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To wish Sir Keir and his wife would not hold hands when working

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BeaQuiet · 10/07/2024 10:23

They've arrived in Washington DC on official business clutching hands like the Macrons, the Obamas and the Sussexes.

AiBU to find it a bit cringey?

And before anyone asks, yes I do have bigger things to worry about but I fancy a chat.

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Rightsraptor · 10/07/2024 12:49

It looks ridiculous at their age. Harry and Meghan were the only royals holding hands during the late queen's funeral etc.

If Victoria Starmer is still employed by the NHS I hope she's not getting extra paid leave because of being PM's wife.

CowTown · 10/07/2024 12:48

Lifeomars · 10/07/2024 12:40

On the rare occasions I have taken any notice of how leaders and their spouses conduct themselves on joint appearances I have seen that most of them do hold hands. Just out of interest did Melania hold Trump's hand when they did appearances as President and First Lady ?, I always get the impression that she loathes him. She was nowhere to be seen during his recent court troubles and even when he was in office she seemed to be doing things under duress.

She slapped it away. There are multiple occasions on video.

Did Melania just slap Donald Trump’s hand away?

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7BKL6EGWwPE

CassieMaddox · 10/07/2024 12:47

BIossomtoes · 10/07/2024 11:20

Talking of PDAs

😂

EasternStandard · 10/07/2024 12:43

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 10/07/2024 12:42

Oh FFS, can we stop pretending this is a Cinderella rags to riches story.

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Made me laugh

CowTown · 10/07/2024 12:43

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 10/07/2024 10:24

I find it nice. Not at all cringey.

When Trump held Theresa May’s hand that was proper cringey.

I quite liked it when Trump tried to hold Melania’s had and she slapped it away. 😆

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 10/07/2024 12:42

AutismHelp1980 · 10/07/2024 10:29

I bet his wife thinks she’s in some parallel universe! I know I would, one day working in the NHS the next meeting fellow puppets of the most powerful
people in the world! I mean who really runs the world?!

Oh FFS, can we stop pretending this is a Cinderella rags to riches story.

WarmSausageTea · 10/07/2024 12:41

OverheardInLidl · 10/07/2024 12:08

I'm showing my age a bit here 😁but does anyone remember a TV series called Hart to Hart? It starred Stefanie Powers and Robert Wagner as a married couple working as detectives? Anyway, that's what comes to mind whenever I see these couples who work together and go everywhere hand in hand 😆

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I was just saying today that they should do a remake of this with Grant Shapps and Penny Mardaunt, pootling around the Home Counties solving crimes with their faithful shaggy mutt Bojo.

Lifeomars · 10/07/2024 12:40

On the rare occasions I have taken any notice of how leaders and their spouses conduct themselves on joint appearances I have seen that most of them do hold hands. Just out of interest did Melania hold Trump's hand when they did appearances as President and First Lady ?, I always get the impression that she loathes him. She was nowhere to be seen during his recent court troubles and even when he was in office she seemed to be doing things under duress.

whoamI00 · 10/07/2024 12:40

YABU, I think you may just dislike them

ItsVeryHyacinthBucket · 10/07/2024 12:39

Not at all. I do find it utterly reprehensible that Rihsi Sunak kept his billionaire wife hidden away from all of us though, because apparently she has more important things to do (hoarding her unspeakable, revolting wealth that even a small part of which would eradicate child poverty in the UK) than take her place in number 10.

Cantalever · 10/07/2024 12:39

Totally agree with you OP. Its unprofessional if he is at work, and why is he taking his wife to work anyway? Will we be treated to seeing Rachel Reeves hand in hand with her husband when she is working? Let's hope not. The Starmer thing smacks of woman as appendage.

MadameMassiveSalad · 10/07/2024 12:39

Meh

TheFairyCaravan · 10/07/2024 12:39

I can’t walk unaided so with that comes not bejng able to walk hand in hand with DH. It’s one of the things I miss the most. Let anyone who wants to hold hands crack on, because you never know when it might be taken away.

SpringYay · 10/07/2024 12:37

Why is this so important to you? I'm more concerned about how he performs as Prime Minister, not that he holds his partner's hand in public. Seriously, there is far more to be concerned about.

Tittyfilarious · 10/07/2024 12:36

I don't mind them doing it I thought I'd read somewhere that his wife doesn't like the limelight .my dh doesn't always hold my hand everywhere but if we are at something like a works party and he knows i don't feel comfortable he's either holding my hand or has an arm around me to help

beryldaperil · 10/07/2024 12:33

Thank you @Longma , that is a lovely collage!

Good grief @OP. Let there be love! 🎵

dutysuite · 10/07/2024 12:32

Yes nice in private but not at work, and why are spouses there?

beryldaperil · 10/07/2024 12:28

Let's support them with holding hands, along with the Obamas, the Macrons etc of this world who are married and showing that marriages are good for society. The Starmers, the Obamas and the Macrons all chose well. And that should be celebrated.

Marriages are good, healthy and to be celebrated.

OverheardInLidl · 10/07/2024 12:27

willWillSmithsmith · 10/07/2024 12:20

Absolutely I do! 😁

Its sweet when understated. Cringey when overstated.

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Agreed. My mum used to say, couples who act overly affectionate in public constantly are usually trying to hide the fact that there are problems in the marital home.

MrHarleyQuin · 10/07/2024 12:25

Newusernameforthiss · 10/07/2024 12:22

You're right, it would be much better if they did a full on back of the bike sheds style snog WITH TONGUES and he grabbed her bum 👍 maybe while shouting "article five this, Sunak," and flicking the Vs

In all seriousness, it's a bit weird they bring spouses to these meetings, but a handhold is a nice coupley gesture that isn't too cringe so fine by me 😂

Quite. You'd think they presented like Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker. Urgh.

willWillSmithsmith · 10/07/2024 12:24

Hoppinggreen · 10/07/2024 10:45

They held hands not genitals, its entirely appropriate and quite nice

😂 this made me laugh out loud.

Mulhollandmagoo · 10/07/2024 12:23

Janiie · 10/07/2024 12:20

Catapulted? He campaigned for it, it can't have been a shock. You make out he's like a winner or the XFactor and had no idea what life in the public eye would be like.

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It's still a huge adjustment for them, their lives are completely different. It will take some getting used to, particularly for his wife.

Newusernameforthiss · 10/07/2024 12:22

You're right, it would be much better if they did a full on back of the bike sheds style snog WITH TONGUES and he grabbed her bum 👍 maybe while shouting "article five this, Sunak," and flicking the Vs

In all seriousness, it's a bit weird they bring spouses to these meetings, but a handhold is a nice coupley gesture that isn't too cringe so fine by me 😂

MrHarleyQuin · 10/07/2024 12:21

Janiie · 10/07/2024 12:20

Catapulted? He campaigned for it, it can't have been a shock. You make out he's like a winner or the XFactor and had no idea what life in the public eye would be like.

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Of course it's a shock. You can prepare all your life but nothing would quite prepare you for being quite so in the public eye as being the Prime Minister.

Unless you'd been Princess Diana in a past life, perhaps.

ultracrepidarianna · 10/07/2024 12:21

It’s all PR. They are trained in body language. Holding hands basically shows stability.