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What are your true thoughts re this violent incident?

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Poiboi · 12/07/2024 15:55

A woman finds out her fiance has cheated. In her anger she throws an object at the fiance - causing a split lip.

What are your honest thoughts on this violence.

I am neither person mentioned. I have witnessed surprising reactions to this ‘incident’ though. Shocked me tbh.

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Beezknees · 12/07/2024 16:11

Devilsmommy · 12/07/2024 16:10

Bit different regards a child though. Not great but being cheated on n when you're supposed to be getting married is a fucking insult and a half. Shouldn't have thrown shit but he's not severely injured is he. Maybe with his next one he'll think twice about being a cheating cockwomble🤷

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Presumably you'd say the same if the sexes were reversed?

sentfrmmyiphone · 12/07/2024 16:11

@Puffinfoot ... and your daughter? I assume you'd be ok with her getting a split lip for cheating?

LizFromMotherland · 12/07/2024 16:11

DanielGault · 12/07/2024 16:10

A pink unicorn made of candyfloss I'd say 😂

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No doubt, the OP will come back with something like that 😁

redskydarknight · 12/07/2024 16:11

Poiboi · 12/07/2024 16:06

If it makes a difference she is sorry and didn’t really expect to hit him due to poor aim

Only makes a difference if her aim is so appallingly bad that she was actually aiming in totally the opposite direction and still managed to hit him.

Which isn't the case. She must have been aiming at least vaguely in his direction.

Beezknees · 12/07/2024 16:11

Poiboi · 12/07/2024 16:06

If it makes a difference she is sorry and didn’t really expect to hit him due to poor aim

No it doesn't make a difference.

Cheating is not OK. Violence is not the answer

JanglingJack · 12/07/2024 16:10

There is no excuse for it, however I have once thrown something at my ex during a 'fight'. I'm not trying to make excuses for myself but you don't know until you're in that situation.

Police were called years later after he broke my hand whilst I was trying to protect my head from his punches. Baby was 3 weeks old.
Best thing that ever happened to finally split us up.

Devilsmommy · 12/07/2024 16:10

LizFromMotherland · 12/07/2024 16:06

Exactly.

And presumably anyone who thinks otherwise, would be happy for someone to throw something and split theirs or their child's lip.

As long as they were angry, it's all good?

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Bit different regards a child though. Not great but being cheated on n when you're supposed to be getting married is a fucking insult and a half. Shouldn't have thrown shit but he's not severely injured is he. Maybe with his next one he'll think twice about being a cheating cockwomble🤷

LizFromMotherland · 12/07/2024 16:10

Puffinfoot · 12/07/2024 16:08

I think if my son ended up with a split lip as a result of his cheating, I wouldn't have too much of a problem with that, actually.

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And your daughter if you had/have one?

Sapphire387 · 12/07/2024 16:10

NewPinkJacket · 12/07/2024 16:09

What was the object she threw OP?

Not that it makes a difference, but you've told us everything else.

I think it does make a difference. If it was something that couldn't reasonably be expected to cause an injury, it's a bit different to throwing something sharp/heavy.

DanielGault · 12/07/2024 16:10

NewPinkJacket · 12/07/2024 16:09

What was the object she threw OP?

Not that it makes a difference, but you've told us everything else.

A pink unicorn made of candyfloss I'd say 😂

Weetabbix · 12/07/2024 16:09

Poiboi · 12/07/2024 16:06

If it makes a difference she is sorry and didn’t really expect to hit him due to poor aim

It's not OK to throw things at people. It doesn't matter if she intended it to hit him or not.

Kimmeridge · 12/07/2024 16:09

LizFromMotherland · 12/07/2024 16:08

Of course it doesn't make a difference but I'm getting the impression you think it does.

Her poor aim could've lead to her blinding him for life.

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Or killed him

So many abusers will say they're sorry & go on and do it again

NewPinkJacket · 12/07/2024 16:09

What was the object she threw OP?

Not that it makes a difference, but you've told us everything else.

DanielGault · 12/07/2024 16:09

Poiboi · 12/07/2024 16:06

If it makes a difference she is sorry and didn’t really expect to hit him due to poor aim

Jesus Christ, yeah, that's grand so, she has a terrible aim. Are you her? Violence is wrong, whether it's from a man or a woman. Whatever the accuracy of their aim. I honestly despair of humanity sometimes.

Puffinfoot · 12/07/2024 16:08

LizFromMotherland · 12/07/2024 16:06

Exactly.

And presumably anyone who thinks otherwise, would be happy for someone to throw something and split theirs or their child's lip.

As long as they were angry, it's all good?

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I think if my son ended up with a split lip as a result of his cheating, I wouldn't have too much of a problem with that, actually.

cupcaske123 · 12/07/2024 16:08

Poiboi · 12/07/2024 16:06

If it makes a difference she is sorry and didn’t really expect to hit him due to poor aim

Then she shouldn't have thrown something at his face. It doesn't bode well for the future and he'd be well off out of it

sentfrmmyiphone · 12/07/2024 16:08

Poiboi · 12/07/2024 16:06

If it makes a difference she is sorry and didn’t really expect to hit him due to poor aim

yeah... the violent men in my life always said that too...

If the shoe was on the other foot and the name threw the object, he would be hung, drawn and quartered.

There is NO excuse for violence

LizFromMotherland · 12/07/2024 16:08

Poiboi · 12/07/2024 16:06

If it makes a difference she is sorry and didn’t really expect to hit him due to poor aim

Of course it doesn't make a difference but I'm getting the impression you think it does.

Her poor aim could've lead to her blinding him for life.

Kedece · 12/07/2024 16:08

Poiboi · 12/07/2024 16:06

If it makes a difference she is sorry and didn’t really expect to hit him due to poor aim

No, makes no difference. She was still violent & assaulted him

OhHelloMiss · 12/07/2024 16:07

Wedding called off due to cheating?

Not the violence then??

ARichtGoodDram · 12/07/2024 16:07

Shes crossed a line of violence that can’t be uncrossed imo. Even if she didn’t mean to split his lip she still threw something at him and that’s simply not acceptable.

However, when it comes to lashing out over cheating many people often excuse it (be it male or female victim) as a one off/understandable so I wouldn’t be surprised if you’ve encountered a lot of people thinking it’s not that bad.

Puffinfoot · 12/07/2024 16:07

I'd probably think both as bad as each other and wouldn't go out of my way to be friends with either.

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Poiboi · 12/07/2024 16:06

If it makes a difference she is sorry and didn’t really expect to hit him due to poor aim

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EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 12/07/2024 16:06

It's common assault and there's no excuse for it

LizFromMotherland · 12/07/2024 16:06

Weetabbix · 12/07/2024 16:02

It's not ok to throw things at people you're angry with. Not complicated really.

Exactly.

And presumably anyone who thinks otherwise, would be happy for someone to throw something and split theirs or their child's lip.

As long as they were angry, it's all good?