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MN phrases that you would ban

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Malahide · 11/07/2024 16:47

I’ll go first..

Potty shot. 🤢
Makes me squirm. Nobody needs to be sharing their scan photos for strangers on the internet to (probably wrongly) guess their baby’s gender. The whole thing is ridiculous

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californiaisdreaming · 11/07/2024 20:24

Thesnoozingsighthound · 11/07/2024 17:05

HTH

It seems to be the way to emphasise “I’m right and you’re wrong”. Maybe it was once used in a truly helpful non-sarky way, but I’ve never come across it.

I agree. This is just a way to add 'I'm being a dick and want you to know I think you're stupid'

I agree with the potty shot thing as well. This is not an area of someone else's anatomy that you should be sharing, let alone you're only children's.

HollyKnight · 11/07/2024 20:22

marshmallowfinder · 11/07/2024 19:02

Oh come on, brought a house is nonsense.

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Im sorry if u can only understand english when the wright spelling and grammer is used. It must be difficult getting threw life like that.

Bex5490 · 11/07/2024 20:20

IYSWIM

Yes I do see…because you just fecking told me!

Thewalrusandthecarpenter · 11/07/2024 20:15

I really dislike the phrase "tear him a new one". I skip past the rest of the post.

MadKittenWoman · 11/07/2024 20:05

@Mammato

I agree with everything you've said, but I wont say 'This' as, apparently, it pisses people off. Why can't we have a like button? I know there's a 'thank' button online, but I prefer the app.

TwinCheeks · 11/07/2024 20:04

I've seen "it made my fanny clamp shut" recently and that really gave me the ick.

DBSFstupid · 11/07/2024 20:04

Theeternalrocksbeneath · 11/07/2024 17:03

”Gives me the ick”

Oh my god the CRINGE whenever a presumably adult person writes this!

🤢

It's just bloody embarrassing!!

Oneearringlost · 11/07/2024 19:58

Whoops, or even Hark the Herald...

PossumintheHouse · 11/07/2024 19:58

friskybivalves · 11/07/2024 19:53

Picky bits
Baby-dancing

Both make my toes scrunch up in the very ends of my shoes.

Don't forget Picky Tea.

Oneearringlost · 11/07/2024 19:57

Thesnoozingsighthound · 11/07/2024 17:05

HTH

It seems to be the way to emphasise “I’m right and you’re wrong”. Maybe it was once used in a truly helpful non-sarky way, but I’ve never come across it.

God, I've been on MN for years but have never got to grips with all the acronyms, though I know most of them.
I got fed up with always seeing HTH and saying "Hark The Herald" to myself that looked it up 2 days ago.
I thought, oh, that's nice, but I've missed where it's used pejorative.
Maybe I'll go back to "hark the gerald" after all.

friskybivalves · 11/07/2024 19:53

Picky bits
Baby-dancing

Both make my toes scrunch up in the very ends of my shoes.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 11/07/2024 19:40

@Minimili

I think sometimes though if you are on a few different threads where you discuss different aspects of your life - eg
you chat about your one child on SEN support thread, another child on the teenagers thread, something about your mum on the elderly parents thread, and update about where you live on a random weather thread, if someone thinks they may recognise you from one particular scenario you share, they only need to AS your name to confirm the likelihood of you being who they think you are .

ImNotGivingAwayMyShot · 11/07/2024 19:25

EarlHickey · 11/07/2024 17:22

"Think" As in "I went to a large supermarket yesterday, think Sainsburys"
Just say you went to fucking Sainsburys, you absolute dullard!

This made me laugh!

Thepeopleversuswork · 11/07/2024 19:24

@Malahide

It is smug and quite frankly bizarre of you to judge others for correctly using a verb that goes back centuries as a verb. Absolutely nothing to do with parenting choices

Hmmm, OK: you started a thread asking people to let you know what phrases they want banned and then accuse people of being smug because they tell you!

Don’t invite people to do this if you don’t want to hear the results.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 11/07/2024 19:19

@HungryLittleCrocodile

Given the price of fish and chips nowadays- sharing a portion with extra bread and butter makes sense !

BakewellTart66 · 11/07/2024 19:19

I like « Do fuck off dear. »
Can we keep it?

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Malahide · 11/07/2024 19:14

Thepeopleversuswork · 11/07/2024 18:53

@Malahide

Parent is a noun, not a verb. You are a parent if you have a child. It has become a verb in the past 20 odd years because it’s been bastardised, in parallel with an industry of “experts” who believe they have the correct approach and everyone else is stupid, misguided or lazy.

It tends to correlate with people who are very quick to judge others for failing to adhere to the same standards as they do because it gives them a little superiority hit.

If you don’t understand how language can be smug you can’t have been on here long.

It is smug and quite frankly bizarre of you to judge others for correctly using a verb* *that goes back centuries as a verb. Absolutely nothing to do with parenting choices.

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ImNotGivingAwayMyShot · 11/07/2024 19:13

Thepeopleversuswork · 11/07/2024 19:09

@ImNotGivingAwayMyShot

Wow OK: I’m genuinely surprised at this. Fair cop.

Still think it’s smug and awful though.

I do actually get what you mean by this. Even when I use it as a verb I think it sounds accidentally smug! Maybe just because it's not as commonly used?

WhatThenEh · 11/07/2024 19:10

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Thepeopleversuswork · 11/07/2024 19:09

@ImNotGivingAwayMyShot

Wow OK: I’m genuinely surprised at this. Fair cop.

Still think it’s smug and awful though.

Thepeopleversuswork · 11/07/2024 19:07

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Generally speaking the phrase “parenting choices” is people giving themselves air cover to be very judgemental about other very small divergences in the way others bring up their children which in the overall scheme of add up to nothing but allow the person dispensing the opinion to feel superior.

ImNotGivingAwayMyShot · 11/07/2024 19:07

Thepeopleversuswork · 11/07/2024 18:53

@Malahide

Parent is a noun, not a verb. You are a parent if you have a child. It has become a verb in the past 20 odd years because it’s been bastardised, in parallel with an industry of “experts” who believe they have the correct approach and everyone else is stupid, misguided or lazy.

It tends to correlate with people who are very quick to judge others for failing to adhere to the same standards as they do because it gives them a little superiority hit.

If you don’t understand how language can be smug you can’t have been on here long.

According to the Oxford dictionary, it became a verb in the 1600's.

ImNotGivingAwayMyShot · 11/07/2024 19:03

Waitformetoarrive · 11/07/2024 18:28

Thanks for explaining, I wouldn’t have worked that out 😂

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I had to google it the first time I saw it!

WhatThenEh · 11/07/2024 19:03

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marshmallowfinder · 11/07/2024 19:02

HollyKnight · 11/07/2024 18:41

"First post nails/nailed it"
"You sound unhinged/vile/batshit"
"He sounds autistic" (about every asshole)
"(S)he could be ND" (about every asshole)
"You knew he had children when you married him"
"Put on your big girl pants"
Calling anyone who doesn't agree with them an "MRA"
"Cancel the cheque"
"What do you mean you 'brought a house'? Where did you bring it?" And any other fake confusion. wHaT dOeS iT MeAn?/

Oh come on, brought a house is nonsense.