I need a hand hold.
I received my section 7 report from Cafcass and it’s really messed with my head again.
Warning: r@pe talk
Whilst married my ex husband financially, emotionally, mentally and sexually abused me. Hes made our son and I homeless, took absolutely everything of monetary value and plummeted us into financial despair.
I have proof of the abuse, rape, anger, aggressiveness, following me around the house screaming at me, threatening suicide when caught cheating and lying. I can even prove he’s drinking every day, taking drugs still and allowing questionable adults into our child’s life. The works.
My Cafcass contact listened to everything I had to say and her exact words were: I believe you, I believe you about the rape, the details you can describe and how it happened, I believe it. I’m so sorry you had to go through this and I can’t imagine how you felt.
Cut to now and I’ve received my section 7 report and she said she doesn’t believe there was ’domestic abuse’ but more parental acrimony and disagreements which led to animosity and crossed wires.
I feel so foolish. This has happened to me twice with social workers. Showing them to abuse with proof and them just putting it down to parental or martial issues.
I have texts proving the abuse and my ex even admitting to what he’s done but the excuse he’s used with CAFCASS is that he just agreeed to what I was saying back then to move on from the argument. So example if I said to him ‘hey your anger and aggression towards our child and I is not ok’. His response was something like, ‘you’re right, I have anger issues, I need help and will speak with a doctor’.
So even though I have proof to state otherwise, they believe his lies.
I’m broken. I’m im therapy already but it makes me question my reality (which my ex would make me do all the time and now this is too). I feel like why did I even bother reporting the rape? Or even bother reporting the financial and coercive abuse? Nothing has been done to protect me or my child and I’m just broken.