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What are your true thoughts re this violent incident?

242 replies

Poiboi · 12/07/2024 15:55

A woman finds out her fiance has cheated. In her anger she throws an object at the fiance - causing a split lip.

What are your honest thoughts on this violence.

I am neither person mentioned. I have witnessed surprising reactions to this ‘incident’ though. Shocked me tbh.

OP posts:
Original poster
Poiboi · 12/07/2024 16:05

LilianaVikavanovich · 12/07/2024 16:03

He’s awful
She’s worse
Let’s hope they separate and there were no children involved

No children. Wedding has been called off due to cheating. The guy is still trying to get her to work on things last I heard.

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gamerchick · 12/07/2024 16:04

You don't injure someone for that. You leave them.

DanielGault · 12/07/2024 16:04

itsmylife7 · 12/07/2024 16:01

I suppose until you're in that exact situation you'll never know how you'll react.

That's a bit of an excuse tbh. There are heaps of situations where people would like to deck someone, but we know it's not allowed so we control ourselves. You just don't go there.

AstonMartha · 12/07/2024 16:04

It’s never ok to be violent.

cupcaske123 · 12/07/2024 16:04

Unacceptable.

LilianaVikavanovich · 12/07/2024 16:03

He’s awful
She’s worse
Let’s hope they separate and there were no children involved

qwertyasdfgzxcv · 12/07/2024 16:03

Both wrong. She is showing anger which is an immature expression of other emotions. Be upset or disappointed but not agree

Greyblind09 · 12/07/2024 16:03

He was wrong to cheat. She was just wrong to throw something and split his lip. It all sounds toxic

Original poster
Poiboi · 12/07/2024 16:02

no previous abuse either way

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Weetabbix · 12/07/2024 16:02

It's not ok to throw things at people you're angry with. Not complicated really.

itsmylife7 · 12/07/2024 16:01

I suppose until you're in that exact situation you'll never know how you'll react.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 12/07/2024 16:01

She’s abusive and she’s broken the law. Was that the first time she’s assaulted him?

He’s a dick too, but she’s worse.

Kedece · 12/07/2024 16:00

Cheating isn't great but domestic violence is worse

AllyCart · 12/07/2024 16:00

DanielGault · 12/07/2024 15:58

Well can't say whether yabu as you haven't laid out the options properly. In answer to your question, it's totally unacceptable, as it would be if it were the other way around. Being cheated on doesn't give you a carte blanche to be violent.

This. How do we vote?

Violence is never ok unless it's self defence.

redskydarknight · 12/07/2024 16:00

Throwing something at someone in a way that hurts them is totally unacceptable. There are a few cases in which I would say it was justifiable (e.g. self defense) but this is not one of them.

missmollygreen · 12/07/2024 15:59

Violence is not ok. It is not a hard concept to understand.

Obviously neither is cheating. But still, no excuse

DanielGault · 12/07/2024 15:58

Well can't say whether yabu as you haven't laid out the options properly. In answer to your question, it's totally unacceptable, as it would be if it were the other way around. Being cheated on doesn't give you a carte blanche to be violent.