To think dH has well and truly done it for me! Quick responses needed pls!

Bet you’re fun at parties.

Let people enjoy what they enjoy puritan

I’d say he is pissed about looking after the kids, and you taking time for yourself…so creating fights so he can blame it on you.

He wants to punish you for leaving by letting you know you don’t matter. Leave, forget him completely and when you come back, have a good think about what you want your children’s future relationships to look like, because they’re growing up in a toxic home right now and this is their future.

Divorce him on your return.

I don't know why he doesn't want you to be happy. Life is too short for this kind of relationship.

It is never, never okay for your husband to talk to you like shit! I wouldn’t be sulking the next time he does it, I would look him straight in the face and say ‘what did you just say to me?’. If he has the audacity to repeat himself I would simply say ‘that is highly inappropriate to say to someone you are meant to love and respect’ and then I would simply walk away and get on with my day. As the saying goes, you don’t have to attend every argument you are invited to.

I agree with other comments here. He presses your buttons knowing the reaction he will get wanting that outcome as a means of control. Flip the script and don’t given him what he wants, just calmly say the above and then remove yourself and carry on. Done.

Also think about removing yourself from this permanently!!

As for @Euro24 myself and my husband were only enjoying a Pete Tong set last weekend and Ibiza is one of our favourite places and given half a chance to go to Tomorrowland we’d be there! So, yes, some people do have grey hairs, favourite DJs and go clubbing with their husbands in 2024.

He needs to learn to be more mature and responsible 🙄

Been married 32 years My hubby has major huffs before I go away without him for any length of time. His stress levels go through the roof and I can visibly see the change in his face, his appetite, his stance I could go on. Just learn to accept it and tolerate if you can. But- DONT LET IT STOP YOU. Remember it’s his problem not yours. You can ease it a bit by not reacting too much. I’m going to Spain in September with my besties and if he huffs. Then he huffs. Fuck him 🤣.

Go. Use the time for both of you to reflect (and you to enjoy yourself).
Speak when you return.

He's done this deliberately to spoil it for you x

Go, put him to the back of your mind, have a great time. When you're home, sit him down and have it out with him. Have in uoir mind what outcome you want. Try to enjoy the trip.

I think you obviously only went to ratty towny clubs.

You paint a picture of women dancing round handbags and men in identikit shirts from the high street and Lynx Africa.

Loads of people go out clubbing with their partners – I do, and as young as my teens me and my friends were going out in a group with our boyfriends. Clubs are full of people of all sexes dancing with each other – mixed groups of friends, couples both alone and in groups, and also of course people meeting each other!

I haven’t drank for years, and lots of people who go clubbing/dancing don’t drink alcohol. Near me there are also daytime and early evening rave and dance events for people who want a boogie but also want to get home early!

Just because you frequented seedy clubs just for pulling, doesn’t mean that’s where everyone else is hanging out!

ok @Euro24 we established you think clubbing is only for immature hedonistic drug taking drunks who are on the lookout for sex and new partners, no need to hijack this thread any longer
I wander if you ever eat out since you can eat at home?

See the thing is when I used to go clubbing I rarely saw groups of couples or a couple out, it was always gangs of men and groups of women.
If it's just about dancing and drinking, it sounds like a good thing to do with your boyfriend/husband.

But of course it is not done with partners which makes me think it's about more than these two things, and to be frank, getting rat-arsed in a club when a parent seems really immature.
It's just not what grown ups do.

She said she sulks when he talks to her like shit, I mean that is usually a reason to be upset or am I going fucking insane.

Agree the children are suffering from the toxic environment but it's because of their Dad speaking to their mother like shit!

@Euro24 ”you can dance at home” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
best laugh I’ve had all week 👌🏻 thanks

OFGS this is text book.. did you not know that only the men in a marriage can go away without spouse or kids .. poor didums has to 'do it all' not just the drudge practical stuff but a few days of actual mental load..

Then along came a fight - like manna from heaven - so instead of getting over it in the normal time scale.. . Now he is able to justify an enormous sulk with the added bonus of fucking with your head throughout your time away ..

Transparent in the extreme.

Don't indulge it OP.
Swing out that door tomorrow at 5 am like a teenager and park this bollox until you return .

I'm a married woman.

Clubs are about pulling, simple as that. Everybody knows this. You'd go to pull, that's all they're there for. Nobody really thinks they're about dancing or any of that bullshit. You can dance at home. You can drink at home.
You lose - or should lose-all desire to go to them once you find someone you really like/get married/couple up.

I won't be swayed on this.

If OP has any sense and IF - and I do mean IF- this weekend is about getting drunk and clubbing and not spa days and lunches, she'd be best staying at home if she really wants to save her relationship and attempt to rebuild with her dp.

No point though as the both sound really immature but worth a try I guess.

This relationship sounds like a couple of teenagers. It’s not healthy or mature on either side.

Go and appreciate the great time you have without him, learn from that, and start the process to split when you get back.

you know nothing about me or my behaviour, I don't drink I don't take drugs,
😂😂bet your fun to be around!!

This. Enjoy , have a fabulous time. Don't give him a seconds headspace.

Well why don't we do the same?
Let's move on without talking it through:
Moving on: got your passport ready? Is it a big crowd of friends going? What's the itinerary?
How exciting to be having a few days away!