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To feel embarrassed/mixed feelings about audience behaviour at comedy show?

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ComingUpTrumps · 11/07/2024 23:51

Was out tonight with my family watching a comedy show in a fairly small theatre and two women, in the row behind us, were screaming with laughter after each joke.

There was a lot of laughter from the audience throughout the show, as you’d expect, but theirs was by far the loudest and it felt a bit disruptive.

I didn’t say anything about it, but one of my family members got quite irritated by it, so they decided to say something about it to the women. I found out at the end of the show that the family member had told the women to ‘shut up’, as one of the women came to us afterwards and said: ‘did you just tell us to shut up our laughter?’

I’ve got lots of mixed feelings about this (even though it’s a really small thing in the grand scheme of things).

On the one hand, I think it was a bit antisocial for the women to laugh so loudly. They were almost screaming with laughter, way louder than anyone else in the theatre, and it felt quite performative - almost as if they weee trying to prove what a good time they were having.

On the other hand, they’re free to enjoy the comedy as they wish and I wish my family member hadn’t told them to shut up - she’s normally very kind and polite, so this is quite out of character for her.

Thanks all.

OP posts:
ComingUpTrumps · 12/07/2024 10:12

Thanks all for your thoughts. I agree with you that of course you can’t tell off other audience members for laughing at a comedy show. I think my relative was feeling a bit irritated and took it out on those audience members, which I know is not on.

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NewPapaGuinea · 12/07/2024 10:07

The laughter police at a comedy show, whatever next?

TheHuntSyndicate · 12/07/2024 10:01

You can't dictate to audience members the volume of their laugh.

InWalksBarberalla · 12/07/2024 00:49

You can't tell people to laugh more quietly at a comedy show.

IDontLoveTheWayYouLie · 12/07/2024 00:49

Was anyone else the audience head turning to them at every laugh? I doubt they were disrupting everyone.

I think it's rude to just tell them to shut up.

5475878237NC · 12/07/2024 00:49

I agree with PP. It's not on to tell a stranger to shut up, even more crass to publicly chastise someone for laughing "performatively", in your opinion, at a comedy show!

JuliesName · 12/07/2024 00:47

I wouldn't have said anything but I also have no time for attention seeking behavior like this. I'd have rolled my eyes hard.

loropianalover · 12/07/2024 00:46

Your family member could have just left them to embarrass themselves with their jarring laughter but instead they embarrassed your group by turning and telling strangers to shut up. Really crass behaviour to be honest.

HolyPeaches · 12/07/2024 00:44

Very rude of your family member to tell them to shut up.

Fair enough if they were disrupting the show, but it doesn’t seem like they were.

NewName24 · 12/07/2024 00:41

YABU

If you buy tickets to a comedy show, it's pretty likely people will be laughing.
We all laugh differently. Complaining about someone's laugh is just ridiculous.

You should be very embarrassed about your family member's rudeness, and be having a word with them.

Orders76 · 12/07/2024 00:41

While it can be massively irritating being around someone like that, in the context of laughing when everyone else was....it seems pretty normal.