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I stood at a concert

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MangosteenSoda · 11/07/2024 01:12

Went to a concert and had a seat to the side of the stage. In my experience, everyone stands when the act comes on. This didn’t happen universally, but probably around a quarter of the crowd started by standing. I was a little in front of most of the other ‘standers’ and sort of leaned on my seat a bit to minimise myself I suppose, but wanted to enjoy the songs and not sit.

A few songs in, a lady behind me tapped my arm and asked me to sit because her boyfriend/husband (sitting next to her) couldn’t see. I just said, ‘I’m sorry, but this is a concert’ and carried on standing. I’m pretty small and there were massive screens and a stage. I don’t think I blocked it all out.

A few songs later, the ‘very popular and famous’ song was performed and everyone stood up including the woman and her boyfriend. After that, most of the crowd continued standing and a bunch of people were dancing like windmills and nobody bothered them. The angry man and his girlfriend stormed out at this point.

I don’t have a particular aibu, but I felt that I was only asked to sit because I looked like an easy target to ask. It annoyed me that the woman had to ask for the guy and that it was put to me that I should sit because this guy’s preference was all important. I also felt sad for the woman because she was wearing the band T Shirt (so I assumed she was the fan) and this guy seemed to ruin her night with his moans and complaints while she just seemed to want to dance and enjoy the concert like everyone else.

So, should there be areas at concerts where everyone has to stay seated? I don’t think all the seating areas should be this way because they outnumber the floor and it would make for pretty sedentary concerts but maybe a compromise somewhere?

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TakeOnFlea · 11/07/2024 23:32

"So why not make a large, solely seated accessible area for everyone who wants it to use? Officially disabled people, people in poor health and older people could all use it and there would be no need to restrict access to it because it wouldn't be popular. If there was the occasional healthy person who wants to use it then that wouldn't be a problem because it wouldn't be seen as a perk and wouldn't get full."

Because it wouldn't get full, as you point out. And these concerts are a sell out. I'm sorry but the majority want to get up and dance and that is allowed and expected then that's what will happen. And it's what should happen.

sandyhappypeople · 11/07/2024 23:31

Moro93 · 11/07/2024 03:21

YANBU.
All the concerts I’ve been to (except classical) have most people standing in the seated areas. I go to mainly rock and metal, so there is always a standing area and I never buy seated tickets because I prefer to stand and feel more immersed.

I have had seats when pregnant and sat because of it, most people still stand.
I’ve also had seats when I couldn’t get standing and I stand in the seated area and only sit occasionally for a tiny rest or a drink.

It’s crazy to expect anyone to sit the full way through a concert, even with seated tickets. Not being able to see is likely even with standing tickets, tall people always block your view!

If tall people stand in front of you in the standing section you can move .. you can’t just change seat.

i think if you want to stand and dance you should get a standing ticket, not buy a seated ticket then stand in front of someone for the whole show, it’s selfish.

if you want to stand up from your seat then at least make sure you aren’t blocking anyone’s view, especially someone who may have a problem with standing themselves for a long time, it’s just basic manners.

TakeOnFlea · 11/07/2024 23:28

"Bon Jovi in concert in the 90s....that takes me back. teenage me saw them a few times, they were at their best then and everyone was up and dancing. 🎸 💃"

Them were the days. Amazing. The fireworks and huge wobbly things at the side of the stage. Nobody sat down the whole night. Amazing

Nothings changed. It's a concert, stand and dance with the rest of them!

miniaturepixieonacid · 11/07/2024 23:22

I'll admit that my experience of large music gigs is almost non existent but it seems to me that the venues could sort this issue out so easily.

It's undeniably normal to stand up and dance at a music gig. Even if you don't go to them, that's clear from tv and social media.

What this thread shows is that very few people who go to these big gigs want to sit down. It's more that they have to sit or partially sit due to their health and/or age.

So why not make a large, solely seated accessible area for everyone who wants it to use? Officially disabled people, people in poor health and older people could all use it and there would be no need to restrict access to it because it wouldn't be popular. If there was the occasional healthy person who wants to use it then that wouldn't be a problem because it wouldn't be seen as a perk and wouldn't get full.

WrittenInTheSand · 11/07/2024 23:21

Bon Jovi in concert in the 90s....that takes me back. teenage me saw them a few times, they were at their best then and everyone was up and dancing. 🎸 💃

1offnamechange · 11/07/2024 22:55

FunIsland · 11/07/2024 07:23

Then it’s a seated gig and no one stands up. Surely that’s obvious?

It doesn't seem as if the audience agree with you on that one...
go to about 3mins in, pretty much everyone standing..

Take That London O2 Arena Tour 2024

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pyoJSr52-c0

legacyflygirl · 11/07/2024 22:30

Possinass
What if there isn't standing tickets? For example take that at the 02 in April.

Then it’s a seated gig and no one stands up. Surely that’s obvious?

Seriously?????
I can't imagine what gigs you go to.

Oldfatandfrumpy · 11/07/2024 22:03

Borborygmus · 11/07/2024 21:44

I must admit it's several decades since I last went to a concert, but I don't recall ever seeing people standing in a seated area. Things have clearly changed!

My first concert was Bryan Adams in the late 90s, we were in the seated area and dancing along with pretty much everyone else. It's certainly not new!

Same with Spice girls, Taylor Swift, Take That, Steps, Bon Jovi, Foo Fighters, Fall Out Boy, The Hoosiers, Stereophonics, Oasis, Alanis Morrisette, Blondie, The Killers and many more

allthecoffee100 · 11/07/2024 22:00

At every concert I have ever been to most people in the seated sections stand up for the majority of the concert. YANBU op.

TakeOnFlea · 11/07/2024 21:51

We were standing over 3 decades ago @Borborygmus

Skunk Anansie and Bon Jovi. The stands were bouncing back in the 90s

Borborygmus · 11/07/2024 21:44

I must admit it's several decades since I last went to a concert, but I don't recall ever seeing people standing in a seated area. Things have clearly changed!

1offnamechange · 11/07/2024 21:43

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so, they weren't sitting throughout?
You've posted multiple times on this thread ranting about how completely selfish anyone who stands at a concert is.
Unless it's your daughters, then it's okay?

Oldfatandfrumpy · 11/07/2024 21:42

Hearthfloor · 11/07/2024 15:03

They didn’t pay to see you dance. If you bought a seat and didn’t use it - therefore you had an invalid ticket and should have been evicted from the venue.

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This is literally the most ridiculous thing I have read on Mumsnet! Yep, I'm sure artists would love it if 80% of Wembley stadium (for example) got evicted and only the seated were left

Most people go to HEAR the artist and enjoy the atmosphere, the likelihood of seeing much in a 90,000 capacity stadium is slim. Unless you are next to the stage, the artists themselves are tiny figures in the distance, and most are watching the screens anyway

Sidandnance · 11/07/2024 21:42

This actually causes fights at football games. I always mindful of people behind me but depends on the band. Not as selfish as sitting on someone’s shoulders at Glastonbury. That is really selfish,

TakeOnFlea · 11/07/2024 21:33

"I meant they had seats that’s all. No one challenged me. You wouldn’t have the brains. Asswipe."

🤣🤣🤣 wtf is wrong with you?

Asswipe 🤣 fucking killing myself here. Are you actually the 12 year old kid?

TM1979 · 11/07/2024 21:31

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TM1979 · 11/07/2024 21:30

1offnamechange · 11/07/2024 21:26

what's that got to do with the price of fish? Nobody has suggested that seated tickets don't exist, just that it's normal to stand up and dance when you are in them?
You don't need live video footage of your daughters to prove that the biggest arena in Ireland does in fact have seats.
So....were your daughters sat stationary and unmoving in those seats for 4 hours or did they get up and dance?

😂 Go and have an early night now will you. Fool.

TakeOnFlea · 11/07/2024 21:30

Yeah you said kids "god love em" can't go in the standing area so they "have to sit". Then rambled on about how disappointed they'd be if some "selfish person" stood in front of them at the Eras tour.

You were soon challenged about the fact everyone stood, kids included and said clearly. Yes, my kids were there. SEATED 🤣

Backtracked when I put a picture of lots of standing people and then got a bit mad.

Why?

DancingNotDrowning · 11/07/2024 21:27

TM1979 · 11/07/2024 12:51

Yes, my daughters were at TS in Dublin 2 weeks ago. Seated. I’ve seen the videos.

In a minority of two 😂

1offnamechange · 11/07/2024 21:26

TM1979 · 11/07/2024 13:21

Where did I say everyone was sitting? I said my daughters were there with seated tickets.

what's that got to do with the price of fish? Nobody has suggested that seated tickets don't exist, just that it's normal to stand up and dance when you are in them?
You don't need live video footage of your daughters to prove that the biggest arena in Ireland does in fact have seats.
So....were your daughters sat stationary and unmoving in those seats for 4 hours or did they get up and dance?

TM1979 · 11/07/2024 21:25

1offnamechange · 11/07/2024 21:15

um, have you SEEN the taylor swift concerts? that child would be up screaming and dancing themselves!

have a quick google - the whole stadium is up on their feet pretty much throughout.

weird example to go for...

Yep. My kids were there. No need for Google. Why is it weird?

WiddlinDiddlin · 11/07/2024 21:21

Standing people in seated areas are why I no longer go to gigs.

In the period between 'able to stand at gigs' and 'full time wheelchair user' I needed a seated ticket. All those standing ruined my gig experiences, I stopped going.

I did start going again once I was a wheelchair user, but so many poorly organised gigs where wheelchair users were dumped in the crowd so we were a hazard to others, and ourselves AND couldn't see has put paid to that too.

Enjoy your gigs you standing, able bodied folks, but if you must stand, book a standing ticket? It isn't difficult, its quite a good system really... seats for sitting in, no seats for standing up.

TM1979 · 11/07/2024 21:21

TakeOnFlea · 11/07/2024 21:16

"um, have you SEEN the taylor swift concerts? that child would be up screaming and dancing themselves!"

Noooo, they were all sitting meekly at Dublin. Not a person stepped from their seat. Allegedly 🤣

A bit like FF and SS at Glasgow. Not

Can you repost where someone said everyone was sitting at Taylor Swift please? Would like to see it. Pretty sure no one said it.

easylikeasundaymorn · 11/07/2024 21:17

Would any of the sitters here actually go to find a staff member and complain that the person in front of them was standing dancing and blocking their view?

I am guessing not, because you know they'd laugh in your face. Because it's completely normal and accepted.

TakeOnFlea · 11/07/2024 21:16

"um, have you SEEN the taylor swift concerts? that child would be up screaming and dancing themselves!"

Noooo, they were all sitting meekly at Dublin. Not a person stepped from their seat. Allegedly 🤣

A bit like FF and SS at Glasgow. Not

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