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DD(5) attacked in park by classmates

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worriedmama91 · 11/07/2024 18:33

Posting here for traffic as I really need advice by tomorrow morning. Name changed as this is outing. This is long, I’m sorry!

After school today my DD(5) went to the local park to play. For context the park is right next to the school and all the children go there after school. She has been called names by a couple of boys in her school previously and has said they’re mean, I have always just told her to ignore them and tell the teacher if they’re being unkind. Today those boys after tormenting DD’s friend and making her cry said ‘let’s get (DD)’ they proceeded to chase her with one boy, a year older than DD (but in the same class as it’s a small school) grabbed her from behind by the shoulders and kneed her hard in the back. DD was inconsolable and in pain, she had been very scared trying to run from them.

I wasn’t present but DH was, he immediately went next door to the school to inform them so that DD will be kept safe in school from these boys but their response was ‘oh gosh well boys do play rough’. The mum of DD’s friend witnessed the whole situation and was unhappy herself with them making her DD cry so I know she will back me up.

I emailed the school to advise them of the situation and explain that I would like to speak to them tomorrow in regards to the situation so that I can feel comfortable with sending DD in to school. As of yet no respone but I plan on asking to speak to them in the morning after drop off.

My question is AIBU to expect the school to take action despite this taking place off school grounds? All I’m asking is that they speak to the boys’ parents and make sure the boys are aware that nothing similar can happen again. Is there anything I should expect the school to do or is it nothing to do with them?

In addition if anyone has any advice of what to say/how to word myself that would be great, I’m awful at confrontation and fear I may just cry! So upset that my poor DD has been targeted, apparently they always call her a baby.

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PurpleJustice · 11/07/2024 18:44

It's really strange to go marching up to school, after the day has ended, to complain about something that happened outside school under your supervision.

The teacher was was probably confused about why your DH was telling her this story and what he wanted them to do. Hence the the unusual comment.

As this happened on your (or your DH's) watch and you were unable to prevent it, what more do you except the school to do? Why didn't you speak to the other parents?

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 11/07/2024 18:44

Honestly, the teachers sound just as bad.

Ask them why they enable it.

worriedmama91 · 11/07/2024 18:40

@Sleepersausage DD's friend was crying and her mum had stepped in but the boys weren't listening or tsking any notice. DH had gone over to help and heard them say they'd go after DD who wasn't by them. DH went after them as they ran for her but they got to her first, DH shouted at them but the boy who attacked her laughed in his face apparently. No parents came forward for the boys depsite DH trying to find them.

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Sleepersausage · 11/07/2024 18:36

Christ that is shocking behaviour for kids that age and absolutely the school should treat this as an incident. I can't understand where all the parents were though. If DD was scared she would just run to me, why did no one step in much earlier ?