To worry what our neighbours think?

Yes, I would explain the situation. Because if I saw that as a neighbour I would think there may be domestic violence issues in the home and I needed to keep an ear out in case I needed to report further incidents and it would be a relief to hear that's not he case and the issue has been resolved.

I would hope you where all ok. I wouldn't think anything bad. We had police come to our house because a crime was committed against us. They turned up at 8am on a Sunday 3 days after it happened 🤨 it was a knife threat towards my husband. They stayed for 2 hours then declared they couldn't do anything. We live in a cul de sac. We had 1 neighbour ask. No one else did

Of course not!! We have had police and ambulances turn up for emergencies - medical (DH) and mental health related (DD) and we don't explain to our neighbours.

To be fair, we have sheltered housing near us for people in poor physical and / or mental health, so emergency vehicles frequently attend. So people don't take too much notice where we live.

The only time I would judge would be if the neighbour was carted off in handcuffs by the police, that’s the only circumstance I would think it was due to criminal activity by the neighbour. So, you are definitely overthinking.

In a situation like yours I would worry you had bad news or I would wonder if you had been robbed.

Jesus, she was the victim of a crime and you were helping her.

As a neighbour I'd be concerned and curious but not assuming you're a bunch of criminals!

Ah I see, not unreasonable at all, I just presumed she was outside as you mentioned it was on loudspeaker and the neighbours would hear

I'd want to know because I'm nosy AF.

But you're overthinking. No one will care. Hope the friend is ok.

The biggest busybodies will usually out themselves by being so curious they can't resist trying to find out more info. So don't be surprised if someone sidles up. Have a short and to the point answer ready ("we were so glad we could be of assistance") and for bonus points, some very vague hints at juicy gossip that will keep them busy elsewhere ("did you see the good looking but obviously furtive guy with the expensive car on the corner the other day...what did you think?")

You could mention without going into detail if you like as part of chatting to them. I did have a police woman tell me my dh had died a few years ago. Although that would normally be only one police car, not two like you had

Hope your daughters friend is OK. I think you're overthinking it tbh.

No need to say anything.

If anyone asks just say a friend of your daughter had some trouble and came to you for help.

The truth without unnecessary detail.

The Police can be at someone's house for many reasons. Victim, perpetrator, witness etc.

No, you don't need to explain anything to them! Let them judge, let them talk!!
If/when you get close to the neighbours, they might ask and then you can explain.

How awful for your daughter's friend I hope she's OK and getting good support.

Don't worry about what the neighbours think, you don't have to explain anything it's a private matter. It'll soon be yesterday's news.

I'd also be curious but none of you were carted off in a police car so I wouldn't give it a second thought.

I would tell your daughter to not have calls on loudspeaker in the vicinity of others though, no-one wants to hear other's phone conversations

As a neighbour, I'd be curious, but I wouldn't automatically think badly of you. Perhaps if you were a household of known scumbags ie drug dealers etc, then I'd assume you'd commited some crime, but otherwise, no, I wouldn't think badly.

Where are you seeing that there was a boyfriend involved?

God, don't go round telling people. Apart from it being a massive violation of privacy for your daughter's friend and daughter herself, it's just weird. It's nobodies business and having lived on some rough arse streets before I know of police need neighbours involvement (witness statements or them just passing on info) then the police will do that job.

If you'd knocked on my door to inform me of why police were at your house I'd be convinced you were lying or strangely defensive about how you looked to others and completely avoid you. If you just left it I'd forget about it in a day or two.

My motto in life is "nobody has ever died from someone else's opinion" (OK, factually incorrect if you consider wider political atmosphere, but works day to day). I generally don't bother about what neighbours might hypothetically think about me. Mind reading is a very pointless and energy-consuming business. So please don't go knocking on doors explaining yourself and worrying about what John at number 10 is thinking about you in his spare time.

My question is: in my situation as a fairly new neighbour, would you knock on doors and explain the situation and that it wasn't us who were in any trouble?

No.

Honestly, if you were my neighbour I’d just have thought ‘Blimey, hope everyone’s OK’. I wouldn’t assume you were criminals - I’d probably assume a crime had been committed against one of you, or something like that. Don’t worry about this!

Don't explain to the neighbours - They have no need to know.
Let them speculate and curtain twitch.

We had armed police turn up once, on a quiet Sunday. {DS said ''there is a copper with a gun outside}.....

The adult child of one of the middle class neighbours was frogmarched off -

No one knew ever what it was about - but curtains were definitely twitching.

They probably think you are a right load of roughs!

I do hope the friend has dumped the boyfriend.

I'm sorry for your DD but "ghost parrot" did make me laugh! 😂

I would probably go and talk to the neighbors. My daughter had night terrors once and ran around the house screaming at 12am trying to get away from a ghost parrot that was apparently chasing her. We let both neighbors know the next day in case they had heard anything and were worried.