Bride in need I really don't know where to turn

I think he must have done this on purpose.

I can't help thinking it would be very difficult to walk down the aisle thinking of his mean comments and then stand opposite listening to him saying his vows and proclaiming his love.

He’s a cunt. Nothing about that will make you stronger.

What doesn’t kill your makes you stronger? No, being with someone like this does kill you slowly over time. Think of the frog in the pot of cold water analogy. The frog is slowly boiled alive and doesn’t realise as it’s so gradual. For the love of god please don’t marry this man. Not even if he’s a millionaire footballer.

As 1492757084 said. This is what you need to do.

He's not worth it. He's not treating you like he wants to love, honour and cherish you, just as you are.
Ask him to examine the marriage vows. (The old fashioned ones) Tell him he has a week to decide whether he can agree to the marriage vows and that if he can't genuinely love you fat then you will call the wedding off and put the house up for sale.

How are you ,OP? X

😂

I can only imagine how hard this is for you. Please remember you are beautiful just how you are, you are stronger than you think you are, you've got this and what ever decision you make whilst so very very hard, you will be OK. Good luck

OP needs to run for the hills as far as I can see; who wants to be with a partner who is that shallow and obviously too far up their own backside to care two hoots about anyone else but themselves

> The end is just the beginning
Running for the hills WILL just open up a new/different can of worms & problems
(the end of problems)

Taking THOSE worms & problems somewhere else
(beginning of a new/different can of worms & problems)-

The OP just NEEDS a different screenin process - keep on running and starting again is just a cycle. NOT resolvin the actual issue, simply moving the problem somewhere else. Screen BETTER so the problem will NOT keep on happenin

Yes i'd say EXACTLY that to them and then i'd call off wedding myself, reclaim any monies already paid and take the kids on holiday, without him.After throwing out his stuff & changing locks of course.What a bloody loser he is.WHY would you ''love him to bits"?? He is an insulting unfeeling moron.

I am glad I am not the only person who hasn't a scooby-doo what @PepsiMaxPerfect is on about; personally I am totally baffled. OP needs to run for the hills as far as I can see; who wants to be with a partner who is that shallow and obviously too far up their own backside to care two hoots about anyone else but themselves

ARE you on GLUE?

I still don't get what the fuck you're on about! And your shouting every second word makes it even harder to read.

By the way.... a marriage is "for life", a wedding is for 1 day.

Not unreasonable. However I suggest a better text would be along the lines of ... x wants to call the wedding off because I haven't achieved his target bridal weight. I have also decided that this is a great suggestion as I don't want to controlled in any way (weight or job). Have a fab time and remember, send him the bill!

The end is JUST the beginning
Do U KNOW the divorce rate
All divorces START with marriage

Exactly - Flirting IS FUN
Get the attention OF guys - ENJOY the drinks, the complements
OP clearly NOT desperate 2 settle down - play the dating game
It does NOT have 2 B goin ANYWHERE

Yes, OP clearly needs to do exactly what her fiance is demanding in order to teach him a lesson. With the added bonus that she may attract a load of other men who are just as shallow as he is.....

A wedding is NOT just a single day.
Anybody CAN B in the pictures.
A wedding IS the rest of UR life.
> use THAT, as motivation.
Go AHEAD with the wedding AS planned.
> Join Slimming World / similar 4 U - lose the weight because U WANT 2
Feel good about URself AGAIN - U WILL also attrack LOT`S of guys - show him WHAT he IS missing - U can THEN do as U please - having WON the battle.
He WILL B balding AND getting a belly - SHOW him WHAT he IS missin out on

Although I can see the practical advantages of getting married to this arsehole from a financial perspective I imagine divorcing him will be a living hell. You are looking at having to suck this sort of bullshit up through the duration of the wedding and honeymoon (with digs left, right and centre about your weight) and then wait a couple of years and he will raise merry hell.

I honestly don’t think its worth it even for the money.

Fuck him off now. Anything is better than letting this odious little man think he has won.

Unfortunately, this is why you should get a ring on your finger before having kids. He’s strung you along for 15 years, I’m guessing putting off the commitment of marriage for one reason or another. And now you’re 6 weeks away from the wedding he’s resorting to personal insults about your weight as the reason to cancel.
I would suggest you could lose the weight of this gaslighting tosser as a way of feeling better. Surely being single is better than tolerating this behaviour?

Believe me if you marry him you will regret it for the rest of your life. I was married to a 'man' like this for 20 years until I saw the light. Ditch him now and save yourself a lot of heartbreak.

That IS probably what he WANTS.
> The aim here IS 2 make U collapse and get rid of HIM.
It IS about the settlement - If U get rid of HIM - he IS the WINNER.

ACTUALLY bloomingbonkerz you r doin a job hates, for SELF

The job doin, just makes feel better and good about self.
There is NO such thing as a selfless good dead

I’m sorry, but is he Perfect? Is he a ripped God, wealthy, kind, charming and totally loves you unconditionally? What? No? Maybe this is what he needs to change to be worthy of marrying you?

He doesn’t love you. You deserve proper love. Stay away from that shit bag of a man.