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sal96 · 11/07/2024 14:24

Background
There is a family wedding coming up and my MIL has been overly excited to find out what I’m wearing for it. She wanted to come shopping with us for me to find it.

I ended up finding a dress on a day she wasn’t there. We came home with the bag, she was all excited, we showed her and she said NOTHING. Literally just stared at it and said ‘with what colour shoes’ and then I said silver and she didn’t respond. Not even a ‘nice’ ‘lovely’ ‘colour is nice’ or even a ‘I’m not sure I love it but as long as your happy’. I’m fine with honesty, but to completely ignore me 😂

Additionally, and I mean this in the least arrogant way possible, I have way better taste than my MIL, she likes ott glitter sparkles etc and I like elegant, classic styles. Just ranting honestly, found it slightly offensive 😅

OP posts:
Mrsjayy · 11/07/2024 15:10

She doesn't like it or maybe doesn't think it's "fancy" enough but didn't want to be rude. So said nothing dress isn't her style.

MounjaroUser · 11/07/2024 15:06

I want to see the dress. Also I'd like to see the sort of dress your MIL would have chosen for you.

yellowsmileyface · 11/07/2024 15:04

You admit that your styles are very different, so perhaps she just found it a bit underwhelming, not sparkly enough, and didn't want to be rude so said nothing. She may have been brought up being told "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".

IncompleteSenten · 11/07/2024 14:34

It's not rude not to lie.
If I hated something I'd probably do similar because you can tell when someone's lying.

Sillystrumpet · 11/07/2024 14:27

For me the whole thing is a bit teen girl dynamic, but either she didn’t like it or she really did and was envious, who knows,

JimNast · 11/07/2024 14:26

She didn't like the dress because her style is different.
It's not really about the dress is it.

cupcaske123 · 11/07/2024 14:26

Seems like she doesn't like the dress and doesn't want to be rude. That's why she said nothing.

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