To not take the test as it will just break me

The "period" you have when on the pill isn't a real period, so that isn't an indicator I'm afraid.

Also, while the symptoms you're experiencing are classic for pregnancy, they are also classic for the pill. So no indication either.

You really should take a test.

We will hold your hand x

Sending a handhold @Rosesbeforelove 💐

OP I think you need to take the test with the knowledge that it will likely be negative. I only say this because with every day you don’t do a test there will be a hope that will be forming that will be even more crushing the longer you wait it out. I’m so sorry for all of your struggles and I really have all my fingers crossed that the result is a positive one but I think you need to protect your mental health in this case. As others have suggested, is there anyone close to you who could be there when you do it?

Whatever happens you are not too old.if it's not the result you want and I suspect I am sorry...that it won't be.. you are not too old to adopt or try with someone else's egg.If you have the money.I understand your longing but if you want a result sometimes one has to be steely cold and think of different ways to achieve it.Sentiment does not always help.

Grit your teeth and take a test. I convinced myself I was pregnant aged about 44 after a 6 week gap between periods. It was our old friend the perimenopause. You never know.

If you are not strong enough to cope with taking a test today, then wait a couple more days.

But my concern would be that the longer you leave it, the more you’ll be hopeful and the harder it will be to receive unwanted news.

You have had a lot to deal with this month but that’s not going to suddenly get better in a few days time.
You will still be dealing with all of those things whether you take the test now or wait.

I personally would take the day off and shut yourself away this weekend.

Take a test and have a good cry.
Have a weekend to process it and feel sorry for yourself and do things that you want to do - eat some junk food, watch a box set, stay in your PJs all day etc.

Its ok to have some time to just feel sorry for yourself and just focus on yourself without having to do anything productive.
Kids call it having a MH day and I think we all need one every now and then.

Handhold OP. The likelihood is that it’s peri symptoms and even if it is pregnancy I’d be wary of a false negative result so early on (I had a couple of these and it’s confusing). When did you last have sex? If it’s been 6+ weeks I’d test, otherwise I think it’s a wait-and-see situation.

I agree with this. The longer you spend analysing symptoms and keeping hope alive, the harder it will be for your mind to process a negative

These symptoms are very common for perimenopause as well as pregnancy. I would take the test as I'd want to know. If it is negative, I think you should access some support. I was prepared for a hysterectomy 2 years ago and went through a grieving process when I faced the reality of not being able to have any more children. I found it so difficult. In the end, I didn't have the hysterectomy and I was in the position where I already had a child at that time yet I still found it very difficult so can imagine it will be much more so for you in your situation if that is the case. If it is positive, then I wish you the best of luck OP. Xxx

I’m really sorry for all your lost hopes OP. I can feel your trauma and rising panic in your words.

How about you give yourself a couple of weeks to wait…just a bit of a chance to steady yourself up a bit before taking a test.
Fill the two weeks with little gifts and treats to yourself to find a place of calm within. Good healthy food, a new hairdo, plan a day out or weekend away to breathe some fresh air, find a new recipe to try, a special project you fancy doing or an early night with a book you want to read. Fill the two weeks with as much new positivity as you can while you wait it out, all the time accepting that as long as you are living as well as you can manage, what will be, will be.

The waiting is hard …life is hard especially when you are on your own.
Wishing you the very best of luck and fortune OP !

Sorry OP but I think it is very unlikely that you'll be pregnant with everything you have said.

I would suggest you do the test ASAP though so you can draw a line under it all. The longer you leave it the more you're likely to convince yourself and the harder it will be. Rip the plaster off, be kind to yourself and feel what you need to feel.

I think the best thing would be to take a test asap, but maybe with support? Have you a friend, relative or someone who would sit with you and get through the wait etc? I’ve done it for a friend…the time passes a bit quicker and there’s someone there for a hug, cup of tea and to help you process the thoughts and feelings.

The feeling that things might work out and the wait with you believing and hoping can make this sort of thing so much more painful if it doesn’t turn out that you get the result you want…if you aren’t pregnant it would be easier to know now so you can accept it. Our bodies are weird…I was very single during lockdown, years since sex, but I had a phantom pregnancy complete with bump, breast milk etc that went on for months and was never explained.

That being said. You could be pregnant and if you are it’s important that your body has the support it needs for you and for foetal development. Folic Acid, Pregnacare or some other pre-natal vitamin, Aspirin if you can take it and I totally agree, with your history of miscarriage, I’d be getting hold of some progesterone asap. If you have trouble getting it on NHS and are anywhere near Manchester I can recommend a good private obs and gynae consultant who didn’t charge the earth if you want to PM me. Best not to take another pill unless you’ve had a negative test.

Good Luck OP, hope you get the result you want. We’re here for you whatever the outcome.

Do the test. Expect this is perimenopause.

I think from what you’ve said it’s very unlikely to be pregnancy and I don’t think the cheerleading posts higher up the thread are very helpful in this scenario. Try to prepare yourself it more than likely isn’t 😞

I doubt you are pregnant but you should test anyway.

Take the test and get it over with. I used to wait for my period, then cry when I came on. A test will prevent you feeling too upset. Update us when you can. Good luck x

But be aware all those symptoms are common in perimenopause. Don't be too disappointed

Come off the pill and wait and see, testing doesn't change the result and it's pretty unreliable so early because not all establish. Once you are a day or two late, that's when to test

Take the test.

If you are preg you can start taking the right vitamins ect.

If you're not you can start getting over it and be fine all the sooner

I would do the test.

If you were pregnant then it would have to be from the earlier month to have nausea at this stage.

Unfortunately I think that it is more likely to be perimenopause symptoms than pregnancy. If it was me the longer that I waited, the harder it will be to make myself test, and the more I would be thinking of pregnancy.

I also felt pregnancy symptoms around the time of perimenopause at 45 ish. Doesn’t mean it is for you but just be aware.

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In the nicest, most direct way, you know you're going to take that test at some point. So get it over and done with today.