Hi all, I am currently pregnant with my second baby. We have a 2.5 year old. When he was born I felt pressured into having In laws (MIL, FIL and SIL) around three days after giving birth. It was an extremely traumatic birth and I was not in a good way afterwards. They travelled a couple of hours to see us, and then spent the afternoon passing the baby round having multiple photos, basically pretending I wasn’t there. I have always felt uncomfortable about them, due to the comments they make about mine and other peoples weight. For example, during both pregnancies they make a comment every time I eat.. IE ‘oh she’s eating again’. I feel like MIL may have got the message about my feelings as she messaged my partner after the last time and asked if she had upset me. My partner responded and said yes/ explained why. There was no response or apology, she just changed the subject.
I feel I have really come to the end of the road of having any communication or relationship with them. This is difficult as I don’t want it to impact on their relationship with my partner or my Children. I have put my foot down this time and said I’ll only have them to visit the new baby when I am ready and on my
terms.
any tips on how best I can cope with the visit, as if it was up to me they wouldn’t come at all. But I know this isn’t fair or realistic!