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Are people just less tolerant of disability accessibility now ?

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Takemeback02 · 10/07/2024 15:46

I have been raising a disabled child 11 years now and the first 5 ish years I never really dealt with many issues regarding to the assistance she received or disability access.
the last 5 years has been a real struggle. Usually transport / theme parks etc

most recently 6 of us went on holiday abroad to a European destination, 2 disabled children who require a lot of extra care with very high medical needs and equipment. We always check the hotels first and we speak to before choosing one that works for us. We picked a hotel that offered reserved disabled Sun beds. We arrived and they offered us 6 ( same as whole party ) but we told them we only needed 3. We chose ones away from the kids sections and to the side of the main pool,
they were reserved everyday. They placed disabled badge stickers on the beds for the duration of our stay. I reckon there
was 3 days out of 10 where we didn’t have an issue with someone taking them. Most would move on once asked but have a little moan as they did it and a few who got obviously very upset.

one of the days was a nightmare, we were at the pool bar and physically saw a women tair off the disabled badge sticker and throw it on the ground. I put it back on before going to get the kids
changed and when I got back lady was on bed and had removed the sticker again and lobbed it on the floor.

I just feel the last few years there is an obvious difference in peopls
Tolerance for accessibility or has it always been this way ?

don’t get me wrong I know from the past actual accessibility had got far better but it just feels like it annoys people now.

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est1980 · 24/08/2024 00:29

HauntedbyMagpies · 21/08/2024 00:15

This sigh

It's definitely getting worse on this thread. There are some fab ppl here, but they ignorance is over shadowing them and my head hurts. The moment someone said blue badge holders getting free parking is giving disabled people an advantage, I knew it was time to leave...

est1980 · 24/08/2024 00:26

Rosscameasdoody · 23/08/2024 20:02

Also, an injury or illness doesn’t necessarily meet the criteria of ‘disability’ so doesn’t have the same legal protections.

Actually it does. To qualify as a disability under the Equality Act 2010, which confers legally protected characteristics, you only have to meet the conditions of ‘substantial’ which refers to the ability to carry out normal everyday activities, and ‘long term’, which means expected to last 12 months or more. And you don’t have to have had a disability for three years before applying for a blue badge - the badges are issued for a standard three years and the eligibility for some (not all) LAs states the disability has to be likely to last the full three years, not that you have to have had it for three years before applying.

I know of a few cases where this has been successfully challenged because for PIP claimants, 8 points in the moving around category or 10 points for descriptor E in the planning and following a journey category automatically qualifies you for a badge and not all PIP awards are for three years.

Edited

Not sure about everywhere else, but my LA dates to the end of your PIP award if you have it on automatic pip grounds. If you have it on any other grounds it's 3 years.

LakieLady · 23/08/2024 22:26

NotSayingImBatman · 10/07/2024 16:09

Not surprising when British citizens in particular have spent the past 14 years being told the disabled are all work shy drains on the public purse and if they’d just do the decent thing and die, then everyone else would be better off.

So true. When successive govts have spun disability as the lifestyle choice of scroungers, it's hardly surprising that there is so little consideration or empathy for the struggles that people with disabilities face.

est1980 · 23/08/2024 21:55

ibelieveshereallyistgedevil · 22/08/2024 17:16

If you aren’t disabled you pay for a family day out, and can spend the day with your family.

If you are disabled you pay for the same family day out but can’t spend the day with your family because they aren’t allowed on the ride with you… so you queue with one companion in the accessible queue and the rest of the family queue separately in the main queue.

Then all the ignorant people bitch, moan and tut at you because they think you have something they don’t 🤦‍♀️

Yh we do have something you don't...and trust me. You don't want it. If I could trade my blue badge, free companion tickets and q jumps, and disability, with a fit healthy person's health, I'd do it immediately. Seems like people want the adaptations made for people who are suffering to help make their disability not a factor invruin their day-but obviously, still with keep their good health 🤦🏽‍♀️ seems to be the general mood.

est1980 · 23/08/2024 21:42

Gogogo12345 · 23/08/2024 17:48

As below

That's exactly what I Said. It has to be something this lasts or is expected to last at least 3 years...not you have to be ill for 3 years before you get it 🤦🏽‍♀️

ibelieveshereallyistgedevil · 23/08/2024 20:37

Rosscameasdoody · 23/08/2024 20:02

Also, an injury or illness doesn’t necessarily meet the criteria of ‘disability’ so doesn’t have the same legal protections.

Actually it does. To qualify as a disability under the Equality Act 2010, which confers legally protected characteristics, you only have to meet the conditions of ‘substantial’ which refers to the ability to carry out normal everyday activities, and ‘long term’, which means expected to last 12 months or more. And you don’t have to have had a disability for three years before applying for a blue badge - the badges are issued for a standard three years and the eligibility for some (not all) LAs states the disability has to be likely to last the full three years, not that you have to have had it for three years before applying.

I know of a few cases where this has been successfully challenged because for PIP claimants, 8 points in the moving around category or 10 points for descriptor E in the planning and following a journey category automatically qualifies you for a badge and not all PIP awards are for three years.

Edited

Actually it does

I said illness or injury doesn’t necessarily meet the definition of disability- a sprained ankle is painful to walk on and slows you down for a while, but likely won’t meet the ‘substantial’ or ‘long term’ threshold to be treated as a disability. A grade 3 compound fracture to your femur may well meet those criteria.

And you don’t have to have had a disability for three years before applying for a blue badge - the badges are issued for a standard three years and the eligibility for some (not all) LAs states the disability has to be likely to last the full three years, not that you have to have had it for three years before applying.

Yes I know that- my response was to a poster whom I had misunderstood- I took what she was saying at face value (I thought she was saying in her LA the three year thing was true), and said it isn’t true as far as I know but even if it was it wouldn’t mean BB holders are being given an advantage.

Rosscameasdoody · 23/08/2024 20:35

ibelieveshereallyistgedevil · 23/08/2024 20:22

No! So there are more of them 😬

Yep. CC hospital has lots of parking by the entrance but it’s a long way to access the hospital itself - too far to walk with mobility issues, wheelchair access is hard because you have to wheel in the road most of the time because pavements are narrow with few dropped kerbs. The disabled car park is further in towards the main entrance but it’s minuscule - nowhere near adequate.

The A&E car park is also very small and there’s only a couple of disabled bays - it’s jammed most of the time, and there’s no access from the main hospital corridor to A&E. You have to go around the outside of the hospital and follow a narrow path, which is a nightmare for wheelchair users. I do find it odd that a hospital with such a large catchment area has put so little thought into disabled access. Many of the consulting rooms can’t accommodate a wheelchair either, so the staff have to play musical chairs !!
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Ratfinkstinkypink · 23/08/2024 20:35

Sirzy · 23/08/2024 19:45

At alder hey have they changed the parking so you scan the barcode on the blue badge on your way out. Not perfect obviously but easier than most hospitals and doesn’t involve taking the badge out of the car.

our local hospital you register the badge and it’s linked to the car registration which is ok but obviously an issue if you have to use a different car!

We register vehicles too and you can add two which does help a bit.

Sirzy · 23/08/2024 20:34

That doesn’t suprise me. Thankfully at alder hey it’s at the barrier so you just scan on the way out. But we have visited some hospitals where just trying to figure how to do it is a mammoth task!

itsgettingweird · 23/08/2024 20:32

Sirzy · 23/08/2024 19:45

At alder hey have they changed the parking so you scan the barcode on the blue badge on your way out. Not perfect obviously but easier than most hospitals and doesn’t involve taking the badge out of the car.

our local hospital you register the badge and it’s linked to the car registration which is ok but obviously an issue if you have to use a different car!

Our local hospital has done this too.

Guess where the machines to pay or scan are?

Oh yes - right at the far end of the car park to half the blue badge spaces (ironically because they are outside the rehabilitation centre) where you can't park near to scan it.

So you work at rehabilitation centre.
Go in.
Walk to main entrance the other side of car park to scan BB.
Walk back to rehabilitation centre to collect car.

Ok, many visitors will have a companion with them. But the lack of logic to it is amazing.

Luckily now it's been pointed out (probably 20 times a day) you can now give your BB number to reception in the rehabilitation centre as you sign in.

ibelieveshereallyistgedevil · 23/08/2024 20:22

Rosscameasdoody · 23/08/2024 19:49

Countess of Chester by any chance ?

No! So there are more of them 😬

Rosscameasdoody · 23/08/2024 20:02

ibelieveshereallyistgedevil · 22/08/2024 17:28

The rules for BB vary from LA to LA- that isn’t the case everywhere.

Also, disabled people haven’t been given an advantage in your example;

if you have to have been having problems for 3 years to get a badge, then by the time disabled people have been given a BB they have struggled for 3 years before they were helped- twice as long as the injured or ill people in your example, who are better after 18 months. Disabled people don’t get better.

Also, an injury or illness doesn’t necessarily meet the criteria of ‘disability’ so doesn’t have the same legal protections.

Also, an injury or illness doesn’t necessarily meet the criteria of ‘disability’ so doesn’t have the same legal protections.

Actually it does. To qualify as a disability under the Equality Act 2010, which confers legally protected characteristics, you only have to meet the conditions of ‘substantial’ which refers to the ability to carry out normal everyday activities, and ‘long term’, which means expected to last 12 months or more. And you don’t have to have had a disability for three years before applying for a blue badge - the badges are issued for a standard three years and the eligibility for some (not all) LAs states the disability has to be likely to last the full three years, not that you have to have had it for three years before applying.

I know of a few cases where this has been successfully challenged because for PIP claimants, 8 points in the moving around category or 10 points for descriptor E in the planning and following a journey category automatically qualifies you for a badge and not all PIP awards are for three years.

Rosscameasdoody · 23/08/2024 19:49

ibelieveshereallyistgedevil · 23/08/2024 19:34

Hospital parking is absolutely bonkers in every possible way in my experience.

Our major hospital, which has the only a&e to serve many major towns… doesn’t have an a&e carpark, or designated drop off space. If you stop anywhere near the foot entrance to it you are blocking the ambulances.

So You have to park in the main car park… but then there isn’t step free access to a&e- so wheelchair users have to go through the ambulance road and hope for the best.

Countess of Chester by any chance ?

Sirzy · 23/08/2024 19:45

At alder hey have they changed the parking so you scan the barcode on the blue badge on your way out. Not perfect obviously but easier than most hospitals and doesn’t involve taking the badge out of the car.

our local hospital you register the badge and it’s linked to the car registration which is ok but obviously an issue if you have to use a different car!

SerendipityJane · 23/08/2024 19:40

How do the cameras work?

Not 100% sure. But they are on the ticket machine at the barrier and you can hold a BB up to them in the times there's no attendant. All I know is there were some very upset people when it was introduced with a load of reasons why the person the badge was for wasn't in the are and anyway the badge was a photocopy and it was out of date.

No matter how wonderful some people are, there are scum out there.

ibelieveshereallyistgedevil · 23/08/2024 19:34

Ratfinkstinkypink · 23/08/2024 18:37

The best example is a privately run car park for a nearby hospital. They went from free BB parking (which was about 25% of the total spaces) to having to go to a booth with the real BB (no copies) to get a card. There are cameras on the exit to check the person the BB applies for is actually in the car.

How do the cameras work? My little one is now in a wheelchair in our WAV but I am not sure he'd be easily visible and on the few occasions we use the car he rear faces. I wish our hospital had 25% BB spaces, if they put a mobile scanner in the car park it goes in the already minimal BB spaces. They recently took even more away in a car park re-jig. I have had to park a mile away and walk in before now which is OK for clinic appointments but not when he's sick and needs reviewing on PAU.

Hospital parking is absolutely bonkers in every possible way in my experience.

Our major hospital, which has the only a&e to serve many major towns… doesn’t have an a&e carpark, or designated drop off space. If you stop anywhere near the foot entrance to it you are blocking the ambulances.

So You have to park in the main car park… but then there isn’t step free access to a&e- so wheelchair users have to go through the ambulance road and hope for the best.

SerendipityJane · 23/08/2024 19:30

TigerRag · 23/08/2024 18:53

How do the cameras work when you can park in a BB space work dropping the owner off?

Drop off spaces aren't in the car park. They are outside the main entrance to the hospital.

TigerRag · 23/08/2024 18:53

How do the cameras work when you can park in a BB space work dropping the owner off?

Ratfinkstinkypink · 23/08/2024 18:37

The best example is a privately run car park for a nearby hospital. They went from free BB parking (which was about 25% of the total spaces) to having to go to a booth with the real BB (no copies) to get a card. There are cameras on the exit to check the person the BB applies for is actually in the car.

How do the cameras work? My little one is now in a wheelchair in our WAV but I am not sure he'd be easily visible and on the few occasions we use the car he rear faces. I wish our hospital had 25% BB spaces, if they put a mobile scanner in the car park it goes in the already minimal BB spaces. They recently took even more away in a car park re-jig. I have had to park a mile away and walk in before now which is OK for clinic appointments but not when he's sick and needs reviewing on PAU.

Gogogo12345 · 23/08/2024 17:48

est1980 · 23/08/2024 16:28

I've never heard if a 3 year rule-rhe badge is awarded for 3 years, they might want the condition to be likely to last fir those 3 years, but you don't have to be disabled for 3 years to get one. The fact it's a condition that you can or will recover from will like mean it won't qualify.

As below

Are people just less tolerant of disability accessibility now ?
est1980 · 23/08/2024 16:33

Noras · 22/08/2024 16:14

I could get the theme park thing if they did a morning at least when it was low crowds disabled only. That makes sense. Or if people did a day when it was completely uncrowded eg a Monday in school term. But for instance going on a Saturday in August and then wanting to avoid the queue - what’s the point - the place is overall heaving.
those 2 rides of 10 minutes are suffered for with 7 hours of crowds, smells, noise etc

I am not saying all ASD is the same - clearly it’s not.

I can’t distinguish from a crowded throng on a path and a queue. So as a way of example of you had to queue to see the king jt would be challenging but the argument seems to be that it’s not challenging to walk down Pall Mall on Coronation day to see the King ( as it’s not a queue just busy ) and you might just might be able to find a quiet spot for 10 minutes that has 6 chairs for thousands of people and you seem content to risk it despite the chances of getting into that quiet spot are remote given the sheer numbers of ASD people there are likely to be there also wanting to see the King.

Back to my analogy I would not dispute that those 2 minutes seeing the King are joyous I just don’t understand how you can mange the wall to wall slow moving throng of thousands of people but not the queue. The whole thing experience surely is one large queue in its way …

a 6 seats in a quiet zone to serve all the likely hundreds of people with ASD who have different types of ASD that means they can enjoy theme parks is not a lot. What happens if this is also crowded? That’s a huge gamble to go there is it not? And for what ? 2 or 4 rides?

I can even get it if you go to a really busy place but have a SEN camp in the centre eg a festival. Disability groups I know do that but they don’t tend to then wander around except really briefly - that area is their shelter/ island where they all stick together.

  • but a theme park you have to walk around in the same crowd you are trying to avoid by not queuing.

I mean Thorpe Park is heaving and even none SSn people find it all unpleasant

It seems as crazy to me as taking my DS to NY - he loves travel but we know it’s going to be sheer hell and no accommodation can make that better.

Perhaps just because you have ASD not every needs to skip the queue because as people keep saying when you see someone with ASD you have seen someone with ASD so equally when you see someone with ASD who needs to skip a queue you have seen someone with ASD who needs to skip a queue - maybe not all do. I just think of someone can go to Thorpe Park on a Saturday in August and manage to just get through the entry way ..:

And if you have no sensory need but just trouble with communication eg pragmatic language or semantics / receptive that does not stop queueing. It’s the sensory issue that are the problem in this context

So my DS qualifies for a blue badge but I don’t have one as we don’t need it - as I can escort him door to door but when he does need it o will get one.

Just because you qualify does not mean you need to use it.

Edited

Why exactly do we have to make sure YOU agree that certain people need to not q. If you don't understand that's on you. Do some research to learn about all the different was nd can affect people. But this we I could understand bit if this, or my dc couldn't manage that is just a load of waffle at this point. You don't understand how my son could cope with being in a theme park, but is unable to q for a long time-so in that case I'm playing the system because it just doesn't make sense to you? Do you hear yourself?

est1980 · 23/08/2024 16:28

ibelieveshereallyistgedevil · 22/08/2024 17:28

The rules for BB vary from LA to LA- that isn’t the case everywhere.

Also, disabled people haven’t been given an advantage in your example;

if you have to have been having problems for 3 years to get a badge, then by the time disabled people have been given a BB they have struggled for 3 years before they were helped- twice as long as the injured or ill people in your example, who are better after 18 months. Disabled people don’t get better.

Also, an injury or illness doesn’t necessarily meet the criteria of ‘disability’ so doesn’t have the same legal protections.

I've never heard if a 3 year rule-rhe badge is awarded for 3 years, they might want the condition to be likely to last fir those 3 years, but you don't have to be disabled for 3 years to get one. The fact it's a condition that you can or will recover from will like mean it won't qualify.

Gogogo12345 · 22/08/2024 22:49

ibelieveshereallyistgedevil · 22/08/2024 17:28

The rules for BB vary from LA to LA- that isn’t the case everywhere.

Also, disabled people haven’t been given an advantage in your example;

if you have to have been having problems for 3 years to get a badge, then by the time disabled people have been given a BB they have struggled for 3 years before they were helped- twice as long as the injured or ill people in your example, who are better after 18 months. Disabled people don’t get better.

Also, an injury or illness doesn’t necessarily meet the criteria of ‘disability’ so doesn’t have the same legal protections.

The disability has to be expected to last at least 3 years. Not that someone has struggled for 3 years previous

I know that's the rules in Essex.

FranceIsWhereItsAt · 22/08/2024 20:15

EllenLRipley · 10/07/2024 18:05

A woman pushed me on a plane in Feb, actually pushed me. None of us can go anywhere because the aisle was blocked with people putting things in the overhead bins. I said "could you be careful, I have MS" and she replied "Well I ain't got nothing and if you're a crip you need to get out of my way"
The cabin crew did nothing. Nothing at all.

OMG! This is absolutely DISGUSTING! However, I'm not surprised cabin crew did nothing, as having gone on a flight with Ryanair a while back, (I am disabled), when boarding I was told by a member of the cabin crew, that I must take the window seat. I asked her why, and she looked rather sheepish. I quickly cottoned on, and said 'Oh, I get it, it's because I'm disabled, and you think I might slow others down if we had to get out, but it's OK for me to die, is that it? Very shamefaced, she admitted that that was basically the case! Imagine how THAT made me feel!

ATenShun · 22/08/2024 20:10

Takemeback02 · 22/08/2024 20:02

I was at the bar because that’s where you get drinks from- are you expecting people to not drink in the heat all day because they have a sun bed ? Or just the disabled ones ?

if was a need not a want - we did not care where the sunbeds were located as long as we had space to take DD back to who has Mutiple life saving tubes.

Thank you for your reply. It was because you said somebody removed the stickers while you were at the bar, so I thought they were unattended.

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