Wife doesn’t want to have sex

Doesn't matter if you do more than your share at this point, she's had to make herself have sex with you to appease you and that causes resentment and contempt, she won't ever actually desire sex with you again.

Ah sorry mate, welcome to sexless marriage. There's really nothing you can do but accept your fate. You can get upset, it'll get worse. You can spend your life improving yourself and impressing her, you won't have sex but your wife will really like the new you. Or you accept your fate and live as housemates/besties for the rest of your life.

Different people have different priorities in relationships for some sex important for other less so. Some marriages with work with lots of sex, some with very little or none, the key is about compatibility. If you have a strong need and your wife doesn't it will breed resentment in the long term so should consider seperating otherwise you'll end up in a bitter cycle of resentment - your increased frustration will lead to her feeling even less interested.

Like I said, there are lots on MN!

Sounds like you don't do it for her anymore.
How do you feel about divorce?

Yes those nasty women who know too well how quickly sexual feelings can turn off a few years in of having children and your once equal partner suddenly also feeling like just another kid you need to cater for.

MRAs are far more rife than nasty women on these type of threads.

To be fair, you've given us v little info to go on and not answered any questions so there could be a million reasons why she doesn't want sex with you

Have you asked her?

I agree with this I've had sex to appease then I've been an absolute horn monster 👻 when I've really fancied somebody.

Unless you have been in a sexless marriage you can't understand the nothingness that it brings.

Obviously people jumping straight to 'are you doing your share of housework OP?' are just nasty women who are best ignored. There are a lot of them on MN.

Probably not what you want to hear op but she might just be bored of your sex life.

The part where you said about it happening with previous partners is very familiar to me. I have this problem myself and it’s why I don’t do long term relationships anymore. Once the excitement starts to wear off I find I go off sex and would rather watch a box set than put in the effort to do something I know I’m not going to enjoy. I’ve been in positions where I’ve been in love with someone but not wanted to have sex with them again. There is nothing wrong with my libido, I know if someone new came along who I fancied I’d be very up for it.

Its not right to expect someone to stay with you if you can’t give them what you need though. I am working on my issues with intimacy and commitment as I do get lonely sometimes but I know I couldn’t get into a long term relationship right now.

Talk to your wife and see how she feels, don’t make it about you, and your looks or whatever. It may come down to it being your decision though, can you put up with being in a sexless marriage or will you walk away?

Pretty much, yes. If a woman is being left to do all the grunt work as well as working outside of the home whilst the man sits on his arse playing with his x box, not only is that a massive turn off, it also leaves the woman knackered and less likely to want sex. It's not rocket science

I left my children's father after our sex life dwindled, mainly because I didn't want to have sex with him any more. I didn't want to have sex with him because he wasn't a partner in the ways that I wanted - I wanted an equality with him wrt to our input into the family and in many ways he just felt like another child - right down to him being childish towards our children, especially our son, whom he complained about and tried to dominate/ expected full compliance at all times from. In parenting, he wasn't a partner, but a drain, in running the house, he wasn't a partner but an entitled twat and in terms of life responsibilities, like life admin, Bill paying, present organising, etc he wasn't a partner but just someone else who I had to consider/ take responsibility for. So he felt like another child. So I didn't want to fuck.hi
, because children aren't sexy in any way. And our relationship fell apart and I left and life is much easier with only two children to consider and no man baby who believes he should have the respect of an adult and the responsibilities of a Prince (turn up for occasions to accept the reverence, having done nothing to contribute to the festivities except state his preferences) in my house.

I think the clue might in might be in your post. You stated that you feel that sex is a way of feeling connected. Sex does help form connection and closeness. Men often confuse sex and intimacy. Intimacy is experience of emotional closeness. It occurs when two people are able to be emotionally open with one another, and reveal their true feelings, thoughts, fears and desires. This can only occur when both people are able to genuinely trust one another, and feel able to take the risk of being vulnerable.A perceived lack of intimacy is one of the most common reasons for relationship breakdowns.

What do you do to make her life easier? Do you help around the house? Do you help with childcare? Do you support her emotionally?

Yuk.

Not all women. If she has form for going off of people after a while and not fancying them then it might be that for her feeling 'loved connected' doesn't do it for her. Some people prefer novelty.

Well obviously he would need to have a discussion. He had two children to care for , he can’t just walk out the door taking his two kids without any kind of conversation.

where will he and the kids live ?

what about their education (assuming they are in school, he will need to find a new place nearby unless he wants to disrupt their education )

How will he rearrange his work and hobbies around being a full time dad?

how will his kids cope with him taking then away from their mum without any notice ?

how will he make sure his wife sees the kids enough , he needs to agree and facilitate contact with her?

can they afford to divorce and run two houses , divide all their assets, savings, pensions wtc

😂😂

Sorry OP for the bitchy comments on here, some posters can't wait to give anyone a good kicking on aibu for any reason.
You need to talk with your wife though and see if you can work through this together. Ignore the stupid comments on here and go with the sensible.
It is a sad fact of life had you been a woman, the responses would have been totally different.

Is that you DH?

Is it a man posting though?

Yes 😆