To think dH has well and truly done it for me! Quick responses needed pls!

Have a good time while you’re away. And have a think about what you want out of life. How old are your children?

XH did this to me when he was just off on a 2 week trip. I tried to conclude his silent treatment before he went, but he wasn't having any of it. He walked out of the door at 6am without even saying goodbye.

I got an apology about 3 days in.

Whilst I think you need to box it up while you are away and have fun with your mates, maybe consider couples counselling when you return. If this is a cycle of behaviour, don't ignore it as it may go too far down the line to be redeemed.

Have a great time away.

He's obviously hoping to ruin your trip so don't let him. Get some sleep then go and do your absolute best to have a great time! When you come back, give some serious thought to whether you want to be in a relationship with someone who talks to you like shit. You deserve better.

What a fucker. Leaving on those terms would ruin it for me too.

I agree with PPs that there are bigger problems than this one episode though. You need to get out of think funk where you’re both pissing each other off and sulking.

What will be will be. Let him sulk. Enjoy some distance.

@PrinnyPree · Today 23:45
You don't deserve to be talked to like shit, he is punishing you with the silent treatment and flippant responses and wants you to have a shit time stewing over it and it's working.*
The op says she sulks.
It's the 4 children who are being punished. For something they haven't done and have no control over.

It is you OP. You said you sulk. Sulking is controlling behaviour. Your kids are having to live with you two in a horrible, toxic environment. You need to own your own behaviour here instead of blaming him for it.

You don't deserve to be talked to like shit, he is punishing you with the silent treatment and flippant responses and wants you to have a shit time stewing over it and it's working.

Just inhale and exhale all his bullshit, don't let him ruin your lovely weekend with your friends. Get some sleep, get going in the morning and don't give him another fucking thought.

Just give him a genuinely cheery, non sarcastic goodbye tomorrow and completely ignore this shitty tantrum. Then don't give the petulent cunt another thought this weekend. Don't let him ruin it or drag you into an argument. Have a good sleep and have fun lovely. Xx

This! It's a fun weekend away. You won't have to see him. Put it away in your mind and have a brilliant time away with friends. Deal with it when you get back.

OP seriously just enjoy your 2 days away...relax and more importantly reflect if this is for the rest of your life??? I think not 🙄

I just don’t get the number of adults (mainly men but women too) who do the sulk for days thing. It’s straight out the playground, totally pathetic.

Nope, don’t agree with anyone blaming you here OP. It’s not sulking as he hasn’t apologised for his behaviour. He’s basically expecting you to forgive and forget and move on without his acknowledging that he’s treated you like shit. I wouldn’t speak to him either.
You have been the bigger person and tried to make amends, he’s thrown it back in your face. Go, ignore him. Enjoy your trip and consider the future of your relationship while you’re away.

I honestly don’t think men are that crafty.
Your husband is an arsehole, plain and simple.
Go to bed, have sweet dreams.
Go to the hen and have an epic time.
Hope that the days apart will make your husband appreciate you more than when you left.
Have hope. You’ve gotta have hope.

Tbh I had go re-read your OP.

You are saying you sulk and there is "silent treatment all round".

I have been on the receiving end of silent treatment and it drove me to leave my marriage for me and my DC's sanity.

This isn't good for you or your DC and sounds toxic.

You said you sulk and give him the silent treatment. There isn't only one to blame in this. Definitely get some counselling together if you want to stay together which I suspect you do.

Download Lundy Bancroft’s book Why Does He Do That? onto your phone (Apple Books or kindle app)and read it while you’re on the plane. You’ll return a whole new person!

Ignore the plank - enjoy a break away from his toxicity!

Exactly this. Go and have the best time and worry about it when you come back. Changes clearly need to be made, but have this couple of days to let your hair down. So long as you know your children will be happy and safe, that's the main thing.

Just to add, children pick up on so much tension in houses, even when you try to hide it. When you get home, it's probably time to work out what's best to do for their sakes.

Go, have fun, put him to the back of your mind and focus on you.

When you get back decide if the shit he's pulling is worth more or less than the good stuff for keeping him around.

You both sound as bad as each other.

You have been equally involved in the falling out, equally involved in the silent treatment and now for you’re own benefit (not that of you both, your relationship or your family life) you’ve “sort of” apologised and are unhappy when he’s not followed suit.

Time to behave like adults.

Go off on your friends Hen Weekend and have fun ! Just park the problem with the man child and be thankful it’s not your Hen Weekend!!

Going against the grain, sulking is emotionally abuse. If a woman posted, she'd be told to not give in if her partner is suddenly wanting a reconciliation to enjoy his trip away. I agree that you should concentrate on your break away. But when you get back you need to discuss getting out of the cycle you have both got into. This is a terrible environment for your children, ask anyone who has a parent that sulks.