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Neighbours keeping hold of parcels

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Bride2Be25 · 10/07/2024 16:17

AIBU to think it’s a bit rude to hold onto your neighbours parcel when it has been incorrectly delivered to you?!

Royal Mail have delivered my parcel to someone else - all I’ve got to go on from the photo is a pair of feet. I’ve posted on our local FB page but no one has responded so I’ll be knocking on all the neighbours doors until I find it but I just find it so odd that people don’t drop it round ! I see so many people posting on FB asking if people recognise that door or those feet so I’m definitely not alone. I always drop parcels & post off if it’s not mine, surely it’s just a nice neighborly thing to do?!

Also just to add it’s taken me a while to find the tracking details but I can see it was delivered a week ago!

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SoupDragon · 10/07/2024 17:03

If you find the photo on the tracking page, there might be a map underneath. This is from a delivery I had earlier today.

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jessycake · 10/07/2024 17:03

It is possible it was misdelivered much further away , most delivery drivers only go a few doors away . But your contract is with whoever you ordered the item from .

mrsm43s · 10/07/2024 17:02

For every person whinging that a neighbour is holding on to their parcel, there's another person whinging that a neighbour hasn't come to collect their parcel.

The problem is that delivery drivers often do a shit job and don't put a note through the door.

On the whole, though, if it's YOUR parcel, I think it's up to you to do the legwork (including contacting the delivery company if necessary) and go and get your parcel, rather than further inconveniencing the neighbour who is already doing you a favour by taking your parcel in.

Cheeesus · 10/07/2024 17:02

They’ll presume that you have a card saying where it is.

You then need to keep trying them to see if they’re in, not the other way round. They’ve done you the favour by taking it in.

SoupDragon · 10/07/2024 17:01

I'm sure I've had a GPS location supplied for a misdelivered parcel before. It was delivered to the same house number but one street away.

it's worth asking if they can provide this.

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 17:00

How many neighbours do you have ? Just start with the nearest two

Pudmyboy · 10/07/2024 17:00

Debinaround · 10/07/2024 16:58

I'm getting from the op that she doesn't actually know who has her parcel or of course she would have gone to pick it up. She's saying she has had no note from Royal Mail and all she has to go on is the bottom of a door and some socks. Someone has her parcel with her name and address on and knows it doesn't belong to them. I am guessing that they have delivered to the wrong house and the person who has accepted it is keeping it or why wouldn't they have dropped it round saying that they got her parcel by mistake? The op says it was delivered last week.

Royal Mail should know where it was delivered to, and should either tell her or go and get it and deliver it to the OP, especially if they have not said it can be left with a neighbour. It's Royal Mail's problem, failing that, the company OP ordered from as they have a contract with Royal Mail

SoupDragon · 10/07/2024 16:59

MollyJustMight · 10/07/2024 16:34

Entitled OP, go and get your parcel!

Where from? She clearly says that she doesn't know where it is.

Debinaround · 10/07/2024 16:58

I'm getting from the op that she doesn't actually know who has her parcel or of course she would have gone to pick it up. She's saying she has had no note from Royal Mail and all she has to go on is the bottom of a door and some socks. Someone has her parcel with her name and address on and knows it doesn't belong to them. I am guessing that they have delivered to the wrong house and the person who has accepted it is keeping it or why wouldn't they have dropped it round saying that they got her parcel by mistake? The op says it was delivered last week.

Pudmyboy · 10/07/2024 16:57

Bride2Be25 · 10/07/2024 16:32

Also just to make clear we have had no delivery note from Royal Mail - all I have is a photo of someone’s socks !

So you need to contact Royal Mail, or the company you ordered from, to tell them it hasn't been delivered to you, and let them sort it out

afaloren · 10/07/2024 16:37

We had a TV delivered to us once, for a neighbour. No way I was lugging that round. In the end I went and knocked and they were like, ‘Oh yes, we did think that was weird.’ FFS!!

TwinCheeks · 10/07/2024 16:36

Neighbours, everybody needs good neighbours.

MollyJustMight · 10/07/2024 16:34

Entitled OP, go and get your parcel!

Bignanna · 10/07/2024 16:34

Floralnomad · 10/07/2024 16:33

This is the correct answer . If you haven’t been told where it is contact the courier and ask them .

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Easier said than done!

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 16:34

Bride2Be25 · 10/07/2024 16:32

Also just to make clear we have had no delivery note from Royal Mail - all I have is a photo of someone’s socks !

Again, not your neighbours fault

Floralnomad · 10/07/2024 16:33

Jegersur · 10/07/2024 16:31

It’s up to you to go and collect the parcel that someone else has kindly taken in for you.

This is the correct answer . If you haven’t been told where it is contact the courier and ask them .

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Bride2Be25 · 10/07/2024 16:32

Also just to make clear we have had no delivery note from Royal Mail - all I have is a photo of someone’s socks !

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whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 16:32

Bignanna · 10/07/2024 16:31

I had a message left saying my parcel was at number 6
Fine, except that there are three number sixes in 3 different roads! I went to all of them, but I shouldn’t have had to!

Not your neighbours fault is it

PuttingDownRoots · 10/07/2024 16:32

We came back from a weekend away to find a parcel through our letterbox... the intended recipient came round the next day.

It was fir a block of flats so we couldn't deliver it, just had to hope they would guess where it was!

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Bride2Be25 · 10/07/2024 16:31

I WFH so it’s not like whoever it has been delivered to is constantly taking in my parcels - it seems to be a daily occurrence on our village Fb page so I’m just surprised that people don’t figure out after a few days that the intended recipient doesn’t know they have it.

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whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 16:31

They probably think you'll pop round and get it. Perhaps they have limited mobility or covid. If you don't have limited mobility or covid etc then get off your bum and knock on the doors of your neighbours and say hi.

Jegersur · 10/07/2024 16:31

It’s up to you to go and collect the parcel that someone else has kindly taken in for you.

Bignanna · 10/07/2024 16:31

I had a message left saying my parcel was at number 6
Fine, except that there are three number sixes in 3 different roads! I went to all of them, but I shouldn’t have had to!

Pery · 10/07/2024 16:29

My neighbour used to have parcels daily and they all ended up with me. I always told the courier to put a note through their door but I don't think they did. At first I would take the parcel but after they left 4 SUV tyres with me for several days I stopped.

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Bride2Be25 · 10/07/2024 16:29

@CandiedPrincess love the community spirit 😂

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