your "advice" with that in mind

Actually she commented on the idea of going it alone.

And I, and another poster suggested she should give it more thought than an instant discount.

You don't get to police threads and tell people your decision if they can post or not. Everyone is allowed to comment on their feelings as long as this is with in MN guidelines.

So what actual people are telling you they actually feel, and what their lived experience is, isn't "scientific research" so it doesn't count.

Are you ok?

Actually she commented on the idea of going it alone.

And I, and another poster suggested she should give it more thought than an instant discount.

You don't get to police threads and tell people your decision if they can post or not. Everyone is allowed to comment on their feelings as long as this is with in MN guidelines.

So what actual people are telling you they actually feel, and what their lived experience is, isn't "scientific research" so it doesn't count.

Are you ok?

But your experience has nothing to do with the support that the OP was looking for when she started this thread. Why post something that is off topic and will kick her when she is down? You should start your own thread to whine about the void in your life.

“Parents who choose to have onlys don't like to hear that we'd rather have a sibling than all that stuff that they think it's so brilliant they've given us a head start on. It's all about them”

”There are a minority of only children, who say as adults, they had a great childhood and continue to have a great adulthood.

The majority of only children, as adults, say otherwise.”

have you read your own posts ? These are just some of the examples of generalisations you have made. Also I know you didn’t post any threads but you posted this:

“You mean links to tonnes of other threads all supporting her feelings and opinions”

hence me highlighting these threads aren’t scientific research and don’t really mean anything

I'm not miserable.

It's only people like you on this thread that are telling me I am. I've said enough times, my life is certainly what people aspire to, in a society/media general purpose sense.

There is a big void in my life, that I see filled in that of my peers and extended family via siblings. I'm not apologetic for noticing that, or how I feel about it.

Perhaps if I hadn't had to spell out nine separate times that I am speaking from my experience and not all experiences are the same, it wouldn't seem like so many posts, eh.

Again, why not start your own thread to wallow about this rather than hijacking the OP's thread, when the OP began by explaining that she was already feeling down about probably not having a second and was looking for positive experiences?

It displays a complete lack of self awareness. What makes you so important that you have a right to spam and derail this thread by banging on about how miserable you are?