To think dH has well and truly done it for me! Quick responses needed pls!

Have a great time and deal with him when you get back!

Sulking is never OK.

I understand the frustration, but if you cannot communicate with each other then what’s the point?

Literally what is the point of your relationship? Wouldn’t it just be easier if you had separate places.

Use the time away to reflect on whether this is really what you want, or if it makes you happy, it sounds like a toxic situation - you both sound like you can't communicate or talk to each other, it's not a good relationship

You've had a lot of support despite the fact that we can't possibly know who is at fault. Nobody ever thinks it's them do they.

You admit to sulking for several days yet pp are criticising him for sulking now and not wanting to clear the air before your holiday.

Does he have to accept your apology if he isn't ready to? XH used to behave terribly and get annoyed if I wasn't ready to accept his pretend apology when he delivered it.

Either way, he sounds as if he is done with the relationship. It sounds as if you need couples counselling to find your way back to a healthier dynamic if you both want to save the relationship.

Can you give examples of when he talks to you like shit?

He's a sulky prick that's decided he's going to ruin your weekend. I couldn't be married to someone like that.

Send him a few pics of you looking very happy and bothered, just to annoy him.

literally this, they're assholes 😡Please try to putit out of your mind until you get back , where it will all be waiting for you.. plus the time apart might be goodfor you both, a bit of cooling off etc

hope you can enjoy yourself

Take control of the situation op and show him you won't let him being a dick ruin your time away.

Get a good nights sleep ,get up early and head out as normal

Don't show any sadness or reaction to anything just breezily exit and have an awesome time away

You can deal with him being a twat when you get back and with any luck hel spend the weekend regretting not making the effort to be a grown up

Absolutely. Whats the point with trying to have a conversation with someone who wont converse?

As Shirley Valentine said (yes I have alread referenced her) said "HELLO WALL!!" because with a man like that, you might as well talk to the wall.

Hi @Iusedtobecarmen
I think perhaps people are confusing you being upset after your DH talks to you like shit, with ‘sulking’.

I know that’s the word you used to describe it, but if he is talking to you like shit for no reason, then I wouldn’t say you’re sulking - I would say you’re rightfully pissed off/annoyed and hurt.

He wants you to be upset. He sounds horrible and it's all intentional.
Try and ignore it and have fun on these 2 days. 2 days! That's it and he's doing his best to make it crappy for you.
Don't give him the satisfaction and have fun with your friends.

Is he trying to spoil OP's trip though?

The relationship sounds an all round toxic affair, so he probably just doesn't care enough to make up. I mean, a man that consistently talks to you like shit, probably doesn't give a shiny shit whether you enjoy yourrself or not. In fact, he may just be looking forward to having a wonderful two days out of the heavy atmosphere.

What you can do too, OP, is enjoy your break away from him. Hopefully this is what you need to clear your head and decide how you can both create a better atmosphere for your children. This must be shit for them.

Go and yea joy yourself, put the knobber to the back of your mind

Definitely go and enjoy your trip.

This

Absolutely this! He thinks he will ruin your trip if you don't make up. Don't let him. Send him silly pictures with a glass in hand laughing at the airport with friends....he'll be seething.

Wherever you are going, fucking stay there!

And change your name to Shirley Valentine! Enjoy my lovely xx

Whilst you are away have a serious think about just what exactly you get from this relationship.
Sounds like you both need to grow up too.....

Have a good time OP.

Silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse, and very manipulative. Don’t let him see or sense you’re upset. That’s what he wants. You’ve been together a long time, so he knows how to press your buttons. Focus on your time away. Don’t contact him, unless you have to contact him re the kids. And just have a carefree, stress free break. Don’t let him spoil your holiday. What an arsehole…

Try to enjoy your time away and then come back and reassess whether this is actually somebody you want to be with. He doesnt sound very nice.

If you are continually going to sleep on a row the discontent is bigger than the relationship can withstand.

Go and enjoy your holiday. If he has to look after 4 kids for 2 days he might appreciate you a bit more.
It's possible he has done this on purpose to ruin your time away.
I dont really know why it is preventing you from having fun when this has happened 100 times before. You surely must be used to it.
He'd be as happy as Larry if you didn't go.
If you are going to stay with him you'll either have to harden yourself against his moods or maybe think about separating.

He's an arse.
But you need to reclaim control of your emotions and your responses.
Why does he get to ruin your time away? Park all the stress, get on that plane with a book and a coffee or wee glass of fizz and enjoy every minute of your break.