TRIGGER WARNING - Guy murders girlfriend - everyone says what a great guy he was!

Urgh ....'no one else can. Sorry can't edit on the app

Because in many cases it's a case of 'if I can't have you, no one else can't.
It's the last bit of control a man person has over you.

I don't get why if you are feeling suicidal you have to take others with you. Just end your own life instead.

JFC, just read the gushing posts about him on Stoke On Trent Live!! Making me feel actually sick, what on earth are those people thinking?

His family loved him and can't bring themselves to believe that not only is he dead but that he was an abuser as well. How often do you see people who visit family in prison even when found guilty of the most horrible offenses. It's so much easier for his family to believe he was a victim then see him as he really was because then they'd have to admit they're guilty too, if they'd intervened sooner it might never have come to this

Calm down, I literally just meant it’s a coincidence – not sarcasm. I am referring to the significant criticism online that 1) most news outlets are reporting that those that knew him all say what a great guy he is and 2) that this is a more common narrative when the perpetrator is white.

As a side note, I think most victims and relatives of prefer their attackers come to justice rather than die senselessly beforehand.

It’s never a suicide pact.

They are not driven to it by jealousy because she was having an affair

It is never a sex game gone wrong.

Every journalist needs to read Control by Jame Monkton-Smith

A big coincidence this is posted today with the capture of Kyle Clifford. Exactly the same issue.

Maybe that's why the Police are not revealing much else. Plus if this was the case, they would be referred to the IPCC

How awful. I agree that initially it seemed like a sucidie pact or something. Reporting very sympathetic to him initially. A few comments on the new post are focusing on her and her family rather than his. Sad for them but he was a murderer not the ‘nicest guy/ the best’ etc.

I think also he gets this consideration because he was white. If it was a black man there would be less victim blaming.

Had similar in my family too, so can unfortunately entirely believe it.

He’s a murdering scumbag. She was from my area and she was told numerous times to leave him as he brought her down with his mental health. He was also known to stalk his ex . His family make me absolutely sick. To blame an angel Lauren because they have a murderer in the family is shameful. Everyone knows the truth , she was innocent and should have been protected by police. They let her down they all have .

Oh I can believe it's true.

Unfortunately a relative of mine died in the exact same circumstances and his family were adamant it was a suicide pact/her fault. Even after the inquest made it clear what had happened they refused to admit their son/brother was a murderer.

Yes, as PP have said, it looks like previous reports of DV have been made and the police didn't protect her

Why am I not surprised.

Duffield’s sister posted a vile Facebook post where she said Lauren ‘pushed him over the edge’ and his apparent Uncle also posted that her murder was her fault. Absolutely disgusting and disturbing.

If this is true, they are obviously a very dysfunctional family.

Yes as pp have said, it looks like previous reports of DV have been made and the police didn't protect her.

This. They often present as Mr Nice Guy.

Taken from one ITV news report,
"The body of Daniel Duffield, 24, was found alongside Lauren Evans, 22, at a house on Alpine Drive in Hednesford on June 25th.
Staffordshire Police is treating Lauren's death as a murder, and the force isn't looking for any other party in connection with her death".

They are really downplaying him being a murderer. The Police have referred themselves because it is looking like they under-reacted to a report of DV, days previously. On top of the Hunt murders today, it shows how at risk we still are as women.

The way it was initially reported I wondered whether it was a suicide pact. There was that initial reaction we all have about the death of a couple that I questioned because of the reporting- 'oh, so something else then'.

But no.

I think it's partly because comments were made before it was announced that they were only treating her death as murder (when it was thought to be a double murder), those comments are now out there and can be reused by the media. It's also people trying to rationalise how they knew him with this event, and maybe those things don't match - different people's experiences of one person can be very different.

But it must be very hard for her family and friends as the case has developed.

Atrocious. Is there anything we can do to ask for the artcle to be changed to focus on the young womans life rather than the murderers?