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HE GAVE ME THRUSH

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Blankspacebabyy · 11/07/2024 16:49

Been seeing a guy for a while and we slept together for the first time on Tuesday night.
Today, I have thrush. I'm not prone to it and have only had it once or twice in my life. I'm incredibly cautious of my downstairs and I only wash with water and wear cotton knickers and nothing tight so I can't see it being caused by anything else.
I'm meant to be seeing him tomorrow and guaranteed he's going to try it on with me. What am I meant to say? sorry we can't have sex you gave me thrush?
Should I tell him? Should I lie and make up a reason? Should I end it based on this?
I know this is so funny but please help, why are men like this lol

OP posts:
Eggsley · 11/07/2024 20:08

DH and I both thought we had it, never had it before. It turned out to be a reaction to aloe Vera toilet paper Blush

XChrome · 11/07/2024 19:48

Sidge · 11/07/2024 19:45

That’s why I said “rarely” and not “never”.

Penile thrush is not common.

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The Mayo Clinic says it is common. I am going to go with them.

XChrome · 11/07/2024 19:47

Sidge · 11/07/2024 16:54

I doubt very much he gave you thrush. Men rarely have penile thrush, it’s a fungal infection and doesn’t like dry bare skin like a penis, it likes moist warm nooks and crannies like a vagina.

Treat yourself and avoid sex until you feel more comfortable.

Sorry, not accurate.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/male-yeast-infection/expert-answers/faq-20058464#:~:text=Answer%20From%20Patricio%20C.%20Gargollo,on%20skin%2C%20especially%20moist%20skin.

Sidge · 11/07/2024 19:45

chipsaway · 11/07/2024 19:37

If been with a partner whom had thrush men can certainly get it

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That’s why I said “rarely” and not “never”.

Penile thrush is not common.

SinkingFeelingSoph · 11/07/2024 19:39

fliptopbin · 11/07/2024 18:31

Does he take steroid inhalers for asthma? These can cause oral thrush, and I guess he could have passed it on to you through oral sex.

Ooh thank you. Now my issue makes total sense!

Maray1967 · 11/07/2024 19:39

ChedderGorgeous · 11/07/2024 17:17

You should definitely warn him you have thrush to protect him.

This - I passed it to my DH; not true that men don’t get it. It flared up on him, GP said it was thrush and that I must have it. By the time he got home I realised I’d got it.

chipsaway · 11/07/2024 19:37

Sidge · 11/07/2024 16:54

I doubt very much he gave you thrush. Men rarely have penile thrush, it’s a fungal infection and doesn’t like dry bare skin like a penis, it likes moist warm nooks and crannies like a vagina.

Treat yourself and avoid sex until you feel more comfortable.

If been with a partner whom had thrush men can certainly get it

LlamaNoDrama · 11/07/2024 19:36

Men can pass on thrush

Morello339 · 11/07/2024 19:20

This happened to me too. I started seeing someone. Every Saturday we would have sex, and every Tuesday I developed thrush...took the meds, was clear and then the next time we had sex it would happen again. I told him and he took the meds...never got it again.

Clueless2024 · 11/07/2024 19:18

You are so hilariously misinformed. I'm kinda embarrassed for you... but thanks for giving me a giggle.

ghostyslovesheets · 11/07/2024 19:14

Did you get the matching chlamydia?

Fannyfiggs · 11/07/2024 19:13

ghostyslovesheets · 11/07/2024 19:06

Can you imagine - Christmas morning - all the excitement - and that's what you get!

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'oh darling, thrush. Exactly what I wanted' 😂

ghostyslovesheets · 11/07/2024 19:06

Fannyfiggs · 11/07/2024 19:03

Of course, I was being a bit dense and didn't think of that 😂

But equal parts laughing and disgusted at a beautifully wrapped box containing thrush 😆😱

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Can you imagine - Christmas morning - all the excitement - and that's what you get!

Fannyfiggs · 11/07/2024 19:03

ghostyslovesheets · 11/07/2024 18:59

well if he 'gave her' thrush I am guessing she thinks he HAD thrush and GAVE it to her via the method of sex - unlikely to have been this if he wrapped it up. So unless the OP means he gave her a lovely gift box tied with a bow containing thrush I'm guessing it was via unprotected sex.

Otherwise it would be 'having sex left me with a nasty bout of thrush' surely?

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Of course, I was being a bit dense and didn't think of that 😂

But equal parts laughing and disgusted at a beautifully wrapped box containing thrush 😆😱

LBOCS2 · 11/07/2024 19:01

Outliers · 11/07/2024 17:42

Did you have sex without a condom?

It's possible he applies some sort of moisturiser directly onto his penis, which throws your pH off balance.

I tend to get it using one. I think I might be sensitive to the latex 🤷🏻‍♀️

ghostyslovesheets · 11/07/2024 18:59

Fannyfiggs · 11/07/2024 18:21

Where does it say they didn't use condoms?

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well if he 'gave her' thrush I am guessing she thinks he HAD thrush and GAVE it to her via the method of sex - unlikely to have been this if he wrapped it up. So unless the OP means he gave her a lovely gift box tied with a bow containing thrush I'm guessing it was via unprotected sex.

Otherwise it would be 'having sex left me with a nasty bout of thrush' surely?

GreensFuckOff · 11/07/2024 18:59

Are you sure it’s thrush? What symptoms have you got?

DeliciousApples · 11/07/2024 18:59

Did you use a condom?
If not it might not be just thrush...

Choochoo21 · 11/07/2024 18:49

I assumed you used a condom, so it’s likely to be from the lube.

You only are unlikely to catch anything by wearing a condom.

If you didn’t wear a condom then I don’t understand why you wrote “why are men like this”.

You can get cystitis or thrush from sex.
But it’s not caught from the man.

Sidge · 11/07/2024 18:48

poppymango · 11/07/2024 18:06

Hilariously phrased - petition to make "nook and cranny" the new cockney rhyming slang for vagina 😂

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Nook and cranny = fanny 😁

Fannyfiggs · 11/07/2024 18:47

Rickrolypoly · 11/07/2024 18:42

lol, love the name btw 😅

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Thank you. I was thinking I liked your name too 😆

AquaFurball · 11/07/2024 18:47

Blankspacebabyy · 11/07/2024 17:59

Oh thanks guys I didn't know this. We had sex like 3 times in one night so maybe it's just from irritation? I've told him I'm on my period as don't wanna gross him out so early on

Thrush isn't an STI but you've developed it and if you weren't using condoms he may also have too so it's best to be honest with him in case he thinks it's something else.

It is more common for women and many of us can develop it from certain brands of condoms, due to lack or type of lubricant, so if you used condoms you might need to change the brand too. Plus he's unlikely to have it.

Perfect28 · 11/07/2024 18:44

Thrush is not a STI

Rickrolypoly · 11/07/2024 18:42

Fannyfiggs · 11/07/2024 18:34

Ah yes, of course. I was being a bit silly there 😂

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lol, love the name btw 😅

Pudmyboy · 11/07/2024 18:41

Thrush isn't an STI, it's known as a commensal (ie it's on your body without helping or hurting you) and as others have said, the friction from sex possibly triggered it. Let it calm down then use lube.
Repeat: thrush is not an STI

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