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To wonder what is wrong with people who don't really drink

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OptimismvsRealism · 12/07/2024 07:12

No - not alcohol

Just liquid

People who can sit down to a meal without so much as a glass of water

People who invite guests to stay but have nothing to offer them to drink oh and you'd have to boil the tapwater haha

I can't sleep from thinking about this

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BingoMarieHeeler · 13/07/2024 07:32

thebluebeyond · 12/07/2024 23:29

why does everyone you know take a bottle of water with them everywhere they go?

Because the big international bottled water companies have played a clever advertising trick on them. Many people drink far more water than they need now, which is mostly harmless, in itself. Although as a PP pointed out, water overdose can be life threatening, the biggest danger is stomach upsets from bacteria in the water bottles. And of course, the inconvenience of needing to go to the toilet more often, as your body deals with the excess of water. ( And this is a massive inconvenience in schools, where many children are constantly drinking far too much water)

But why was this advertising trick so successful? Psychologists have theorised that it is to do with the instinct for oral comfort, like sucking your thumb, or a baby sucking a dummy.

I don't carry a water bottle, and never have, and never will. I run marathons without carrying a water bottle. I come from the generation BEFORE bottled water was pushed in your face so much. We used to have a drink of water after breakfast, and after tea in the evening. There was supposed to be water available at school lunches, but there wasn't always. There would be drinks available if it was very hot, or if we were doing something extra strenuous, hiking up a mountain, or something. In other words, if it was likely to actually be necessary.

Wow, why so passionate? Why write a massive reply like that? Genuinely interested in why you’re so offended by people hydrating 😄 no one is asking you to.

It’s nothing to do with marketing. Weird how you’re insinuating those who drink lots are so foolishly susceptible to marketing. It’s not bought bottled water.

You run your marathons, I’ll continue to be a brilliantly hydrated successful singer in a circle of other wonderful, hydrated singers and we’ll both be happy yeah?

Edingril · 13/07/2024 03:48

OptimismvsRealism · 12/07/2024 21:37

Not drinking with a meal is wrong and mad hth

I think it is madder to have a problem with people not drinking, they are not asking your permission

PeloMom · 13/07/2024 03:07

My mother once she hit 60 decided that drinking (any liquids) with food isn’t good for her health and assumes everyone should do it so doesn’t offer drinks to others 🤦🏻‍♀️
before that I remember her carrying a water bottle everywhere; since she hit 60 I barely see her drinking anything.

Normallynumb · 13/07/2024 02:14

These friends/ relatives aren't hospitable at all but why can't you just say you need to drink more as you get headaches and buy a supply for your stay?
Personally I'd be lost without my pints of coffee, so I'd take my mug with me

thebluebeyond · 12/07/2024 23:29

BingoMarieHeeler · 12/07/2024 22:26

😂😂😂 I am honestly gobsmacked 😂

Genuinely everyone I know takes a water bottle with them wherever they go. Babies sucking on dummies 😂

why does everyone you know take a bottle of water with them everywhere they go?

Because the big international bottled water companies have played a clever advertising trick on them. Many people drink far more water than they need now, which is mostly harmless, in itself. Although as a PP pointed out, water overdose can be life threatening, the biggest danger is stomach upsets from bacteria in the water bottles. And of course, the inconvenience of needing to go to the toilet more often, as your body deals with the excess of water. ( And this is a massive inconvenience in schools, where many children are constantly drinking far too much water)

But why was this advertising trick so successful? Psychologists have theorised that it is to do with the instinct for oral comfort, like sucking your thumb, or a baby sucking a dummy.

I don't carry a water bottle, and never have, and never will. I run marathons without carrying a water bottle. I come from the generation BEFORE bottled water was pushed in your face so much. We used to have a drink of water after breakfast, and after tea in the evening. There was supposed to be water available at school lunches, but there wasn't always. There would be drinks available if it was very hot, or if we were doing something extra strenuous, hiking up a mountain, or something. In other words, if it was likely to actually be necessary.

MyDogsPaws · 12/07/2024 22:39

I don’t really drink and I’m a runner and work in a really active job. Most non running days I have a cup of coffee and a cup of tea at the start of the day and dont drink again until I have a cup of tea or 2 in the evening, some days at work I am in site walking up and down big hills all day long and I never take a drink with me unless it’s hot. If I’m running/exercising I will have a drink of water before I leave the house and unless it’s a particularly long run i won’t drink again during or after as I just don’t feel thirsty so I forget!

I do get bad headaches and dry eyes though so my body does get dehydrated, clearly I need the water i just don’t get thirsty for some reason!

BingoMarieHeeler · 12/07/2024 22:26

thebluebeyond · 12/07/2024 07:52

no, it is an invention by drinks companies, especially bottled water companies. Not necessary, or even desirable - just a bad habit and a fad.

And you can see what a bad unhealthy habit it is by the effect it is having on you right now, it is like you have a compulsion, like a child sucking a dummy.

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😂😂😂 I am honestly gobsmacked 😂

Genuinely everyone I know takes a water bottle with them wherever they go. Babies sucking on dummies 😂

BingoMarieHeeler · 12/07/2024 22:23

Hahahaha god I love Mumsnet lately. So bonkers. I never knew so many people could get so passionate about so many different minor matters 😄

If it was really that bizarre to want a drink with your meal why would restaurants etc always bring free tap water? 😵‍💫

OptimismvsRealism · 12/07/2024 21:37

VJBR · 12/07/2024 20:39

It is advised not to drink with a meal. Is better for the digestion. Also if you are ‘dying of thirst’ carbonated fizzy drinks just make you more thirsty. Frankly if I was as thirsty as you OP I would be going to the dr for a check up.

Not drinking with a meal is wrong and mad hth

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VJBR · 12/07/2024 20:39

It is advised not to drink with a meal. Is better for the digestion. Also if you are ‘dying of thirst’ carbonated fizzy drinks just make you more thirsty. Frankly if I was as thirsty as you OP I would be going to the dr for a check up.

BebbanburgIsMine · 12/07/2024 20:15

@S0livagant

I know they're bad for teeth, I wear full dentures for a number of reasons, so I'm not bothered about that.

My adult DDs both have perfect teeth, with no issues whatsoever, and no they weren't raised on a diet of fizzy juice!

S0livagant · 12/07/2024 20:07

BebbanburgIsMine · 12/07/2024 20:06

@S0livagant

Yes, all day, sometimes Lemonade and Ribena too.

I don't drink tea at all, occasionally have coffee out somewhere. I don't drink milk either as I don't eat dairy at all.

That's not at all healthy, crazy amounts of either sugar or artificial sweeteners, and fizzy drinks are awful for teeth.

BebbanburgIsMine · 12/07/2024 20:06

@S0livagant

Yes, all day, sometimes Lemonade and Ribena too.

I don't drink tea at all, occasionally have coffee out somewhere. I don't drink milk either as I don't eat dairy at all.

MistyGreenAndBlue · 12/07/2024 19:58

So, lets see if I I undersand this:
OP has "gone on holiday by mistake" - apparently to Cold Comfort Farm.
(No water supply but apparently there's an adequate internet connection)
Her hosts will be mightily offended if she dares to provide herself with adequate refreshments- however, she is desperate now and, greatly daring of their wrath, has breached the walls of her cell and run to the corner shop for a can of lilt and a yoghurt.
I am looking forward to the next installment.

S0livagant · 12/07/2024 19:46

RampantIvy · 12/07/2024 19:13

They aren't very healthy drinks.

I agree. A small glass of juice once a day would be fine but things like Pepsi too, and all day?

ruethewhirl · 12/07/2024 19:38

OptimismvsRealism · 12/07/2024 19:28

It really is because you're saying they don't provide adequately

I've always found it tricky tbh, because I feel like I'm putting people out by not drinking the things most people drink - I don't expect them to get anything in especially for me, but it does leave me with few options. Having said that, my friends are used to me now and tend to have juice or Diet Coke in or something. 😄

BebbanburgIsMine · 12/07/2024 19:37

@RampantIvy

I know the fizzy juice isn't healthy, but what's wrong with Apple and Apple and Mango juice?

Haveanaiceday · 12/07/2024 19:35

Well I thought it was a bit of an unusual problem but it turned out to be a very odd situation altogether. So many questions How can these people live with no clean drinking water, only a well full of chemicals and way of cleaning it? Why was the OP dying of thirst but only willing to drink fizzy drinks or drinking yogurt. Why are these people so against drinking that she had to sneak to the shop behind their back?

AcademicsAgain · 12/07/2024 19:32

OptimismvsRealism · 12/07/2024 16:42

Update
I ran into a corner shop while they were busy and bought three cans of 7up and an orangina

I also had 2L of sparkling water with lunch out (they looked at me like i was cooking up heroin at the table)

This will last me for tonight at least

Thanks for helping me keep my sanity through the dry morning, everyone

I think I would prefer boiled well water to that concoction. Why didn’t you buy plain water to drink in the house? Seems like you love drinking ‘chemicals’ yourself!

This whole set-up is just odd.

OptimismvsRealism · 12/07/2024 19:28

ruethewhirl · 12/07/2024 19:16

Yeah, I didn't word that accurately - definitely rude to arrive empty-handed in terms of a gift for the host, but in terms of bringing food/drink to consume oneself, I was always taught that was a no-no.

It really is because you're saying they don't provide adequately

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OptimismvsRealism · 12/07/2024 19:27

Comedycook · 12/07/2024 19:08

I remember going to a friend's house when I was a child and her mum didn't let us have a drink with our meal because she said it would fill us up and we wouldn't eat all our dinner. Torture!

What a complete cow!!!

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ruethewhirl · 12/07/2024 19:16

Sprogonthetyne · 12/07/2024 13:49

That is interesting, maybe it is a generational thing or perhaps area specific? I was brought up being told it was rude to arrive empty handed.

If I was staying at someone's house I'd turn up with a bag of cake, treats & drinks to share, and depending on plans, the ingredients to make a meal for everyone as a thank you to the host for having me.

Yeah, I didn't word that accurately - definitely rude to arrive empty-handed in terms of a gift for the host, but in terms of bringing food/drink to consume oneself, I was always taught that was a no-no.

RampantIvy · 12/07/2024 19:13

BebbanburgIsMine · 12/07/2024 18:41

I need some juice with any meal, I actually drink more than I eat.

Never water though, I don't like it, I have Apple Apple and Mango, Irn Bru, or Pepsi Max Cherry, don't really drink anything else.

They aren't very healthy drinks.

Comedycook · 12/07/2024 19:08

OptimismvsRealism · 12/07/2024 19:04

No. Not drinking with meals is horrible. I have haunting memories of my youth where only one tiny glass of beverage was permitted. Thirst thirst thirst.

I remember going to a friend's house when I was a child and her mum didn't let us have a drink with our meal because she said it would fill us up and we wouldn't eat all our dinner. Torture!

OptimismvsRealism · 12/07/2024 19:04

DatingDinosaur · 12/07/2024 18:54

Apols if this has already been mentioned (I'm only at the end of page 1). Didn't drinking water with meals come from the 1980s diet fad of the time? Glass of water before a meal to feel fuller/need less food. Sip water during the meal to slow down your eating, allow the food to absorb the water, making you eat slower and feel fuller on less food. And it's all got lost in translation somewhere Confused

No. Not drinking with meals is horrible. I have haunting memories of my youth where only one tiny glass of beverage was permitted. Thirst thirst thirst.

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